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Dr. Tina Paone
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Author, Professor, & Licensed Professional Counselor
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Treat their toxic behavior like a science experiment or a documentary. Observe the manipulation attempts without taking them personally or absorbing the negative emotion. You are the scientist, not the subject. 🧠🛡️

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December 26, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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The narcissist needs to be the center of attention. Don't compete. Let them have the stage. By not challenging their dominance, you remove the fuel for a fight and can blend into the background. Fade out! 🎭➡️

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December 25, 2025 at 2:01 PM
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Use the restroom as an essential time-out. Lock the door, breathe deeply, and re-center yourself. It's a quick, socially acceptable way to step away from conflict or overwhelming tension. 💨😌 Recharge and return!

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December 24, 2025 at 3:02 PM
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"Silent night" isn’t always the reality when co-parenting during the holidays. 🎄✨

Whether you’re navigating new traditions or managing schedule stress, this guide offers heart-centered tips for keeping the peace and centering the kids.

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Not-so-Silent Nights: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist During the Holidays
Understanding the tactics narcissists use during holidays—and the strategies that keep you safe.
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December 24, 2025 at 1:22 PM
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Intense eye contact can be interpreted as a challenge or an invitation for intimacy/conflict. Keep interactions brief and shift your gaze occasionally. Reduce the opportunity for them to escalate tension. Look, but don't linger! 👁️

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December 23, 2025 at 2:01 PM
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They may try to draw a third party (family, friends) into your conflict to validate them or isolate you. Refuse to talk about others and keep your focus firmly on the narcissist's direct behavior toward you. 🙅‍♀️🗣️

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December 22, 2025 at 1:01 PM
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Narcissists often use loaded questions or insulting remarks (bait) to drag you into a fight. Recognize it immediately and refuse to react. Don't take the hook. Starve the conflict of your attention. 🐠🚫

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December 21, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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Shield kids from the drama. Don't leave them alone with the narcissist if you have concerns, and never allow them to be used as pawns or messengers. Their safety and peace are the top priority. 🛑❤️

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December 20, 2025 at 4:01 PM
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When things get tense, busy yourself with a task (clearing plates, getting drinks, helping in the kitchen). Offering to help others is a fantastic, innocent way to physically exit an interaction. 🧼🍽️

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December 19, 2025 at 3:02 PM
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Be extremely mindful of your alcohol intake. A clear head is your best defense against manipulation and conflict. Don't let lowered inhibitions open the door for old emotional wounds or arguments. Stay sober & strong! 💪🚫

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December 18, 2025 at 2:01 PM
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Ever received a gift that felt more like a gut punch? 🎁🥊

I dive into the "Trojan Horse" gift—the weaponized generosity narcissists use to control and criticize. Learn how to spot the tactics and reclaim your power this season.

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The Gift That Hurts: How Narcissists Use “Generosity” as Control
It looks like generosity, but it feels like a gut punch. Learn how to disarm the Trojan Horse gift.
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December 17, 2025 at 6:54 PM
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Control your environment by choosing where you sit. Never sit directly opposite them. Position yourself near an exit and next to a "Buffer Person" (ally) if possible. Optimize your escape route and distance! 📏🚪

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December 17, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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Bring a trusted ally or friend who understands the situation. Position them between you and the narcissist, or use them as an immediate conversation partner when things get tense. Safety in numbers! 🛡️

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December 16, 2025 at 2:01 PM
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You don't have to fill awkward silences or respond to every baiting question. Sometimes, saying nothing at all is the strongest response. Don't give them material to work with. Be calm, quiet, and impenetrable. 🧘‍♀️🔇

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December 15, 2025 at 1:03 PM
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Use this for all necessary communication: Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. Keep it professional, emotionless, and factual—no room for them to twist your words or create drama. 📝🛡️

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December 14, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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Stick to light, neutral subjects like food, weather, or simple pleasantries. Do not discuss personal life, politics, finances, or past conflicts. These are landmines designed to provoke a fight. Keep it shallow! 🌊🙅‍♀️

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December 13, 2025 at 4:01 PM
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If they're escalating, sometimes it's fastest to agree vaguely ("Okay," "You might be right") and physically remove yourself from the room or the event immediately. Your peace is more important than proving a point. 👋🚪

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December 12, 2025 at 3:02 PM
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The Pivot: When the conversation turns toxic or focuses on gaslighting, immediately change the subject. Talk about the weather, a neutral event, or ask a question to someone else. Refuse to engage in their drama loop. ➡️ deflect!

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December 11, 2025 at 4:02 PM
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🛑 Don't J.A.D.E.: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain your decisions. The narcissist uses this to draw you into conflict and wear you down. Keep your responses short, firm, and respectful. You owe them nothing! 🛡️🤐

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December 10, 2025 at 3:02 PM
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Tired of the Holiday Narcissist stealing every moment?

I explain why they become the 'VIP' and how to finally cope.

🎄 Click through for essential reading or listening!

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The Holiday VIP: How Narcissists Refuse to Lift a Finger (and Expect Applause)
When one person believes they’re royalty, everyone else becomes the staff. Here’s how to reclaim your holiday peace.
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December 10, 2025 at 1:23 PM
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When they try to provoke you, become boring and unresponsive—like a grey rock. Give short, emotionless replies. Don't take the bait! It makes you less interesting to target. 😴🧊

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December 9, 2025 at 2:01 PM
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💸 Set a strict limit on what you spend on gifts for the narcissist or for holiday expenses involving them. Do not let gifts be used as a manipulation tool. Your money is a boundary, too! 💰🛑

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December 8, 2025 at 1:01 PM
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💔 It's okay to mourn the family/holiday you wish you had. This grief is valid. Acknowledge the pain and let yourself feel it, then re-focus on creating new, genuine moments of joy. ✨

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December 7, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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🎁 Abandon the idea of a perfect holiday. The only thing you can control is your reaction. Expect disappointment, and anything less will be a bonus! Focus on small, peaceful moments with others. 📉😌

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December 6, 2025 at 4:01 PM
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🗣️ You don't owe them a detailed explanation for your choices or schedule. Keep responses vague, short, and factual. "That won't work for me." is a full sentence. Avoid JADE (Justifying, Arguing, Defending, Explaining). 🤐🚫

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December 5, 2025 at 3:02 PM