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Chatting With The Lightkeeper
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What fetish was given the title of 2025’s #fetish of the year? It is one that has fascinated people for centuries & now has a month dedicated to its celebration.

Discover this Fetish in this special Black Friday edition of Fetish Friday. #bdsm #d/s
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Chastity Kink: 2025's Fetish Of The Year - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Chastity that has fascinated for centuries and now it ranks as the thirteenth most 'Googled' kink and was named the 2025 fetish of the year.
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November 28, 2025 at 4:19 PM
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Do you struggle to give yourself grace?

Grace can bring growth, if we let it. This Wordsmith Wednesday’s #poem explores grace and how it has transformed my #relationship.

Can #grace help you grow? Find out in Grace, Three...
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Grace, Three - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Wordsmith Wednesday's verse brings to life the impact grace has had in my relationship. Even under the weight of life, grace is good.
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November 26, 2025 at 4:41 PM
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Myths often grow out of something people want to believe
and in D/S, there is a legend that #dominance is the last bastion of #gentlemen. Discover why #D/S is not the last stand gentleman in this week’s Monday Minute:
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Dominance and the Myth of the Gentleman - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
There is a persistent myth floating around BDSM spaces that dominant men are somehow the last refuge of gentlemanly behavior, as if identifying as dominant automatically makes someone a walking exampl...
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November 24, 2025 at 1:34 PM
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Curious about how collars work in #D/S relationships? Want to spot signs of a cheap dominant? Need a break from football?

My podcast, Chatting With The Lightkeeper, covers it all. Tap the link to watch today: youtu.be/UfbOvFkVdNw?...
#podcast #BDSM #collar #collaring #d/srelationship
The Cheap Dominant Test Plus Collars and Collaring In BDSM - S.4 Episode Twenty-Three
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November 23, 2025 at 6:27 PM
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With the fall chill in the air, many are breaking them out but their impact goes far beyond warmth. They can conceal & reveal create erotic sensation. This Fetish Friday explors #gloves as objects of sensual fascination. #BDSM #D/S #kink
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Gloves From Pharaohs To Fetish Clubs - An Erotic Adventure - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Over time, gloves have moved from simple protection to objects of style and even desire. Learn how they became such a sensual fetish.
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November 21, 2025 at 2:41 PM
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What does it feel like to have a #collar placed on your neck or place one on someone you trust?

Wordsmith Wednesday explores the weight and meaning of that moment. One poem captures the pulse, the breath, the gravity of a bond. #D/S #BDSM #poem
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This Bond Without End - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
For this Wordsmith Wednesday the poem takes an intimate look at the thoughts and hearts of a D/S couple in the middle of their collaring ceremony
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November 19, 2025 at 3:46 PM
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A #dominant must balance authority with empathy, and understand that their role includes providing support and nurturing the growth of their #submissive.
#BDSM #D/S
November 18, 2025 at 3:06 PM
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Has #Master become confused with masturbator?
It was a title offered as recognition of dedication but now it has become something slapped on an Insta bio at 2am. This week’s Monday Minute separates genuine mastery from posturing:
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Master Versus Masturbator In BDSM: Can You Spot the Difference? - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Being a master now is as simple as slapping it on a FetLife or Insta bio at 2 am. This title used to be given by others, never just stuck on a profile. It
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November 17, 2025 at 1:44 PM
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Would My Lady care to accompany me to a #spanking club?

That invitation might have been whispered in #Victorian England as it contained a secret world of underground desires.

Discover this side of Victorians in this week's #Fetish Friday:
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BDSM In Victorian England: Vanilla Books And Kinky Characters? - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Could you be “kinky” in Victorian England? Yes, you could be; it is actually documented, and it is far more fascinating than you expect.
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November 14, 2025 at 3:10 PM
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#Dominants are normal humans, just like anyone & here are a few reminders to cut through the myths:

-They can/will say no
-Have/maintain their limits & boundaries
-Are not perpetually horny
-May be firm, gentle, or a combination
-Will make mistakes
-Need attention
-Have emotions

#BDSM #D/S
November 13, 2025 at 9:21 PM
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Wordsmith Wednesday is taking a sick day, Norovirus had other plans for me. But Monday’s #poem still deserves the spotlight, catch it on my site if you missed it. #poetry
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The Lighthouses Remember - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
The Edmund Fitzgerald was an ore freighter, the biggest on the lakes when she launched and this poem is to honor those lost in its sinking.
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November 12, 2025 at 1:37 PM
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Have you noticed how some watch a #BDSM movie and start acting like a movie star #dom?

Instantly it becomes 50 shades of drama, noise, and popcorn crumbs and this Monday Minute draws the line between the silver screen and ethical #dominance.
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Ethical D/S: Not What the Movies Taught You - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
The movies have been feeding everyone a load of nonsense about dominance for decades. Hollywood needs drama that translates on screen, so they give us dominants who yell and posture and treat every in...
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November 10, 2025 at 2:28 PM
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One of the greatest things a #dominant can do for their #submissive is to silence their mind by creating a place where they can let go of the cares of the world and simply be. #bdsm #d/s
November 9, 2025 at 4:28 PM
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Almost half of people report having a #fetish, but have you ever wondered where they come from? This Fetish Friday examines the reasons behind them using research, not opinion polls, yeah science!

Find out what might be behind yours. #BDSM #D/S
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Why Do People Have Fetishes? The Science Behind Them - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Why do some people get turned on by leather while others could not care less? Why does the sight of a specific type of shoe send one person's pulse racing while leaving another completely unmoved? It ...
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November 7, 2025 at 2:13 PM
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Sometimes in this world of #kinks, #fetishes, and casual #sex, great conversations can feel like a new way to make love.
a man is hugging a woman on the beach
ALT: a man is hugging a woman on the beach
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November 7, 2025 at 12:20 AM
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Some say “I want you” and others “I need you”.

This Wordsmith Wednesday’s #poem explores choice.

Would you rather be #wanted, #needed, or #chosen? #poetry
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I Choose You - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
This Wordsmith Wednesday poem explores the difference between "I want you", "I need you", and "I choose you". Explore this epic verse.
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November 5, 2025 at 3:04 PM
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Has life ever moved at warp speed for you? Have you ever struggled to manage D/S while at light speed?

This week’s Monday Minute is here to help providing practical ideas on how to manage life and lifestyle. #D/S #BDSM #kinkeducation #BDSMeducation
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How to Keep Your D/S Relationship Strong When Life Gets Chaotic - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Finding ways to maintain your D/S relationship when life feels overwhelming, can feel impossible but this piece is here to help see you through.
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November 3, 2025 at 1:19 PM
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Do you know what is fabulous about #BDSM and Halloween?

Halloween offers a unique opportunity, discover how All Hallows Eve grants permission to step into the daylight. As long as you are not a vampire!

Find out how in this week’s Fet Friday.
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Fetish Wear-ween: The Night You Do Not Have to Wear a Mask - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
Happy Fetish Friday, and happy Halloween! Tonight offers something rare: the chance to explore why one night a year grants permission denied every other day, and how people who wear leather, latex, an...
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October 31, 2025 at 1:03 PM
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There is nothing wrong with being #kinky or involved in #BDSM.

Never apologize for being yourself.
October 30, 2025 at 6:53 PM
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What is luxury? Coffee in a Styrofoam cup? Rain pouring in through an open car window? A haunting, relentless ghost brought on by song? #poem #poetry

This Wordsmith Wednesday’s verse strips the shine off luxury
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Luxury - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
This Wordsmith Wednesday poem is in search of that thing that is always just out of reach, the luxury. Have you searched for it too?
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October 29, 2025 at 1:23 PM
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What do the Spice Girls and #BDSM have in common? Find out in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast and discover just how common what we call uncommon actually is.

Available wherever you get your #podcasts or tap the link to watch it on YouTube.
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In BDSM and Kink You've Gotta Tell’m What You Really Want S.4 Episode 22 #alternativelifestyle
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October 28, 2025 at 12:04 PM
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Ever wonder why dominance is assumed to be loud and impossible to ignore?

This Monday Minute explains how it can be the opposite. Learn how these myths can distort authentic dominance. #bdsm #d/s #kinkeducation
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The Quiet Dominant: Why D/S Does Not Require Extroversion - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
People assume dominance must be loud, impossible to ignore, and full of spectacle. Movies, porn, and corporate culture have hammered that image into the collective imagination. Dominance, in D/S, is o...
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October 27, 2025 at 11:47 AM
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Ready for a soleful adventure?

Almost half of people have a foot fetish, so why is something this common treated like a secret?

The week’s Fetish Friday will not step on your toes, so walk on over & see what all the fuss is about. #bdsm #fetish
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Foot Fetishes A Soleful Adventure - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
47% of people have a foot fetish, so why does it feel taboo? From ancient China to your bedroom discover why feet, for some, are so damn hot.
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October 24, 2025 at 2:14 PM
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You can be an amazing submissive & still:

- Say no
- Prioritize your needs
- Express your wants
- Disagree
- Address harmful behavior
- Walk away from bad behavior
- Trust your instincts
- Take breaks when needed
- Set/keep boundaries
- Maintain your independence

What would you add? #BDSM
October 23, 2025 at 6:44 PM
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Every try to leave a place or person that never let you go?

Some refuse to say goodbye and this Wordsmith Wednesday returns with The Escape. A #poem about leaving and what still follows. #poetry #wordsmithwednesday
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The Escape - Chatting With The Lightkeeper
This poem for Wordsmith Wednesday examines life in a small town and what it takes to escape from that same place.
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October 22, 2025 at 2:23 PM