What came first? The egg or the chicken? God or evolution? This post came about because of a message my sister sent on the family WhatsApp group. A Bible verse "Proverbs 12:25 NKJV Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad." Therefore, knowing this should ideally make your depression go away. Right? If you suffer from anxiety, understanding that if you calm yourself down, whatever is pushing against your heart is not physical but it's emotional.

Change is possible. Sometimes it’s slow. Sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it’s inevitable. I wish I could say I learned this early in life. I wish I could say I always trusted the process, always knew my role, always understood the limits of what one person can do for another. I didn’t. Like many people drawn to helping professions, I learned through exhaustion, heartbreak, and unanswered questions.

I am rewiring my nervous system to become the man I want to be. By Matthew F. Stevens An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior. – Viktor Frankl I love this quote because it helped me understand myself on a level that escaped me for many years prior to reading it. Over the course of that time, I knew I made a lot of progress.

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Do you believe that – God helps those who help themselves? I was just thinking about, what if my stubborn mindset is blocking my progress lately? Not that I am failing, but how I’m going about it may be to blame. I’ve gone through the process of focusing on my well-being. My thinking has been set to do this, if I want to win – and to get that, if I'm going to succeed.

Thoughts on how to use self-conscious thoughts to your advantage and not for self-deprecation. If you have ever ordered a beverage from a popular spot, such as Starbucks or Plato Coffee, you have probably seen the following written on your own or another person's cup: ‘You are special.’ Once, I received a takeaway coffee with the permanent marker note ‘you are special’ written on it - never in my life have I felt less special.

Does Your Life Feel on Pause While You Wait for Something to Change? Boy, if you knew how long it’s taken me to step out of my mind and smell the flowers, you wouldn’t wish it on anyone. What is a mental pause? A mental pause in depression is a state of stagnation where one waits for change without taking action.

Thank you to the Authors and the Community we have developed together Happy New Year from Emotional Intelligence Developer. 2026 is a year of growth, connection, and shared support. Together with our writers, authors, and community, we’re building a space where people show up for one another. With honesty, care, and heart. This year our goal is to drive communication as a group.

Your well-being and how you manage it will be key, trust me. If you're not ready for 2026, its okay. I wasn't ready for 2025, but as it ends, one thing that got me to the end is my mental resilience. I went through a lot... it's never easy for anyone but with a strong emotional foundation I overcame my CHALLENGES.

By Dr. Sabine Charles Given that the current business environment is highly dynamic, a leader must have a good executive brand to perform well and provide upward mobility in this line of work. With experience in audit and corporate governance, Dr. Sabie Charles guides the heads in strengthening their companies' positions in their respective markets (Charles, 2023). This method can be characterized as personal branding with the shades of leadership practices regarding authenticity, strategic exposure, and building personal messaging.

By Dr. Sabine Charles The unpredictability of the modern business environment, where the consequences of actions are vast and affect multiple tiers, is a welcome value for leadership personalities. Dr Sabine Charles, an emotional intelligence guru, presents a new approach toward cultivating this crucial attribute that prepares leaders to cope and perform well under pressure (Charles, 2023). Her approach helps not only to strengthen an individual leader but also has a positive impact on the organization's climate.

By Dr. Sabine Charles The global environment in which businesses operate has evolved with time and thus presented new characteristics that require effective managerial functions. From the experiences shared by participants in the leadership and professional development seminars, Dr. Sabine Charles identifies the essential skills the future leader should acquire to excel in such an environment (Charles, 2023). Dr. Charles identifies flexibility, persistence, and adequate knowledge of information technology as the success-based determinants.

In the competitive modern-day world, leaders cannot just depend on subject-matter knowledge. By Dr. Sabine Charles They have to change, transform, and motivate. That is why organizations and individual professionals are resorting to programs that address the entirety of leadership—the cognitive, the relational, and the expressive. One of the most attractive ones is the one proposed by Dr. Sabine Charles,

Some of us have heard words like this: "Give it time, and don't give up." Words like, it's going to be okay... just keep going. And sometimes it feels like a line borrowed from someone who isn’t in your room. I hear those quotes when I’m struggling, and they only land when my mind is already calm. But when things are bad and friends are few, well-meaning words can feel hollow — even cruel.

Sometimes, a single word captures an experience so precisely that it changes how we understand our emotions. Retraumatize is one of those words. It speaks to what happens when a healed or healing wound is suddenly reopened by memory, storytelling, imagery, or unexpected reminders. It is the emotional echo of survival returning without invitation. The word surfaced powerfully "In a new four-part documentary by Emmy and Grammy Award–winning executive producer Curtis “50 Cent” Jackson.

The art of leadership is not about position or reward, but it is about eminently knowing the self in the current modern business world. Leaders who develop transparency regarding what they feel, what might set them off, what they are good at, and what they are not cannot only lead effectively, but they can also inspire trust, build authentic relationships, and tackle obstacles with grace.

Quit Comparing: Enough is enough when it comes to being jealous about others If you want to become a better version of yourself… you need a Comparison Detox. Less time viewing people’s statuses on WhatsApp. Stop using Google to spy on people. Find something else to do because if you’re constantly checking on other people. When do you get time to develop your well-being?

Technical knowledge and intelligence are no longer enough to ensure success in the fast-paced and interconnected professional world. The skills to view and control emotions (feelings and emotions of other employees) have become a characteristic of workplace performance. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is becoming one of the significant motivators of good professional relationships, effective teamwork, and enduring leadership. Companies that value EQ usually perform better, have better employee engagement, and have a better level of employee morale.

Stress Management for Emerging Leaders Becoming an emotionally intelligent leader entails a special kind of pressure—the idea of leading others, facing new challenges, and living up to that standard, and yet being true to yourself. With organizations becoming increasingly deft, emotionally deft, and strategically deft, the pressure tends to mount. To the aspiring leaders, these pressures could not be a luxury anymore but a key ingredient to the individual achievement and well-being of their staff.

Why depression is eating away at you. It’s only now, after getting over a terrible pain that consumed me for a long time, I realize how messed up I was. For years I pretended that I was emotionally untouchable. I knowingly lied to myself – but I lied to keep myself from erupting. The day I reached out for help and the aftereffects of self-assessment shocked me by how lost I was.

Yes you can. You’ll be amazed at how easy it gets when you do. Are you in pain? Are worried about something but you’re afraid to tell someone about it? I used to be you. I was very good at pretending, acting as if I had it all under control, but emotionally I was a mess. Why is it hard to open up?

Sometimes people are so convinced that they are a ‘good’ person, they become completely blind to the fact that some of their actions are in fact, ‘bad’. I have seen people become so embodied with their belief that they are good, it becomes unfathomable to them that they could be ‘bad’; that they could be judgmental, selfish, or rude. Each of their actions is totally justifiable to them - ‘everything I do, I do because…