Lil Ng
@epiphanyseeker.bsky.social
Doctor | prison forensic psychiatrist | University of Auckland | El Camino pilgrim | Jungian-oriented | Chinese New Zealander | researcher in women’s mental health interested in links between attachment and trauma
When walking on dirt paths through the landscape we learn to slow our pace, conscious of deeper distinctions between one hill and another. -Karen Armstrong on ritual, contemplation and ‘kenosis’ the act of emptying the self, to more fully exist in sacred nature #SpiritualAwakening
November 10, 2025 at 7:23 AM
When walking on dirt paths through the landscape we learn to slow our pace, conscious of deeper distinctions between one hill and another. -Karen Armstrong on ritual, contemplation and ‘kenosis’ the act of emptying the self, to more fully exist in sacred nature #SpiritualAwakening
What do you care what other people think? We should listen and take into account other people’s opinions. If they don’t make sense and we think they’re wrong, that’s that! Our responsibility is to do and learn what we can, improve solutions and pass them on. -Richard P. Feynman #CriticalThinking
November 9, 2025 at 7:12 AM
What do you care what other people think? We should listen and take into account other people’s opinions. If they don’t make sense and we think they’re wrong, that’s that! Our responsibility is to do and learn what we can, improve solutions and pass them on. -Richard P. Feynman #CriticalThinking
Emotional labour is unpaid unnoticed work, orchestrating life in
ways that lead to smooth-running relationships at home and work. Even in delegating you are tending to others’ emotional needs expending your time, energy, and mental space. Is it only ours to do? -Gemma Hartley #ProgressiveWorkplace
ways that lead to smooth-running relationships at home and work. Even in delegating you are tending to others’ emotional needs expending your time, energy, and mental space. Is it only ours to do? -Gemma Hartley #ProgressiveWorkplace
November 8, 2025 at 9:08 AM
Emotional labour is unpaid unnoticed work, orchestrating life in
ways that lead to smooth-running relationships at home and work. Even in delegating you are tending to others’ emotional needs expending your time, energy, and mental space. Is it only ours to do? -Gemma Hartley #ProgressiveWorkplace
ways that lead to smooth-running relationships at home and work. Even in delegating you are tending to others’ emotional needs expending your time, energy, and mental space. Is it only ours to do? -Gemma Hartley #ProgressiveWorkplace
When thinking leads to the unthinkable, it is time to return to simple life. What thinking cannot solve, life solves, and what action never decides is reserved for thinking. The true way does not lead upward but towards the depths. -CG Jung on quiet wisdom when there are no answers #DeepThinking
November 6, 2025 at 7:59 PM
When thinking leads to the unthinkable, it is time to return to simple life. What thinking cannot solve, life solves, and what action never decides is reserved for thinking. The true way does not lead upward but towards the depths. -CG Jung on quiet wisdom when there are no answers #DeepThinking
Emotional connection is a basic human need, to adapt and grow, feel at home in our relationships, be truly ourselves, feel safe in our home and body, to uncover ways to be with self and each other, to feel heard, valued, respected, allowed to be different and loved. -Julia Samuels #HumanConnection
November 6, 2025 at 6:55 AM
Emotional connection is a basic human need, to adapt and grow, feel at home in our relationships, be truly ourselves, feel safe in our home and body, to uncover ways to be with self and each other, to feel heard, valued, respected, allowed to be different and loved. -Julia Samuels #HumanConnection
When talking to people who have suffered greatly, you need to accept their feelings, also accept that the true cause of their suffering and anger was not you. A stark reminder of #fragility and #loss, and the terrible possibilities of life. -Robin Ince on the importance of being interested
November 5, 2025 at 1:37 AM
When talking to people who have suffered greatly, you need to accept their feelings, also accept that the true cause of their suffering and anger was not you. A stark reminder of #fragility and #loss, and the terrible possibilities of life. -Robin Ince on the importance of being interested
Motherhood is like a relay race, a journey whose purpose is to pass on the baton of life, all work and heat one moment, mere spectatorship the next, a team enterprise where stardom is endlessly configured, transformed. -Rachel Cusk on a life’s work, on watching the present become the past #authentic
November 4, 2025 at 10:01 AM
Motherhood is like a relay race, a journey whose purpose is to pass on the baton of life, all work and heat one moment, mere spectatorship the next, a team enterprise where stardom is endlessly configured, transformed. -Rachel Cusk on a life’s work, on watching the present become the past #authentic
No story exists by itself. Sometimes stories meet each other or cover each other completely, like stones in a river. Sit in the rushing water, the stones of our stories all around us beneath the surface, one touching another. -Mitch Albom on connecting with five people you meet in heaven #authentic
November 3, 2025 at 6:38 AM
No story exists by itself. Sometimes stories meet each other or cover each other completely, like stones in a river. Sit in the rushing water, the stones of our stories all around us beneath the surface, one touching another. -Mitch Albom on connecting with five people you meet in heaven #authentic
The energy of grief is endowed with more vital force than the destructive energy of avoidance. And that force will, one day, be the very movement that saves our own lives and maybe the very worthy lives of many others. -Joanne Cacciatore www.centerforlossandtrauma.com/an-open-lett...
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November 2, 2025 at 3:03 AM
The energy of grief is endowed with more vital force than the destructive energy of avoidance. And that force will, one day, be the very movement that saves our own lives and maybe the very worthy lives of many others. -Joanne Cacciatore www.centerforlossandtrauma.com/an-open-lett...
Greenlights mean go. Catching greenlights is about skill: intent, context, consideration, endurance, anticipation, resilience, speed, and discipline. -Matthew McConaughey on the #soul objective, catching #greenlights and realising that yellows and reds eventually turn green
October 31, 2025 at 9:37 PM
Greenlights mean go. Catching greenlights is about skill: intent, context, consideration, endurance, anticipation, resilience, speed, and discipline. -Matthew McConaughey on the #soul objective, catching #greenlights and realising that yellows and reds eventually turn green
In God Is An Octopus Ben Goldsmith writes about the weight of loss which we carry around always. But smoother with time, no less heavy, rounded at the edges and warm. Pain diffused by the strange twinkling of a feeling that our loved one is close by even if we cannot see them. #grief #love #nature
October 30, 2025 at 6:08 AM
I am the #trauma you bury away. I am the lie you hold under your tongue, the thing you bury, vanish, erase, the thing you can almost pretend is forgotten as long as you don’t touch it. #Wisdom following the trail of our Chinese ancestors - @stephaniefoo.bsky.social on words for what her bones know
October 26, 2025 at 4:19 AM
I am the #trauma you bury away. I am the lie you hold under your tongue, the thing you bury, vanish, erase, the thing you can almost pretend is forgotten as long as you don’t touch it. #Wisdom following the trail of our Chinese ancestors - @stephaniefoo.bsky.social on words for what her bones know
When we are in intense #grief we get stuck in the ruminating story we tell ourselves. Stretched to breaking point we have little capacity to incorporate each other’s narratives of loss. #Wisdom comes from being supple enough to gain a new perspective. -Julia Samuels on living with #loss
October 24, 2025 at 8:17 AM
The human #psyche, like human bones, is strongly inclined towards self-healing. -John Bowlby on building a secure base in #therapy to explore memories and working through resistance as deep reluctance to disobey past orders of parents not to tell or not to remember #healing
October 23, 2025 at 2:16 AM
We need to imagine a world in which every #woman is the presiding genius of her own body. Where women will truly create new life, bringing forth visions and thinking necessary to sustain, console and alter human existence - a new relationship with the universe. -Adrienne Rich writes in A Woman Born
October 21, 2025 at 9:16 AM
We need to imagine a world in which every #woman is the presiding genius of her own body. Where women will truly create new life, bringing forth visions and thinking necessary to sustain, console and alter human existence - a new relationship with the universe. -Adrienne Rich writes in A Woman Born
Can we reconcile ourselves to mysterious #truth that the #spirit is the life of the body seen from within and the body outwardly manifests the life of the spirit? -CG Jung helps us understand why we must give the body its due in striving to transcend #consciousness by accepting the unconscious
October 19, 2025 at 1:21 AM
Can we reconcile ourselves to mysterious #truth that the #spirit is the life of the body seen from within and the body outwardly manifests the life of the spirit? -CG Jung helps us understand why we must give the body its due in striving to transcend #consciousness by accepting the unconscious
To #transcend is to be boundless, going beyond self, connecting with a realm of life beyond physical constraints of time and place, a cosmic consciousness. -Steven C. Hayes on #spirituality and #psychological flexibility that frees us from mental entanglement
October 17, 2025 at 6:35 AM
To #transcend is to be boundless, going beyond self, connecting with a realm of life beyond physical constraints of time and place, a cosmic consciousness. -Steven C. Hayes on #spirituality and #psychological flexibility that frees us from mental entanglement
Our #attachment style shows up across relationships. How we attach comes from early unconscious patterns imprinted in our bodies, automatically active and deep inside of us, reactivated by loss and trauma. -Diane Poole Heller on mending broken connections, resolving conflict and negotiating life
October 16, 2025 at 2:26 AM
Our #attachment style shows up across relationships. How we attach comes from early unconscious patterns imprinted in our bodies, automatically active and deep inside of us, reactivated by loss and trauma. -Diane Poole Heller on mending broken connections, resolving conflict and negotiating life
When we are ready for an initiation something in the environment will initiate us - a person, an event but if we are ready, it is going to happen. This is the whole mystery of sudden illumination. -Joseph Campbell on seeking out places from which #imagination and #inspiration come.
October 15, 2025 at 3:08 AM
When we are ready for an initiation something in the environment will initiate us - a person, an event but if we are ready, it is going to happen. This is the whole mystery of sudden illumination. -Joseph Campbell on seeking out places from which #imagination and #inspiration come.
David J. Tacey notes siege mentality in its forte picking up on CG Jung: The overwhelming influence of #collective emotions spreads into everything. If it were possible, everything would be done collectively, because there seems to be an astonishingly feeble resistance to collective influences.
October 14, 2025 at 8:24 AM
David J. Tacey notes siege mentality in its forte picking up on CG Jung: The overwhelming influence of #collective emotions spreads into everything. If it were possible, everything would be done collectively, because there seems to be an astonishingly feeble resistance to collective influences.
The bedrock of a stable and self-reliant personality is built from unfailing acccessibilty and support of #attachment figures. Human beings are happiest and able to deploy their talents to best advantage with a secure base to operate from -John Bowlby #trust #relationships #lifespan
October 13, 2025 at 3:28 AM
The bedrock of a stable and self-reliant personality is built from unfailing acccessibilty and support of #attachment figures. Human beings are happiest and able to deploy their talents to best advantage with a secure base to operate from -John Bowlby #trust #relationships #lifespan
#Attachment is an insistent interest in maintaining proximity to one or a very few selected persons using them as a secure base to explore an unfamiliar environment. We fly to the attachment figure(s) as a haven of safety in times of alarm. -Mary Main on the power of our early relationships
October 11, 2025 at 10:10 PM
#Attachment is an insistent interest in maintaining proximity to one or a very few selected persons using them as a secure base to explore an unfamiliar environment. We fly to the attachment figure(s) as a haven of safety in times of alarm. -Mary Main on the power of our early relationships
Is there wisdom to be won by #illness? To live a meaningful life is to be conscious, which begins in wonder. Practical #wisdom is the capacity to think effectively about how to live well. What makes human life valuable: freedom, reason, love, truthfulness, being in touch with reality. -Jonathan Lear
October 10, 2025 at 10:53 PM
Is there wisdom to be won by #illness? To live a meaningful life is to be conscious, which begins in wonder. Practical #wisdom is the capacity to think effectively about how to live well. What makes human life valuable: freedom, reason, love, truthfulness, being in touch with reality. -Jonathan Lear