Maddie Grant | Defiant Daughters ADHD
@defiant-daughters.bsky.social
Helping you live with late-diagnosed ADHD, remembering & reclaiming your mojo with soft structure, real support, radical honesty.
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Author of One Last Hundred Chances, DV survivors’ stories
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Coach, creator, advocate for authentic living; just as you are x
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Author of One Last Hundred Chances, DV survivors’ stories
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Coach, creator, advocate for authentic living; just as you are x
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Hi, it's me. I'm back after a break, metaphorically and literally. I've closed Radiant Chaos 🫡 I'm starting over as Defiant Daughters. Join me for support along your late-diagnosed neurodivergent journey
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
My donation of $60AUD to #SaveTheChildren for @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social - I hadn't listened to take 2 when I asked.
February 8, 2026 at 6:17 AM
My donation of $60AUD to #SaveTheChildren for @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social - I hadn't listened to take 2 when I asked.
End of Day Kindness for your #ADHDChecklist
🍀 Ate well ✔️
🍀 Rested when you needed to ✔️
🍀 Spoke gently to yourself ✔️
🍀 Stretched gently ✔️
Reminder: You did enough. You are enough.
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#ADHDWomen #DefiantDaughters
🍀 Ate well ✔️
🍀 Rested when you needed to ✔️
🍀 Spoke gently to yourself ✔️
🍀 Stretched gently ✔️
Reminder: You did enough. You are enough.
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#ADHDWomen #DefiantDaughters
February 7, 2026 at 10:20 PM
End of Day Kindness for your #ADHDChecklist
🍀 Ate well ✔️
🍀 Rested when you needed to ✔️
🍀 Spoke gently to yourself ✔️
🍀 Stretched gently ✔️
Reminder: You did enough. You are enough.
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#ADHDWomen #DefiantDaughters
🍀 Ate well ✔️
🍀 Rested when you needed to ✔️
🍀 Spoke gently to yourself ✔️
🍀 Stretched gently ✔️
Reminder: You did enough. You are enough.
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#ADHDWomen #DefiantDaughters
Did we find out what charity to donate to for @kermodemovie.bsky.social sitting through and taking one for the church? #MelaniaMovieMisery @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social
a woman is making a funny face with her mouth open and her eyes closed .
ALT: a woman is making a funny face with her mouth open and her eyes closed .
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February 6, 2026 at 11:11 PM
Did we find out what charity to donate to for @kermodemovie.bsky.social sitting through and taking one for the church? #MelaniaMovieMisery @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social
#SomethingToThinkOn
What would today look like if you removed urgency?
Softer? Slower? Easier?
Let me know in the comments...
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#ADHDLateDiagnosed #ADHDWomen
What would today look like if you removed urgency?
Softer? Slower? Easier?
Let me know in the comments...
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#ADHDLateDiagnosed #ADHDWomen
February 6, 2026 at 10:29 PM
#SomethingToThinkOn
What would today look like if you removed urgency?
Softer? Slower? Easier?
Let me know in the comments...
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#ADHDLateDiagnosed #ADHDWomen
What would today look like if you removed urgency?
Softer? Slower? Easier?
Let me know in the comments...
~
#ADHDLateDiagnosed #ADHDWomen
If you’ve always felt like you’re working twice as hard for half the ease…
You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not failing at life.
You might just be neurodivergent in a world that wasn’t built for you.
And you’re allowed to ask better questions.
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#ADHDInWomen #LateDiagnosed
You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not failing at life.
You might just be neurodivergent in a world that wasn’t built for you.
And you’re allowed to ask better questions.
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#ADHDInWomen #LateDiagnosed
February 3, 2026 at 8:14 PM
If you’ve always felt like you’re working twice as hard for half the ease…
You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not failing at life.
You might just be neurodivergent in a world that wasn’t built for you.
And you’re allowed to ask better questions.
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#ADHDInWomen #LateDiagnosed
You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not failing at life.
You might just be neurodivergent in a world that wasn’t built for you.
And you’re allowed to ask better questions.
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#ADHDInWomen #LateDiagnosed
🍀 ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, not a mood disorder.
🍀 It’s about regulation, not willpower.
🍀 It’s about overload, not failure.
If you’ve spent years collecting diagnoses that never quite fit…
If medication helped 'a bit' but not enough…
🍀 It’s about regulation, not willpower.
🍀 It’s about overload, not failure.
If you’ve spent years collecting diagnoses that never quite fit…
If medication helped 'a bit' but not enough…
February 3, 2026 at 8:13 PM
🍀 ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, not a mood disorder.
🍀 It’s about regulation, not willpower.
🍀 It’s about overload, not failure.
If you’ve spent years collecting diagnoses that never quite fit…
If medication helped 'a bit' but not enough…
🍀 It’s about regulation, not willpower.
🍀 It’s about overload, not failure.
If you’ve spent years collecting diagnoses that never quite fit…
If medication helped 'a bit' but not enough…
Yes, depression can develop because of years of burnout and self-blame.
Yes, emotional intensity is real, but that doesn’t mean bipolar - it means we're having our emotional needs ignored - we are crying out for help, but you're not hearing it.
Yes, emotional intensity is real, but that doesn’t mean bipolar - it means we're having our emotional needs ignored - we are crying out for help, but you're not hearing it.
February 3, 2026 at 8:13 PM
Yes, depression can develop because of years of burnout and self-blame.
Yes, emotional intensity is real, but that doesn’t mean bipolar - it means we're having our emotional needs ignored - we are crying out for help, but you're not hearing it.
Yes, emotional intensity is real, but that doesn’t mean bipolar - it means we're having our emotional needs ignored - we are crying out for help, but you're not hearing it.
Lastly, no, not 'Everyone feels like this sometimes'.
ADHD in women is often misdiagnosed, missed, or masked 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 we’ve spent a lifetime being told to be good, quiet, capable, and low-maintenance.
Yes, anxiety can show up alongside ADHD.
ADHD in women is often misdiagnosed, missed, or masked 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 we’ve spent a lifetime being told to be good, quiet, capable, and low-maintenance.
Yes, anxiety can show up alongside ADHD.
February 3, 2026 at 8:13 PM
Lastly, no, not 'Everyone feels like this sometimes'.
ADHD in women is often misdiagnosed, missed, or masked 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 we’ve spent a lifetime being told to be good, quiet, capable, and low-maintenance.
Yes, anxiety can show up alongside ADHD.
ADHD in women is often misdiagnosed, missed, or masked 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 we’ve spent a lifetime being told to be good, quiet, capable, and low-maintenance.
Yes, anxiety can show up alongside ADHD.
This.
ADHD in women is NOT…
❌ Bipolar
❌ General anxiety disorder
❌ Depression
❌ Borderline personality disorder
Nor is it being 'too emotional', or lazy, or disorganised on purpose.
It's definitely not a personality flaw, or a lack of resilience (we the most GD resilient people I know)
ADHD in women is NOT…
❌ Bipolar
❌ General anxiety disorder
❌ Depression
❌ Borderline personality disorder
Nor is it being 'too emotional', or lazy, or disorganised on purpose.
It's definitely not a personality flaw, or a lack of resilience (we the most GD resilient people I know)
February 3, 2026 at 8:11 PM
This.
ADHD in women is NOT…
❌ Bipolar
❌ General anxiety disorder
❌ Depression
❌ Borderline personality disorder
Nor is it being 'too emotional', or lazy, or disorganised on purpose.
It's definitely not a personality flaw, or a lack of resilience (we the most GD resilient people I know)
ADHD in women is NOT…
❌ Bipolar
❌ General anxiety disorder
❌ Depression
❌ Borderline personality disorder
Nor is it being 'too emotional', or lazy, or disorganised on purpose.
It's definitely not a personality flaw, or a lack of resilience (we the most GD resilient people I know)
Not luck, choice.
Not magic, mojo.
Not a stroke of fortune, but our spark returning.
Your mojo may have been buried under expectations, over-committing, holding up half the sky, feeding everyone and doing all the things. It's time to drop some things off your to-do list and to put you first 🍀
Not magic, mojo.
Not a stroke of fortune, but our spark returning.
Your mojo may have been buried under expectations, over-committing, holding up half the sky, feeding everyone and doing all the things. It's time to drop some things off your to-do list and to put you first 🍀
February 2, 2026 at 7:52 AM
Not luck, choice.
Not magic, mojo.
Not a stroke of fortune, but our spark returning.
Your mojo may have been buried under expectations, over-committing, holding up half the sky, feeding everyone and doing all the things. It's time to drop some things off your to-do list and to put you first 🍀
Not magic, mojo.
Not a stroke of fortune, but our spark returning.
Your mojo may have been buried under expectations, over-committing, holding up half the sky, feeding everyone and doing all the things. It's time to drop some things off your to-do list and to put you first 🍀
Beautifully flawed, fiercely alive, defiantly growing when and where it shouldn't. The four-leaf clover is a symbol of nature going wrong, but thriving anyway.
It's not a symbol of chance, but a reminder that you can always come home to yourself.
It's not a symbol of chance, but a reminder that you can always come home to yourself.
February 2, 2026 at 7:47 AM
Beautifully flawed, fiercely alive, defiantly growing when and where it shouldn't. The four-leaf clover is a symbol of nature going wrong, but thriving anyway.
It's not a symbol of chance, but a reminder that you can always come home to yourself.
It's not a symbol of chance, but a reminder that you can always come home to yourself.
Each leaf represents what we find in this sisterhood:
* Strength
* Softness
* Rebellion
* Reawakening
The Defiant Daughters' clover is rare, imperfect, wonky, but still found in nature - just like us.
* Strength
* Softness
* Rebellion
* Reawakening
The Defiant Daughters' clover is rare, imperfect, wonky, but still found in nature - just like us.
February 2, 2026 at 7:08 AM
Each leaf represents what we find in this sisterhood:
* Strength
* Softness
* Rebellion
* Reawakening
The Defiant Daughters' clover is rare, imperfect, wonky, but still found in nature - just like us.
* Strength
* Softness
* Rebellion
* Reawakening
The Defiant Daughters' clover is rare, imperfect, wonky, but still found in nature - just like us.
The Clover 🍀 Our Symbol
We don't use the four-leaf clover because we believe in luck. We use it because we believe in us.
For #DefiantDaughters the clover isn't a charm, it's a reminder that our mojo was never lost - just buried under expectations.
We don't use the four-leaf clover because we believe in luck. We use it because we believe in us.
For #DefiantDaughters the clover isn't a charm, it's a reminder that our mojo was never lost - just buried under expectations.
February 2, 2026 at 7:06 AM
The Clover 🍀 Our Symbol
We don't use the four-leaf clover because we believe in luck. We use it because we believe in us.
For #DefiantDaughters the clover isn't a charm, it's a reminder that our mojo was never lost - just buried under expectations.
We don't use the four-leaf clover because we believe in luck. We use it because we believe in us.
For #DefiantDaughters the clover isn't a charm, it's a reminder that our mojo was never lost - just buried under expectations.
Hi, it's me. I'm back after a break, metaphorically and literally. I've closed Radiant Chaos 🫡 I'm starting over as Defiant Daughters. Join me for support along your late-diagnosed neurodivergent journey
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
February 2, 2026 at 6:02 AM
Hi, it's me. I'm back after a break, metaphorically and literally. I've closed Radiant Chaos 🫡 I'm starting over as Defiant Daughters. Join me for support along your late-diagnosed neurodivergent journey
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed #AFAB #YouveGotThis
Having a tidy-up and found this @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social from days of yore #PfftBottom
September 25, 2025 at 5:26 AM
Having a tidy-up and found this @kermodeandmayo.bsky.social from days of yore #PfftBottom
For years, I lived my life burning candles at both ends. The patriachal, capitalist society norms of 'busy, busy, busy' is so ingrained in us that we're shamed when we slow and relax; or heaven forbid, sit down with nothing to do.
Read more here: www.patreon.com/posts/138161...
#ADHDLateDiagnosed
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#ADHDLateDiagnosed
Building a Life You Don’t Want to Escape From | Radiant Chaos ADHD
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September 9, 2025 at 9:02 AM
For years, I lived my life burning candles at both ends. The patriachal, capitalist society norms of 'busy, busy, busy' is so ingrained in us that we're shamed when we slow and relax; or heaven forbid, sit down with nothing to do.
Read more here: www.patreon.com/posts/138161...
#ADHDLateDiagnosed
Read more here: www.patreon.com/posts/138161...
#ADHDLateDiagnosed
When Patreon loses your draft? Or having to write a blog on laziness and overwhelm - twice?!
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed
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#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed
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The Myth of Laziness | Radiant Chaos ADHD
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August 31, 2025 at 5:36 AM
When Patreon loses your draft? Or having to write a blog on laziness and overwhelm - twice?!
#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed
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#ADHDWomen #ADHDLateDiagnosed
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Patreon is up and running with blogs, worksheets and support. I'm also about halfway through recording my course #TheLighthouse to enable all us late-diagnosed ADHD Chaos Queens to navigate our diagnoses.
I've been busy while I've been away...
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I've been busy while I've been away...
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Helping you navigate your late-diagnosed ADHD journey
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August 25, 2025 at 9:54 AM
Patreon is up and running with blogs, worksheets and support. I'm also about halfway through recording my course #TheLighthouse to enable all us late-diagnosed ADHD Chaos Queens to navigate our diagnoses.
I've been busy while I've been away...
www.patreon.com/c/Radiant_Ch...
I've been busy while I've been away...
www.patreon.com/c/Radiant_Ch...
I've not been on here in ages, what with #grief knocking me about after Dad died. I'm slowly coming out my cocoon. I painted my toe nails yesterday for the first time in months.
What did I miss?
What did I miss?
August 25, 2025 at 9:45 AM
I've not been on here in ages, what with #grief knocking me about after Dad died. I'm slowly coming out my cocoon. I painted my toe nails yesterday for the first time in months.
What did I miss?
What did I miss?
Is it me? Or is it ADHD? First in an occasional series of videos: youtu.be/QO3OKZTgspI
Is it me, or is it ADHD?
YouTube video by Maddie Grant | Radiant Chaos ADHD |
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August 25, 2025 at 9:43 AM
Is it me? Or is it ADHD? First in an occasional series of videos: youtu.be/QO3OKZTgspI
The world has gone to hell in a hand basket, so I'm going in! #SchittsCreekRewatchJuly2025
July 5, 2025 at 11:02 AM
The world has gone to hell in a hand basket, so I'm going in! #SchittsCreekRewatchJuly2025
Reposted by Maddie Grant | Defiant Daughters ADHD
Mural of Statue of Liberty in shame unveiled in France the day before 4th of July
July 4, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Mural of Statue of Liberty in shame unveiled in France the day before 4th of July
One of my colleagues' father passed away on Monday night.
I got nothing when Dad died, not even a card. I didn't expect anything, but it's upsetting that they'd do it for someone else, but not me.
I got nothing when Dad died, not even a card. I didn't expect anything, but it's upsetting that they'd do it for someone else, but not me.
July 2, 2025 at 11:54 PM
One of my colleagues' father passed away on Monday night.
I got nothing when Dad died, not even a card. I didn't expect anything, but it's upsetting that they'd do it for someone else, but not me.
I got nothing when Dad died, not even a card. I didn't expect anything, but it's upsetting that they'd do it for someone else, but not me.
My bag lip balm and hand cream are not in my bag
The car hand cream and lip balm are also missing.
Excuse me while I have an existential crisis.
The car hand cream and lip balm are also missing.
Excuse me while I have an existential crisis.
July 2, 2025 at 2:19 AM
My bag lip balm and hand cream are not in my bag
The car hand cream and lip balm are also missing.
Excuse me while I have an existential crisis.
The car hand cream and lip balm are also missing.
Excuse me while I have an existential crisis.