Dr. Kate Balestrieri
@drkatebalestrieri.bsky.social
Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, Founder: Modern Intimacy
Author: What Happened to My Sex Life? (Pub Feb 11)
Author: What Happened to My Sex Life? (Pub Feb 11)
Progressives & Conservatives:
Would you date/have sex/partner with someone with opposite political views?
Answer the poll here: linkinbio.mymodernintimacy.com/bio
Would you date/have sex/partner with someone with opposite political views?
Answer the poll here: linkinbio.mymodernintimacy.com/bio
Link in Bio for Modern Intimacy
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July 12, 2025 at 8:20 PM
Progressives & Conservatives:
Would you date/have sex/partner with someone with opposite political views?
Answer the poll here: linkinbio.mymodernintimacy.com/bio
Would you date/have sex/partner with someone with opposite political views?
Answer the poll here: linkinbio.mymodernintimacy.com/bio
Propaganda I’m not falling for as a clinical and forensic psychologist, and sex therapist:
• monogamy is best
• men have higher desire
• casual sex is bad
• sex is a relational duty
• “good” people don’t like “dirty” sex
• all kink comes from trauma
• a person’s value changes by their # of partners
• monogamy is best
• men have higher desire
• casual sex is bad
• sex is a relational duty
• “good” people don’t like “dirty” sex
• all kink comes from trauma
• a person’s value changes by their # of partners
May 24, 2025 at 2:43 AM
Propaganda I’m not falling for as a clinical and forensic psychologist, and sex therapist:
• monogamy is best
• men have higher desire
• casual sex is bad
• sex is a relational duty
• “good” people don’t like “dirty” sex
• all kink comes from trauma
• a person’s value changes by their # of partners
• monogamy is best
• men have higher desire
• casual sex is bad
• sex is a relational duty
• “good” people don’t like “dirty” sex
• all kink comes from trauma
• a person’s value changes by their # of partners
Make no mistake, the women who were sent to space today were not a demonstration of female empowerment. That was a demonstration of male power (wealth and virility) in the same way a pimp leverages women’s sexuality to prove his dominance. They were props, not promises. #blueorigin
April 15, 2025 at 4:17 AM
Make no mistake, the women who were sent to space today were not a demonstration of female empowerment. That was a demonstration of male power (wealth and virility) in the same way a pimp leverages women’s sexuality to prove his dominance. They were props, not promises. #blueorigin
Can you spot the problematic perspective(s) inherent in his post?
March 23, 2025 at 6:20 PM
Can you spot the problematic perspective(s) inherent in his post?
Sexism is a tool of fascism. It teaches compliance and obedience to everyone, of all genders, at the identity level, and primes the human mind to defer to an authority instead of their own truth.
February 8, 2025 at 7:31 PM
Sexism is a tool of fascism. It teaches compliance and obedience to everyone, of all genders, at the identity level, and primes the human mind to defer to an authority instead of their own truth.
Seeing how EM is acting in public makes me so worried about any woman or child who has ever lived with him in private.
February 3, 2025 at 6:17 PM
Seeing how EM is acting in public makes me so worried about any woman or child who has ever lived with him in private.
Emotional and relational maturity (i.e.: regulated nervous systems and empathy) are true benchmarks of effective leadership. Without both, all that is left is the tyranny of being subjected to someone else’s psychodramas and trauma re-enactments.
January 30, 2025 at 8:34 PM
Emotional and relational maturity (i.e.: regulated nervous systems and empathy) are true benchmarks of effective leadership. Without both, all that is left is the tyranny of being subjected to someone else’s psychodramas and trauma re-enactments.
Helping out a student at Maastricht University with a research study. take this survey now: maastrichtuniversity.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_...
January 25, 2025 at 10:54 PM
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If the Republican Party wants “more babies,” why is just watching and listening to them the most effective form of birth control?
(For legal purposes, this is a joke. Please use contraception to prevent pregnancy).
(For legal purposes, this is a joke. Please use contraception to prevent pregnancy).
January 25, 2025 at 8:51 PM
If the Republican Party wants “more babies,” why is just watching and listening to them the most effective form of birth control?
(For legal purposes, this is a joke. Please use contraception to prevent pregnancy).
(For legal purposes, this is a joke. Please use contraception to prevent pregnancy).
If sex and gender were indeed binary, there wouldn’t need to be laws to enforce it.
January 22, 2025 at 12:59 AM
If sex and gender were indeed binary, there wouldn’t need to be laws to enforce it.
Friendly reminder that enforcing a gender binary is one the key steps in installing fascism.
January 21, 2025 at 6:27 AM
Friendly reminder that enforcing a gender binary is one the key steps in installing fascism.
The fires in LA are not a punishment from a deity.
LGBTQIA+ folks are not mentally ill.
Women are not household appliances.
LGBTQIA+ folks are not mentally ill.
Women are not household appliances.
January 8, 2025 at 7:22 PM
The fires in LA are not a punishment from a deity.
LGBTQIA+ folks are not mentally ill.
Women are not household appliances.
LGBTQIA+ folks are not mentally ill.
Women are not household appliances.
Modern men,
To be a better ally to women, here are few things you can do:
1) Read feminist writings and listen to feminist podcasts
2) Pay for women’s labor, emotional + physical.
3) Learn to regulate your emotions + your nervous system.
4) Talk with other men about it all and call out misogyny. 
To be a better ally to women, here are few things you can do:
1) Read feminist writings and listen to feminist podcasts
2) Pay for women’s labor, emotional + physical.
3) Learn to regulate your emotions + your nervous system.
4) Talk with other men about it all and call out misogyny. 
January 2, 2025 at 9:52 PM
Modern men,
To be a better ally to women, here are few things you can do:
1) Read feminist writings and listen to feminist podcasts
2) Pay for women’s labor, emotional + physical.
3) Learn to regulate your emotions + your nervous system.
4) Talk with other men about it all and call out misogyny. 
To be a better ally to women, here are few things you can do:
1) Read feminist writings and listen to feminist podcasts
2) Pay for women’s labor, emotional + physical.
3) Learn to regulate your emotions + your nervous system.
4) Talk with other men about it all and call out misogyny. 
Here are my 2025 Predictions:
- Unprecedented number of heterosexual divorces
- Birth rate will drop
- Sex toy sales will ⬆️
- Digital sexual experiences will ⬆️
- Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy practices will ⬆️ to subvert conservatism
- Analog hobbies will ⬆️
- Sex experts will be heavily censored online
- Unprecedented number of heterosexual divorces
- Birth rate will drop
- Sex toy sales will ⬆️
- Digital sexual experiences will ⬆️
- Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy practices will ⬆️ to subvert conservatism
- Analog hobbies will ⬆️
- Sex experts will be heavily censored online
January 1, 2025 at 7:48 PM
Here are my 2025 Predictions:
- Unprecedented number of heterosexual divorces
- Birth rate will drop
- Sex toy sales will ⬆️
- Digital sexual experiences will ⬆️
- Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy practices will ⬆️ to subvert conservatism
- Analog hobbies will ⬆️
- Sex experts will be heavily censored online
- Unprecedented number of heterosexual divorces
- Birth rate will drop
- Sex toy sales will ⬆️
- Digital sexual experiences will ⬆️
- Kink/BDSM and non-monogamy practices will ⬆️ to subvert conservatism
- Analog hobbies will ⬆️
- Sex experts will be heavily censored online
“Sex with a minor” = rape of a child
I wish MSM would stop minimizing this behavior.
I wish MSM would stop minimizing this behavior.
December 23, 2024 at 7:57 PM
“Sex with a minor” = rape of a child
I wish MSM would stop minimizing this behavior.
I wish MSM would stop minimizing this behavior.
The person of the year ought to be Gisele Pelicot and every other SA survivor.
December 13, 2024 at 2:49 AM
The person of the year ought to be Gisele Pelicot and every other SA survivor.
You’re allowed to feel frustrated if the current political climate is wreaking havoc on your sex life.
December 4, 2024 at 7:57 PM
You’re allowed to feel frustrated if the current political climate is wreaking havoc on your sex life.
There is no such thing as “withholding” sex. No one is entitled to sex with another person. If they are not having sex, there is no desire. Instead ask, what happened that there is no longer desire? Repair or address that. That can help partners move back into a place where desire lives again.
December 2, 2024 at 2:05 AM
There is no such thing as “withholding” sex. No one is entitled to sex with another person. If they are not having sex, there is no desire. Instead ask, what happened that there is no longer desire? Repair or address that. That can help partners move back into a place where desire lives again.
Please stop saying things like “masculine energy” and “feminine energy.”
It’s re-packaged patriarchal propaganda funneled through pseudo spirituality.
It’s re-packaged patriarchal propaganda funneled through pseudo spirituality.
November 29, 2024 at 12:30 PM
Please stop saying things like “masculine energy” and “feminine energy.”
It’s re-packaged patriarchal propaganda funneled through pseudo spirituality.
It’s re-packaged patriarchal propaganda funneled through pseudo spirituality.
A common theme I hear from women I work with is that men do not want an experience WITH them, they want an experience OF them.
Read that again.
Read that again.
November 27, 2024 at 11:11 AM
A common theme I hear from women I work with is that men do not want an experience WITH them, they want an experience OF them.
Read that again.
Read that again.
Told my husband we didn’t need couples therapy, and everything was fine in our relationship because I was happy with how things are in the relationship. #womeninmalefields
November 25, 2024 at 3:16 PM
Told my husband we didn’t need couples therapy, and everything was fine in our relationship because I was happy with how things are in the relationship. #womeninmalefields
Men with unresolved trauma cling to patriarchal power with greater fervor, to combat the feelings of vulnerability that occurred during the original trauma, and the feelings of powerlessness that arise during emotional states (that they beleive they should not feel) they cannot control or regulate.
November 24, 2024 at 9:30 PM
Men with unresolved trauma cling to patriarchal power with greater fervor, to combat the feelings of vulnerability that occurred during the original trauma, and the feelings of powerlessness that arise during emotional states (that they beleive they should not feel) they cannot control or regulate.
If it really were about keeping women and girls safe, there wouldn’t be a roster of accused sexual predators leading the party.
November 21, 2024 at 3:56 PM
If it really were about keeping women and girls safe, there wouldn’t be a roster of accused sexual predators leading the party.
Things we could be doing now, instead of *gestures wildly*:
Feasting
Fucking
Laughing
Loving
Learning
Listening
Growing
Sharing
Building
Repairing
Creating
The grieving is real.
Feasting
Fucking
Laughing
Loving
Learning
Listening
Growing
Sharing
Building
Repairing
Creating
The grieving is real.
November 17, 2024 at 8:54 PM
Things we could be doing now, instead of *gestures wildly*:
Feasting
Fucking
Laughing
Loving
Learning
Listening
Growing
Sharing
Building
Repairing
Creating
The grieving is real.
Feasting
Fucking
Laughing
Loving
Learning
Listening
Growing
Sharing
Building
Repairing
Creating
The grieving is real.