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Bethany (she/her)
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Spiritual Director, Enneagram coach (9w8 ,sx). Community Choir Director.
My favorite sayings - “You gotta try stuff.” “Something will happen.” “Breathe.” “Pause.”
DMA & MM, choral conducting; BS Music Ed
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Hey ya’ll, what’s up?
My TLDR life story:
Good childhood, sang a ton, spiritual awakening in Scotland and the gentlest deconstruction, singing II teacher’s edition, grad school in arm waving^2, singing III professor’s edition,
spiritual direction training, Enneagram training.
How can I help you?
My office tonight- 2 choir concerts down, 5 to go.
December 7, 2024 at 11:44 PM
Enneagram PoTD: We don’t type other people in the enneagram because people choose the same behaviors for wildly different reasons.
Someone controlling at work?
You don’t know if it’s because they need to get it right (1), get it done (3), avoid hazards (6), or avoid being controlled by others (8).
December 5, 2024 at 12:53 PM
Advent 5:
The movement of the Divine may not have anything to do with the issues of the day (or at least in the way the issues are seen)
The census of an empire for taxation; massive moves of the population as they comply.
Vs.
Pregnancy, unexpected and complicated.

I wonder what else I’m missing.
December 5, 2024 at 12:47 PM
I’ve had a string of students (elementary) this year start crying in music class because they miss their grandparents/great grandparents who have passed. I am heartbroken seeing their tears and don’t know quite how to help beyond offering a hug if they want one and sending them to the school psych.
December 4, 2024 at 2:39 PM
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Most translations render the symbol of God's covenant to Noah and humanity as "rainbow," and we all agree that's what God was referring to, but the Hebrew word here is literally "bow," as in an archer's bow. A weapon of war.

The imagery is that God has hung up the weapon.
December 3, 2024 at 5:40 PM
Advent 3:
Incarnation is ubiquitous mystery.
Every day we put our thoughts into action, our words into reality. We take this for granted so often, but it’s always there. Advent invites us to pause and become aware of incarnation in the Divine, and invites the same awareness into our own life.
December 4, 2024 at 2:37 AM
Enneagram PotD:
Instinctual drives make a huge difference in how type is expressed. Self-preservation, one-to-one (sometimes called sexual), or social instincts create varying, priorities, levels of intensity, and focus. Combining the instinct with the type produces a subtype. All worth exploration.
December 4, 2024 at 2:29 AM
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I am so tired of a Christianity that brings “Good News” through domination rather than incarnation. #advent
December 2, 2024 at 8:33 PM
Enneagram POtD:
External behavior does not determine type.
Extrovert/introvert tendencies do not determine type.
Socially valued characteristics do not determine type.

To discover type, you’ve got to peel back the layers to get to existential fears and core motivations.

It might take a few tries.
December 2, 2024 at 9:27 PM
Advent 2: Context matters.
An occupied territory, oppressed class, socially unacceptable circumstances, away from home and forced to migrate further due to violence from the authorities…
This is the world Jesus entered; not full grown but like all of us, subject to the context into which we’re born.
December 2, 2024 at 12:47 PM
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We toss around "cursed" and "blessed" like they mean "rejected" and "favored" or "evil" and "good," but the words have a different function.

Though not linguistically connected, "cursed" is associated with "binding," and "blessing" is associated with "releasing."

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December 2, 2024 at 1:12 AM
We call all 4 paws together: dogfoot bouquet.
#dogfootbouquet
December 2, 2024 at 1:11 AM
So I don’t talk about this often, but when I was a kid, I lifted my favorite stick up to the sky and screamed “SNOW”, and we had the biggest ice storm in decades.
Today I just softly said “Snow” to the sky and we’re getting unexpected flurries for 30 min.

#stillgotit #gottapractice
December 2, 2024 at 1:04 AM
Spiritual Direction post of the day:
Advent - the watching and waiting season; hoping with wonder in the dark. Reflecting back on all that has led to where we are. I have always treasured it.
December 1, 2024 at 7:45 PM
Enneagram post of the day:
I get a kick out of the buzzfeed-quiz style enneagram memes and posts as much as anyone. I love to laugh at our collective absurdity.

But true (and ethical) use of the enneagram invites more question and reflection, less stereotypes and boxes to fit in.
December 1, 2024 at 7:34 PM
Winter concert season in 3…2…1…
November 30, 2024 at 9:50 PM
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It is difficult to get a man to understand how harmful a doctrine is when he believes his eternal fate depends on it.
November 30, 2024 at 3:07 PM
Music post of the day:
I started listening to the music from Wicked my freshman year of college, several years before I saw it on stage.
When I did, I was so disappointed - the same feeling of seeing a movie of your favorite book that let your imagination down.
I’ll let you know about the movie.
November 30, 2024 at 4:04 PM
First real frost of the year!
November 30, 2024 at 1:24 PM
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"The greatest need of our time is to clean out the enormous mass of mental and emotional rubbish that clutters our minds." #silence #solitude

~ Thomas Merton, No Man Is An Island
November 30, 2024 at 1:03 PM
SD post of the day:
Whitman quote used in RVW’s Dona Nobis Pacem

Word over all, beautiful as the sky! Beautiful that war, and all its deeds of carnage, must in time be utterly lost; That the hands of the sisters Death and Night, incessantly softly wash again, and ever again, this soil’d world.
November 30, 2024 at 1:12 PM
Enneagram post of the day:
Enneagram do’s and don’ts -
Don’t type other people.
Don’t use your type as an excuse for bad behavior or refusal to grow.
Don’t stop at finding your type number. (Cause then it’s just a party game)
Don’t reduce others to a stereotype - all types are expressed uniquely.
November 30, 2024 at 1:03 PM
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Trump won the Electoral College, but winning with less than 50% of the vote is not a landslide, and it certainly doesn’t give him a mandate, especially when he had one of the smallest wins in history.

We can’t let anyone forget that.
November 29, 2024 at 7:24 PM
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Yes. It's only indoctrination if it deviates from what Christian Nationalists experience as "normal, good, and healthy".
Can someone explain to me how putting a rainbow in a classroom is “indoctrination,” but the Ten Commandments isn’t?
November 29, 2024 at 9:50 PM
Favorite part of Thanksgiving dinner: pie breakfast on Friday
November 29, 2024 at 5:44 PM