Ilse Gevaert
@growingwithilse.bsky.social
Psychologist & Coach | Creative Soul | Neurodiversity Advocate
📚 Resilient Minds Blog | Bite-Size Psychology
www.resilientminds.blog
📚 Resilient Minds Blog | Bite-Size Psychology
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Ilse Gevaert
@growingwithilse.bsky.social
· Dec 18
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Incorporating self-regulation exercises into your daily routine is essential for promoting calmness, emotional regulation, and overall well-being.
Did you know that most self-regulation exercises only take between 2 and 10 seconds?
resilientminds.blog/building-men...
#MentalHealth
Did you know that most self-regulation exercises only take between 2 and 10 seconds?
resilientminds.blog/building-men...
#MentalHealth
When someone repeatedly accuses you of things that don’t fit,
it’s worth pausing.
Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.
It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained.
We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.
Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.
It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained.
We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.
February 5, 2026 at 10:56 PM
When someone repeatedly accuses you of things that don’t fit,
it’s worth pausing.
Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.
It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained.
We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.
Narcissistic personalities often project onto others what they cannot tolerate in themselves.
It’s how blame is shifted, and power is maintained.
We see this in relationships, workplaces, and on a public level.
Executive functioning is one of those terms people hear often. Especially in conversations about ADHD, autism, giftedness, burnout, trauma, or learning differences.
But few people are ever taught what it actually means.
Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”
But few people are ever taught what it actually means.
Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”
February 4, 2026 at 3:17 PM
Executive functioning is one of those terms people hear often. Especially in conversations about ADHD, autism, giftedness, burnout, trauma, or learning differences.
But few people are ever taught what it actually means.
Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”
But few people are ever taught what it actually means.
Executive functions are your brain’s “management system.”
Most people don’t ignore abuse of power because they’re naïve.
They ignore it because they believe in a fair world.
🧠 Our brains want things to make sense.
This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should.
#AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics
They ignore it because they believe in a fair world.
🧠 Our brains want things to make sense.
This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should.
#AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics
January 28, 2026 at 5:58 PM
Most people don’t ignore abuse of power because they’re naïve.
They ignore it because they believe in a fair world.
🧠 Our brains want things to make sense.
This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should.
#AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics
They ignore it because they believe in a fair world.
🧠 Our brains want things to make sense.
This is what keeps people quiet for far longer than they should.
#AbuseOfPower #Leadership #Psychology #Gaslighting #PowerDynamics
Rest Isn’t Easy for Everyone
For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative. It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel...
#Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard #NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #ImpostorSyndrome
For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative. It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel...
#Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard #NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #ImpostorSyndrome
January 20, 2026 at 2:12 PM
Rest Isn’t Easy for Everyone
For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative. It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel...
#Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard #NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #ImpostorSyndrome
For many people, rest doesn’t feel restorative. It feels unsettling, anxiety-provoking, or even dangerous.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/if-rest-feel...
#Perfectionism #HighAchievers #RestIsHard #NervousSystemRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #ImpostorSyndrome
It’s not rudeness.
It’s not arrogance.
It’s not “bad social skills.”
It’s often gifted cognition.
Ever thought: “I’m social… just not like this.”
You’re not alone.
#SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds
It’s often gifted cognition.
Ever thought: “I’m social… just not like this.”
You’re not alone.
#SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds
January 8, 2026 at 11:01 PM
It’s not rudeness.
It’s not arrogance.
It’s not “bad social skills.”
It’s often gifted cognition.
Ever thought: “I’m social… just not like this.”
You’re not alone.
#SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds
It’s often gifted cognition.
Ever thought: “I’m social… just not like this.”
You’re not alone.
#SmallTalk #NeurodivergentMinds #GiftedMinds
🧠 ADHD isn’t a motivation problem.
It’s an executive function challenge.
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’re not failing.
You don’t need more discipline.
You need better systems.
#ADHD #ExecutiveFunction #Neurodiversity #ADHDLife #Neuroaffirming #WorkWithYourBrain #ADHDSupport
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’re not failing.
You don’t need more discipline.
You need better systems.
#ADHD #ExecutiveFunction #Neurodiversity #ADHDLife #Neuroaffirming #WorkWithYourBrain #ADHDSupport
January 8, 2026 at 12:19 AM
🧠 ADHD isn’t a motivation problem.
It’s an executive function challenge.
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’re not failing.
You don’t need more discipline.
You need better systems.
#ADHD #ExecutiveFunction #Neurodiversity #ADHDLife #Neuroaffirming #WorkWithYourBrain #ADHDSupport
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’re not failing.
You don’t need more discipline.
You need better systems.
#ADHD #ExecutiveFunction #Neurodiversity #ADHDLife #Neuroaffirming #WorkWithYourBrain #ADHDSupport
From Narcissists to Borderlines — Why You Can Always Expect Drama
Cluster B personality disorders (borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial) are often misunderstood, and even more painful to deal with when it’s someone you love.
👉 Read here: resilientminds.blog/from-narciss...
Cluster B personality disorders (borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial) are often misunderstood, and even more painful to deal with when it’s someone you love.
👉 Read here: resilientminds.blog/from-narciss...
December 10, 2025 at 4:44 PM
From Narcissists to Borderlines — Why You Can Always Expect Drama
Cluster B personality disorders (borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial) are often misunderstood, and even more painful to deal with when it’s someone you love.
👉 Read here: resilientminds.blog/from-narciss...
Cluster B personality disorders (borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial) are often misunderstood, and even more painful to deal with when it’s someone you love.
👉 Read here: resilientminds.blog/from-narciss...
20% of people are neurodivergent.
That’s not an accident.
Nature intended our species to include out-of-the-box thinkers: such as people with Dyslexia, ADHD, Autism, …
The innovators, the pattern-spotters, the risk-challengers, the deep feelers, the curious wanderers.
#Neurodiversity
That’s not an accident.
Nature intended our species to include out-of-the-box thinkers: such as people with Dyslexia, ADHD, Autism, …
The innovators, the pattern-spotters, the risk-challengers, the deep feelers, the curious wanderers.
#Neurodiversity
November 25, 2025 at 5:08 PM
20% of people are neurodivergent.
That’s not an accident.
Nature intended our species to include out-of-the-box thinkers: such as people with Dyslexia, ADHD, Autism, …
The innovators, the pattern-spotters, the risk-challengers, the deep feelers, the curious wanderers.
#Neurodiversity
That’s not an accident.
Nature intended our species to include out-of-the-box thinkers: such as people with Dyslexia, ADHD, Autism, …
The innovators, the pattern-spotters, the risk-challengers, the deep feelers, the curious wanderers.
#Neurodiversity
Neurodivergent people are living in systems never built for them.
When we force only one way of learning, working, or being, we lose the brilliance of the minds built for innovation, depth, creativity, and truth.
#Neurodiversity
When we force only one way of learning, working, or being, we lose the brilliance of the minds built for innovation, depth, creativity, and truth.
#Neurodiversity
November 23, 2025 at 2:56 PM
Neurodivergent people are living in systems never built for them.
When we force only one way of learning, working, or being, we lose the brilliance of the minds built for innovation, depth, creativity, and truth.
#Neurodiversity
When we force only one way of learning, working, or being, we lose the brilliance of the minds built for innovation, depth, creativity, and truth.
#Neurodiversity
Your body isn’t a machine you can push past the red line.
Rest is not a reward.
Rest is regulation.
Rest is repair.
Rest is how your nervous system recalibrates so you can think clearly, feel safely, and show up as your authentic self.
#rest #mentalhealth
Rest is not a reward.
Rest is regulation.
Rest is repair.
Rest is how your nervous system recalibrates so you can think clearly, feel safely, and show up as your authentic self.
#rest #mentalhealth
November 13, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Your body isn’t a machine you can push past the red line.
Rest is not a reward.
Rest is regulation.
Rest is repair.
Rest is how your nervous system recalibrates so you can think clearly, feel safely, and show up as your authentic self.
#rest #mentalhealth
Rest is not a reward.
Rest is regulation.
Rest is repair.
Rest is how your nervous system recalibrates so you can think clearly, feel safely, and show up as your authentic self.
#rest #mentalhealth
No evidence to support any link between maternal acetaminophen (Tylenol) intake and autism or ADHD in offspring, a new umbrella systematic review.
BMJ 2025;391:e088141
doi.org/10.1136/bmj-...
#tylenol
BMJ 2025;391:e088141
doi.org/10.1136/bmj-...
#tylenol
November 10, 2025 at 12:39 PM
No evidence to support any link between maternal acetaminophen (Tylenol) intake and autism or ADHD in offspring, a new umbrella systematic review.
BMJ 2025;391:e088141
doi.org/10.1136/bmj-...
#tylenol
BMJ 2025;391:e088141
doi.org/10.1136/bmj-...
#tylenol
Ever walk into a room and instantly feel your stomach knot or your chest tighten, before anyone says a word?
It’s your brain’s safety system at work.
Your brain detects danger before your mind can explain it.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-your-bod...
#Neurodiversity #Neuroscience
It’s your brain’s safety system at work.
Your brain detects danger before your mind can explain it.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-your-bod...
#Neurodiversity #Neuroscience
November 9, 2025 at 6:24 PM
Ever walk into a room and instantly feel your stomach knot or your chest tighten, before anyone says a word?
It’s your brain’s safety system at work.
Your brain detects danger before your mind can explain it.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-your-bod...
#Neurodiversity #Neuroscience
It’s your brain’s safety system at work.
Your brain detects danger before your mind can explain it.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/why-your-bod...
#Neurodiversity #Neuroscience
Anxiety has a way of turning our inner lens into a magnifying glass for our flaws.
But others don’t see us through that distorted mirror. They see our effort, our warmth, our resilience.
#Anxiety
But others don’t see us through that distorted mirror. They see our effort, our warmth, our resilience.
#Anxiety
November 8, 2025 at 6:15 PM
Anxiety has a way of turning our inner lens into a magnifying glass for our flaws.
But others don’t see us through that distorted mirror. They see our effort, our warmth, our resilience.
#Anxiety
But others don’t see us through that distorted mirror. They see our effort, our warmth, our resilience.
#Anxiety
Talking to a narcissist can feel deeply confusing.
You share your feelings calmly, hoping for understanding, but the conversation twists into blame, denial, or emotional invalidation.
That’s because, for the narcissistic personality, control outweighs connection.
#narcissist
You share your feelings calmly, hoping for understanding, but the conversation twists into blame, denial, or emotional invalidation.
That’s because, for the narcissistic personality, control outweighs connection.
#narcissist
November 4, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Talking to a narcissist can feel deeply confusing.
You share your feelings calmly, hoping for understanding, but the conversation twists into blame, denial, or emotional invalidation.
That’s because, for the narcissistic personality, control outweighs connection.
#narcissist
You share your feelings calmly, hoping for understanding, but the conversation twists into blame, denial, or emotional invalidation.
That’s because, for the narcissistic personality, control outweighs connection.
#narcissist
When autistic honesty meets narcissistic control, there’s a clash between authenticity and ego.
Between those who seek truth and those who fear it.
resilientminds.blog/why-narcissi...
#Neurodiversity #Psychology #AutismAcceptance #NarcissismAwareness
Between those who seek truth and those who fear it.
resilientminds.blog/why-narcissi...
#Neurodiversity #Psychology #AutismAcceptance #NarcissismAwareness
November 1, 2025 at 4:10 PM
When autistic honesty meets narcissistic control, there’s a clash between authenticity and ego.
Between those who seek truth and those who fear it.
resilientminds.blog/why-narcissi...
#Neurodiversity #Psychology #AutismAcceptance #NarcissismAwareness
Between those who seek truth and those who fear it.
resilientminds.blog/why-narcissi...
#Neurodiversity #Psychology #AutismAcceptance #NarcissismAwareness
Real love isn’t confusing, conditional, or cruel. It doesn’t make you question your worth or walk on eggshells. It brings calm, not chaos.
#NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
October 30, 2025 at 9:23 PM
Real love isn’t confusing, conditional, or cruel. It doesn’t make you question your worth or walk on eggshells. It brings calm, not chaos.
#NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
Gifted individuals often hear that they are “too much.” Too sensitive, too curious, too energetic, too intense.
But what if all this “too much” is actually part of what makes them extraordinary?
resilientminds.blog/the-gifted-m...
#Gifted #Giftedness #Overexcitabilities
But what if all this “too much” is actually part of what makes them extraordinary?
resilientminds.blog/the-gifted-m...
#Gifted #Giftedness #Overexcitabilities
October 24, 2025 at 7:05 PM
Gifted individuals often hear that they are “too much.” Too sensitive, too curious, too energetic, too intense.
But what if all this “too much” is actually part of what makes them extraordinary?
resilientminds.blog/the-gifted-m...
#Gifted #Giftedness #Overexcitabilities
But what if all this “too much” is actually part of what makes them extraordinary?
resilientminds.blog/the-gifted-m...
#Gifted #Giftedness #Overexcitabilities
Let’s talk about something that deserves zero stigma.
When people need glasses to see clearly, no one questions it.
When someone needs insulin for diabetes, it’s seen as responsible self-care.
So why do we still judge people who need medication for their mental health?
#WorldMentalHealthDay
When people need glasses to see clearly, no one questions it.
When someone needs insulin for diabetes, it’s seen as responsible self-care.
So why do we still judge people who need medication for their mental health?
#WorldMentalHealthDay
October 10, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Let’s talk about something that deserves zero stigma.
When people need glasses to see clearly, no one questions it.
When someone needs insulin for diabetes, it’s seen as responsible self-care.
So why do we still judge people who need medication for their mental health?
#WorldMentalHealthDay
When people need glasses to see clearly, no one questions it.
When someone needs insulin for diabetes, it’s seen as responsible self-care.
So why do we still judge people who need medication for their mental health?
#WorldMentalHealthDay
For many neurodivergent people, the world can feel too bright, too loud, too much.
Sensory overload isn’t “being sensitive”.
It’s the brain working overtime to process everything at once.
resilientminds.blog?p=7280
#SensoryOverload #NeurodivergentVoices
Sensory overload isn’t “being sensitive”.
It’s the brain working overtime to process everything at once.
resilientminds.blog?p=7280
#SensoryOverload #NeurodivergentVoices
Sensory Overload in Neurodivergent Individuals Explained
Understand sensory overload: how sounds, lights, and textures can overwhelm the nervous system and impact daily experiences.
resilientminds.blog
October 1, 2025 at 4:30 PM
For many neurodivergent people, the world can feel too bright, too loud, too much.
Sensory overload isn’t “being sensitive”.
It’s the brain working overtime to process everything at once.
resilientminds.blog?p=7280
#SensoryOverload #NeurodivergentVoices
Sensory overload isn’t “being sensitive”.
It’s the brain working overtime to process everything at once.
resilientminds.blog?p=7280
#SensoryOverload #NeurodivergentVoices
Autistic people are not a “problem” to solve. They are innovators, creators, and visionaries. Without autism, we would likely still be living in caves. The unique ways autistic minds process information have given humanity breakthroughs in science, art, technology, and philosophy.
#AutismAcceptance
#AutismAcceptance
September 23, 2025 at 3:15 PM
Autistic people are not a “problem” to solve. They are innovators, creators, and visionaries. Without autism, we would likely still be living in caves. The unique ways autistic minds process information have given humanity breakthroughs in science, art, technology, and philosophy.
#AutismAcceptance
#AutismAcceptance
Want to change your life? Don’t go big. Go small.
Your brain hates drastic change. That’s why big resolutions often fail.
The truth?
🌱 Small, consistent steps aren’t just easier. They’re the only way lasting transformation happens.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/the-science-...
#Growth
Your brain hates drastic change. That’s why big resolutions often fail.
The truth?
🌱 Small, consistent steps aren’t just easier. They’re the only way lasting transformation happens.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/the-science-...
#Growth
September 9, 2025 at 5:18 PM
Want to change your life? Don’t go big. Go small.
Your brain hates drastic change. That’s why big resolutions often fail.
The truth?
🌱 Small, consistent steps aren’t just easier. They’re the only way lasting transformation happens.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/the-science-...
#Growth
Your brain hates drastic change. That’s why big resolutions often fail.
The truth?
🌱 Small, consistent steps aren’t just easier. They’re the only way lasting transformation happens.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/the-science-...
#Growth
It’s rarely about urgency.
It’s about control.
Narcissists love to manufacture crises so that:
• Their wants are pushed to the front of the line ⏩
• Everyone else is forced into reaction mode 😰
• Feelings, boundaries, and consequences are ignored 🛑
#Narcissists #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
It’s about control.
Narcissists love to manufacture crises so that:
• Their wants are pushed to the front of the line ⏩
• Everyone else is forced into reaction mode 😰
• Feelings, boundaries, and consequences are ignored 🛑
#Narcissists #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
September 4, 2025 at 5:15 PM
It’s rarely about urgency.
It’s about control.
Narcissists love to manufacture crises so that:
• Their wants are pushed to the front of the line ⏩
• Everyone else is forced into reaction mode 😰
• Feelings, boundaries, and consequences are ignored 🛑
#Narcissists #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
It’s about control.
Narcissists love to manufacture crises so that:
• Their wants are pushed to the front of the line ⏩
• Everyone else is forced into reaction mode 😰
• Feelings, boundaries, and consequences are ignored 🛑
#Narcissists #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
Imagine being told, over and over, that the way you speak, play, or connect is “wrong”.
Not because you’re unkind, not because you don’t want friends, but simply because you’re different.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/autistic-kid...
#AutismAcceptance #NeurodiversityAffirming #StopBullying
Not because you’re unkind, not because you don’t want friends, but simply because you’re different.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/autistic-kid...
#AutismAcceptance #NeurodiversityAffirming #StopBullying
August 26, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Imagine being told, over and over, that the way you speak, play, or connect is “wrong”.
Not because you’re unkind, not because you don’t want friends, but simply because you’re different.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/autistic-kid...
#AutismAcceptance #NeurodiversityAffirming #StopBullying
Not because you’re unkind, not because you don’t want friends, but simply because you’re different.
🔗 Read here: resilientminds.blog/autistic-kid...
#AutismAcceptance #NeurodiversityAffirming #StopBullying
Ever feel like your ADHD brain is both your superpower and your challenge?
One moment it’s all adventure and creativity… the next, it’s regret, comparison, and self-blame.
Your brain is wired for a different rhythm. It’s time the world understood that.
resilientminds.blog/the-adhd-sha...
#ADHD
One moment it’s all adventure and creativity… the next, it’s regret, comparison, and self-blame.
Your brain is wired for a different rhythm. It’s time the world understood that.
resilientminds.blog/the-adhd-sha...
#ADHD
The ADHD Shame Spiral: Why Your Spark Feels Like a Burden
Explore the highs and lows of ADHD, where bursts of creativity meet impulsivity. Understand the unique challenges faced by many.
resilientminds.blog
August 12, 2025 at 2:03 PM
Ever feel like your ADHD brain is both your superpower and your challenge?
One moment it’s all adventure and creativity… the next, it’s regret, comparison, and self-blame.
Your brain is wired for a different rhythm. It’s time the world understood that.
resilientminds.blog/the-adhd-sha...
#ADHD
One moment it’s all adventure and creativity… the next, it’s regret, comparison, and self-blame.
Your brain is wired for a different rhythm. It’s time the world understood that.
resilientminds.blog/the-adhd-sha...
#ADHD
🌪 The Illusion of Control 🌪
We plan. We prepare. We try to protect ourselves from pain, failure, or loss.
But life, messy, beautiful, unpredictable life, has its own rhythm.
#Psychology #LettingGo #IllusionOfControl #MentalHealth #Acceptance
We plan. We prepare. We try to protect ourselves from pain, failure, or loss.
But life, messy, beautiful, unpredictable life, has its own rhythm.
#Psychology #LettingGo #IllusionOfControl #MentalHealth #Acceptance
July 31, 2025 at 2:08 PM
🌪 The Illusion of Control 🌪
We plan. We prepare. We try to protect ourselves from pain, failure, or loss.
But life, messy, beautiful, unpredictable life, has its own rhythm.
#Psychology #LettingGo #IllusionOfControl #MentalHealth #Acceptance
We plan. We prepare. We try to protect ourselves from pain, failure, or loss.
But life, messy, beautiful, unpredictable life, has its own rhythm.
#Psychology #LettingGo #IllusionOfControl #MentalHealth #Acceptance