Dante L. Farrar
@dantefarrar.bsky.social
Too busy to be sad, too positive to be doubtful, too optimistic to be fearful, & too determined to be defeated.
You don’t lack ambition.
You lack follow-through.
You want the outcome.
You avoid the process.
Ambition feels good.
Consistency exposes you.
-Grown Man Game
You lack follow-through.
You want the outcome.
You avoid the process.
Ambition feels good.
Consistency exposes you.
-Grown Man Game
January 29, 2026 at 1:15 PM
You don’t lack ambition.
You lack follow-through.
You want the outcome.
You avoid the process.
Ambition feels good.
Consistency exposes you.
-Grown Man Game
You lack follow-through.
You want the outcome.
You avoid the process.
Ambition feels good.
Consistency exposes you.
-Grown Man Game
Planning is comfort. Execution is confrontation.
Planning feels safe.
Execution forces decisions.
One delays reality.
The other decides it.
Planning feels safe.
Execution forces decisions.
One delays reality.
The other decides it.
January 16, 2026 at 1:19 PM
Planning is comfort. Execution is confrontation.
Planning feels safe.
Execution forces decisions.
One delays reality.
The other decides it.
Planning feels safe.
Execution forces decisions.
One delays reality.
The other decides it.
Comfort destroys more potential than failure ever will.
One forces adaptation.
The other quietly ends ambition.
One forces adaptation.
The other quietly ends ambition.
January 15, 2026 at 11:38 AM
Comfort destroys more potential than failure ever will.
One forces adaptation.
The other quietly ends ambition.
One forces adaptation.
The other quietly ends ambition.
“Discipline begins where the ‘comfy’ feeling leaves.”
Comfort is temporary.
Requirements aren’t.
That’s where separation happens.
Comfort is temporary.
Requirements aren’t.
That’s where separation happens.
January 14, 2026 at 11:21 AM
“Discipline begins where the ‘comfy’ feeling leaves.”
Comfort is temporary.
Requirements aren’t.
That’s where separation happens.
Comfort is temporary.
Requirements aren’t.
That’s where separation happens.
Nobody’s coming to save you — and that’s the advantage.
No rescue plan.
No excuses.
Just clarity, control, and execution.
That’s leverage.
No rescue plan.
No excuses.
Just clarity, control, and execution.
That’s leverage.
January 12, 2026 at 12:39 PM
Nobody’s coming to save you — and that’s the advantage.
No rescue plan.
No excuses.
Just clarity, control, and execution.
That’s leverage.
No rescue plan.
No excuses.
Just clarity, control, and execution.
That’s leverage.
This week’s issue breaks down how grown men protect capacity, avoid burnout, and sustain momentum.
Read it. Apply it.
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Energy Management
Why Tired Men Lose Good Years
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January 11, 2026 at 4:50 PM
This week’s issue breaks down how grown men protect capacity, avoid burnout, and sustain momentum.
Read it. Apply it.
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Read it. Apply it.
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2026 isn’t asking who you want to be.
It’s demanding what you’re willing to live up to.
Welcome to the Standard.
The expectations. The discipline. The line most men won’t cross and can’t maintain.
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It’s demanding what you’re willing to live up to.
Welcome to the Standard.
The expectations. The discipline. The line most men won’t cross and can’t maintain.
📖 Read the first must-read issue of 2026:
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January 4, 2026 at 7:16 PM
2026 isn’t asking who you want to be.
It’s demanding what you’re willing to live up to.
Welcome to the Standard.
The expectations. The discipline. The line most men won’t cross and can’t maintain.
📖 Read the first must-read issue of 2026:
thegrownmangame.substack.com/p/welcome-to...
It’s demanding what you’re willing to live up to.
Welcome to the Standard.
The expectations. The discipline. The line most men won’t cross and can’t maintain.
📖 Read the first must-read issue of 2026:
thegrownmangame.substack.com/p/welcome-to...
Relax if you want, just don’t regress.
Rest is allowed.
Losing momentum isn’t.
You don’t need to grind yourself into the ground this weekend, you just need to stay aligned.
Eat. Laugh. Reset.
This new year isn’t fragile. But discipline is built on what you don’t let slide.
Rest is allowed.
Losing momentum isn’t.
You don’t need to grind yourself into the ground this weekend, you just need to stay aligned.
Eat. Laugh. Reset.
This new year isn’t fragile. But discipline is built on what you don’t let slide.
January 2, 2026 at 2:50 PM
Relax if you want, just don’t regress.
Rest is allowed.
Losing momentum isn’t.
You don’t need to grind yourself into the ground this weekend, you just need to stay aligned.
Eat. Laugh. Reset.
This new year isn’t fragile. But discipline is built on what you don’t let slide.
Rest is allowed.
Losing momentum isn’t.
You don’t need to grind yourself into the ground this weekend, you just need to stay aligned.
Eat. Laugh. Reset.
This new year isn’t fragile. But discipline is built on what you don’t let slide.
2026 isn’t about motivation, it’s about standards.
No emotional decisions.
No inconsistent effort.
No negotiating with habits that cost you progress.
Operate cleaner.
Protect the standard.
Let the results speak.
Stay dangerous.
Stay disciplined.
No emotional decisions.
No inconsistent effort.
No negotiating with habits that cost you progress.
Operate cleaner.
Protect the standard.
Let the results speak.
Stay dangerous.
Stay disciplined.
January 1, 2026 at 2:54 PM
2026 isn’t about motivation, it’s about standards.
No emotional decisions.
No inconsistent effort.
No negotiating with habits that cost you progress.
Operate cleaner.
Protect the standard.
Let the results speak.
Stay dangerous.
Stay disciplined.
No emotional decisions.
No inconsistent effort.
No negotiating with habits that cost you progress.
Operate cleaner.
Protect the standard.
Let the results speak.
Stay dangerous.
Stay disciplined.
Close the year proud, not perfect.
You learned.
You adjusted.
You took hits and kept moving.
Perfection was never the goal. Progress was.
Extract the lessons. Carry the discipline forward. Close this year proud.
Happy New Year. Stay dangerous. Stay disciplined.
You learned.
You adjusted.
You took hits and kept moving.
Perfection was never the goal. Progress was.
Extract the lessons. Carry the discipline forward. Close this year proud.
Happy New Year. Stay dangerous. Stay disciplined.
December 31, 2025 at 1:37 PM
Close the year proud, not perfect.
You learned.
You adjusted.
You took hits and kept moving.
Perfection was never the goal. Progress was.
Extract the lessons. Carry the discipline forward. Close this year proud.
Happy New Year. Stay dangerous. Stay disciplined.
You learned.
You adjusted.
You took hits and kept moving.
Perfection was never the goal. Progress was.
Extract the lessons. Carry the discipline forward. Close this year proud.
Happy New Year. Stay dangerous. Stay disciplined.
Don’t drag this year into the next one. Finish with intention.
The calendar’s almost done. That doesn’t mean you rush, it means you get deliberate.
Wrap up what needs closing.
Let go of what doesn’t belong.
Finish this year with purpose.
Two days left. Handle them with intention.
The calendar’s almost done. That doesn’t mean you rush, it means you get deliberate.
Wrap up what needs closing.
Let go of what doesn’t belong.
Finish this year with purpose.
Two days left. Handle them with intention.
December 30, 2025 at 1:00 PM
Don’t drag this year into the next one. Finish with intention.
The calendar’s almost done. That doesn’t mean you rush, it means you get deliberate.
Wrap up what needs closing.
Let go of what doesn’t belong.
Finish this year with purpose.
Two days left. Handle them with intention.
The calendar’s almost done. That doesn’t mean you rush, it means you get deliberate.
Wrap up what needs closing.
Let go of what doesn’t belong.
Finish this year with purpose.
Two days left. Handle them with intention.
The year taught you enough, don’t carry the experiences and abandon the lessons.
This year was instruction, not coincidence.
Carry what you learned.
Leave what you no longer need.
Close the year wiser.
Step into the next one sharper.
This year was instruction, not coincidence.
Carry what you learned.
Leave what you no longer need.
Close the year wiser.
Step into the next one sharper.
December 29, 2025 at 1:20 PM
The year taught you enough, don’t carry the experiences and abandon the lessons.
This year was instruction, not coincidence.
Carry what you learned.
Leave what you no longer need.
Close the year wiser.
Step into the next one sharper.
This year was instruction, not coincidence.
Carry what you learned.
Leave what you no longer need.
Close the year wiser.
Step into the next one sharper.
Slow mornings. Clear mind. No rush.
Today doesn’t need pressure.
It doesn’t need planning.
It doesn’t need performance.
Let the pace be easy
Let the mind settle
There’s power in stillness when it’s intentional
This pause isn’t falling off, it’s resetting.
Next week, we focus. Today, we restore
Today doesn’t need pressure.
It doesn’t need planning.
It doesn’t need performance.
Let the pace be easy
Let the mind settle
There’s power in stillness when it’s intentional
This pause isn’t falling off, it’s resetting.
Next week, we focus. Today, we restore
December 26, 2025 at 12:52 PM
Slow mornings. Clear mind. No rush.
Today doesn’t need pressure.
It doesn’t need planning.
It doesn’t need performance.
Let the pace be easy
Let the mind settle
There’s power in stillness when it’s intentional
This pause isn’t falling off, it’s resetting.
Next week, we focus. Today, we restore
Today doesn’t need pressure.
It doesn’t need planning.
It doesn’t need performance.
Let the pace be easy
Let the mind settle
There’s power in stillness when it’s intentional
This pause isn’t falling off, it’s resetting.
Next week, we focus. Today, we restore
Merry Christmas from Grown Man Game.
This is our gift to you.
Before you rush into what’s next, take a moment to be honest about what’s already written.
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This is our gift to you.
Before you rush into what’s next, take a moment to be honest about what’s already written.
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December 25, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Merry Christmas from Grown Man Game.
This is our gift to you.
Before you rush into what’s next, take a moment to be honest about what’s already written.
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This is our gift to you.
Before you rush into what’s next, take a moment to be honest about what’s already written.
READ. REWRITE. LIVE. is available free for a limited time.
Download here:
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Take the break. Keep the discipline.
Discipline doesn’t disappear because you slow down.
It shows up in how you rest, reset, and return.
Enjoy the pause without losing yourself in it.
Balance is grown-man work.
Discipline doesn’t disappear because you slow down.
It shows up in how you rest, reset, and return.
Enjoy the pause without losing yourself in it.
Balance is grown-man work.
December 24, 2025 at 1:20 PM
Take the break. Keep the discipline.
Discipline doesn’t disappear because you slow down.
It shows up in how you rest, reset, and return.
Enjoy the pause without losing yourself in it.
Balance is grown-man work.
Discipline doesn’t disappear because you slow down.
It shows up in how you rest, reset, and return.
Enjoy the pause without losing yourself in it.
Balance is grown-man work.
Consistency built this year. Gratitude closes it.
This year didn’t move because of luck. It moved because you showed up.
Take a moment to appreciate what consistency gave you.
Gratitude isn’t soft, it’s perspective.
Close the year thankful. Open the next one hungry.
This year didn’t move because of luck. It moved because you showed up.
Take a moment to appreciate what consistency gave you.
Gratitude isn’t soft, it’s perspective.
Close the year thankful. Open the next one hungry.
December 23, 2025 at 12:42 PM
Consistency built this year. Gratitude closes it.
This year didn’t move because of luck. It moved because you showed up.
Take a moment to appreciate what consistency gave you.
Gratitude isn’t soft, it’s perspective.
Close the year thankful. Open the next one hungry.
This year didn’t move because of luck. It moved because you showed up.
Take a moment to appreciate what consistency gave you.
Gratitude isn’t soft, it’s perspective.
Close the year thankful. Open the next one hungry.
Relax, you’re allowed to enjoy the season you worked for. Rest isn’t quitting, it’s refueling
You didn’t grind all year just to feel guilty about slowing down. This season is part of the work too
Rest doesn’t erase discipline. It restores it
Enjoy the moments
Recharge your mind
Refuel your spirit
You didn’t grind all year just to feel guilty about slowing down. This season is part of the work too
Rest doesn’t erase discipline. It restores it
Enjoy the moments
Recharge your mind
Refuel your spirit
December 22, 2025 at 11:27 AM
Relax, you’re allowed to enjoy the season you worked for. Rest isn’t quitting, it’s refueling
You didn’t grind all year just to feel guilty about slowing down. This season is part of the work too
Rest doesn’t erase discipline. It restores it
Enjoy the moments
Recharge your mind
Refuel your spirit
You didn’t grind all year just to feel guilty about slowing down. This season is part of the work too
Rest doesn’t erase discipline. It restores it
Enjoy the moments
Recharge your mind
Refuel your spirit
Whatever you’re not changing, you’re choosing.
At some point, indecision becomes a decision.
If you’re tolerating it, you’re choosing it.
If you’re repeating it, you’re reinforcing it.
If you’re avoiding it, you’re approving it.
Change it.
Or own the life that comes with keeping it.
At some point, indecision becomes a decision.
If you’re tolerating it, you’re choosing it.
If you’re repeating it, you’re reinforcing it.
If you’re avoiding it, you’re approving it.
Change it.
Or own the life that comes with keeping it.
December 19, 2025 at 12:00 PM
Whatever you’re not changing, you’re choosing.
At some point, indecision becomes a decision.
If you’re tolerating it, you’re choosing it.
If you’re repeating it, you’re reinforcing it.
If you’re avoiding it, you’re approving it.
Change it.
Or own the life that comes with keeping it.
At some point, indecision becomes a decision.
If you’re tolerating it, you’re choosing it.
If you’re repeating it, you’re reinforcing it.
If you’re avoiding it, you’re approving it.
Change it.
Or own the life that comes with keeping it.
You don’t need more clarity, you need to stop lying to yourself.
You already know what needs to change.
You already know what’s holding you back.
Most people don’t stall because they’re confused.
They stall because the truth is uncomfortable.
So stop waiting for answers you already have.
You already know what needs to change.
You already know what’s holding you back.
Most people don’t stall because they’re confused.
They stall because the truth is uncomfortable.
So stop waiting for answers you already have.
December 18, 2025 at 11:42 AM
You don’t need more clarity, you need to stop lying to yourself.
You already know what needs to change.
You already know what’s holding you back.
Most people don’t stall because they’re confused.
They stall because the truth is uncomfortable.
So stop waiting for answers you already have.
You already know what needs to change.
You already know what’s holding you back.
Most people don’t stall because they’re confused.
They stall because the truth is uncomfortable.
So stop waiting for answers you already have.
If the old version of you still feels safe, you’re not serious about change
Growth requires you to outgrow habits, identities, and patterns that protected you, but now limit you
Don’t retreat back to who you were because it feels easier
Discomfort isn’t the problem, it’s the proof you’re changing
Growth requires you to outgrow habits, identities, and patterns that protected you, but now limit you
Don’t retreat back to who you were because it feels easier
Discomfort isn’t the problem, it’s the proof you’re changing
December 17, 2025 at 12:06 PM
If the old version of you still feels safe, you’re not serious about change
Growth requires you to outgrow habits, identities, and patterns that protected you, but now limit you
Don’t retreat back to who you were because it feels easier
Discomfort isn’t the problem, it’s the proof you’re changing
Growth requires you to outgrow habits, identities, and patterns that protected you, but now limit you
Don’t retreat back to who you were because it feels easier
Discomfort isn’t the problem, it’s the proof you’re changing
If nothing in your life has changed, stop calling it growth.”
Growth isn’t a feeling.
It’s not awareness.
It’s not good intentions.
Growth leaves evidence.
Different habits.
Different standards.
Different outcomes.
If your results look the same, the work probably is too.
Growth isn’t a feeling.
It’s not awareness.
It’s not good intentions.
Growth leaves evidence.
Different habits.
Different standards.
Different outcomes.
If your results look the same, the work probably is too.
December 16, 2025 at 12:57 PM
If nothing in your life has changed, stop calling it growth.”
Growth isn’t a feeling.
It’s not awareness.
It’s not good intentions.
Growth leaves evidence.
Different habits.
Different standards.
Different outcomes.
If your results look the same, the work probably is too.
Growth isn’t a feeling.
It’s not awareness.
It’s not good intentions.
Growth leaves evidence.
Different habits.
Different standards.
Different outcomes.
If your results look the same, the work probably is too.
You read your story.
Most men stopped there.
Part 2 dropped yesterday, and this is where the real work starts.
If you haven’t read “You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
Catch up now.
🔗 Read Part 2:
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Most men stopped there.
Part 2 dropped yesterday, and this is where the real work starts.
If you haven’t read “You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
Catch up now.
🔗 Read Part 2:
open.substack.com/pub/thegrown...
You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It. Part 2 of the December Series: Reconstruction & Renewal
Reflection shows you the truth. Reconstruction shows you the power.
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December 15, 2025 at 4:23 PM
You read your story.
Most men stopped there.
Part 2 dropped yesterday, and this is where the real work starts.
If you haven’t read “You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
Catch up now.
🔗 Read Part 2:
open.substack.com/pub/thegrown...
Most men stopped there.
Part 2 dropped yesterday, and this is where the real work starts.
If you haven’t read “You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
Catch up now.
🔗 Read Part 2:
open.substack.com/pub/thegrown...
You’re not stuck. You've gotten comfortable repeating the same chapter.
Same habits. Same excuses. Same outcomes, just a different day on the calendar.
Being “stuck” sounds passive.
Comfort is a choice.
You need the courage to stop living the familiar version of your life.
Same habits. Same excuses. Same outcomes, just a different day on the calendar.
Being “stuck” sounds passive.
Comfort is a choice.
You need the courage to stop living the familiar version of your life.
December 15, 2025 at 1:18 PM
You’re not stuck. You've gotten comfortable repeating the same chapter.
Same habits. Same excuses. Same outcomes, just a different day on the calendar.
Being “stuck” sounds passive.
Comfort is a choice.
You need the courage to stop living the familiar version of your life.
Same habits. Same excuses. Same outcomes, just a different day on the calendar.
Being “stuck” sounds passive.
Comfort is a choice.
You need the courage to stop living the familiar version of your life.
This Sunday, we shift from reflection to reconstruction.
Part 2 of the December Series drops:
“You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
If Part 1 showed you the truth...
Part 2 gives you the tools to rebuild it.
Get ready. This is the blueprint.
substack.com/@thegrownman...
Part 2 of the December Series drops:
“You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
If Part 1 showed you the truth...
Part 2 gives you the tools to rebuild it.
Get ready. This is the blueprint.
substack.com/@thegrownman...
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December 13, 2025 at 6:52 PM
This Sunday, we shift from reflection to reconstruction.
Part 2 of the December Series drops:
“You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
If Part 1 showed you the truth...
Part 2 gives you the tools to rebuild it.
Get ready. This is the blueprint.
substack.com/@thegrownman...
Part 2 of the December Series drops:
“You’ve Read Your Story. Now Rewrite It.”
If Part 1 showed you the truth...
Part 2 gives you the tools to rebuild it.
Get ready. This is the blueprint.
substack.com/@thegrownman...