Brad Desmond
@braddesmond.bsky.social
Psychologist posting about life and happiness and stuff like that.
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Brad Desmond
@braddesmond.bsky.social
· Jan 11
Richard Nixon tried to deport John Lennon and stop his peace activism.
Today his song ‘Imagine’ was performed at Jimmy Carter’s funeral.
Life is funny sometimes.
Today his song ‘Imagine’ was performed at Jimmy Carter’s funeral.
Life is funny sometimes.
The best goals are psychology goals.
This year..
Less oversharing – Not everyone with ears is your friend.
Less inner critic. – speak as kindly to yourself as you do others.
Less ‘people pleasing’ - No one respects a doormat.
What else?
This year..
Less oversharing – Not everyone with ears is your friend.
Less inner critic. – speak as kindly to yourself as you do others.
Less ‘people pleasing’ - No one respects a doormat.
What else?
January 1, 2026 at 1:28 AM
The best goals are psychology goals.
This year..
Less oversharing – Not everyone with ears is your friend.
Less inner critic. – speak as kindly to yourself as you do others.
Less ‘people pleasing’ - No one respects a doormat.
What else?
This year..
Less oversharing – Not everyone with ears is your friend.
Less inner critic. – speak as kindly to yourself as you do others.
Less ‘people pleasing’ - No one respects a doormat.
What else?
I know it's fashionable to reject New Year's resolutions. But it’s still a good idea to adopt better habits. And if you start now, a few days early, you give yourself a head start for 2026.
December 26, 2025 at 9:30 AM
I know it's fashionable to reject New Year's resolutions. But it’s still a good idea to adopt better habits. And if you start now, a few days early, you give yourself a head start for 2026.
It's painful to accept narcissists never change. But staying out of false hope is like pulling the Band-Aid off slowly.
December 25, 2025 at 10:15 AM
It's painful to accept narcissists never change. But staying out of false hope is like pulling the Band-Aid off slowly.
Sending hugs to anyone feeling the pressure to be happy today. You are fine, just as you are.
December 25, 2025 at 9:24 AM
Sending hugs to anyone feeling the pressure to be happy today. You are fine, just as you are.
Time off is great. But if you need the holidays to 'recharge', your job is slowly killing you.
December 22, 2025 at 11:27 PM
Time off is great. But if you need the holidays to 'recharge', your job is slowly killing you.
This Christmas protect yourself from gaslight. Value your reality over their arguments.
December 20, 2025 at 5:59 AM
This Christmas protect yourself from gaslight. Value your reality over their arguments.
Food is a great metaphor. Like picking and choosing at a buffet, I connect with some people and walk past others. I decide.
December 20, 2025 at 4:40 AM
Food is a great metaphor. Like picking and choosing at a buffet, I connect with some people and walk past others. I decide.
Double down on mental health.
Improve gut health, sleep, exercise, time with loved ones, pampering, mindfulness and gratitude. Create safety, and routine and find some meaningful activity.
Self-care is everything. Don't leave it to chance.
Improve gut health, sleep, exercise, time with loved ones, pampering, mindfulness and gratitude. Create safety, and routine and find some meaningful activity.
Self-care is everything. Don't leave it to chance.
December 15, 2025 at 8:20 AM
Double down on mental health.
Improve gut health, sleep, exercise, time with loved ones, pampering, mindfulness and gratitude. Create safety, and routine and find some meaningful activity.
Self-care is everything. Don't leave it to chance.
Improve gut health, sleep, exercise, time with loved ones, pampering, mindfulness and gratitude. Create safety, and routine and find some meaningful activity.
Self-care is everything. Don't leave it to chance.
Australia has now banned social media for all kids under 16. I can already feel their mental health improving.
December 10, 2025 at 9:28 PM
Australia has now banned social media for all kids under 16. I can already feel their mental health improving.
The best parenting tip is the one nobody wants to hear.
- 'Your kids will ignore everything you say, and copy everything you do.'
- 'Your kids will ignore everything you say, and copy everything you do.'
November 28, 2025 at 11:07 PM
The best parenting tip is the one nobody wants to hear.
- 'Your kids will ignore everything you say, and copy everything you do.'
- 'Your kids will ignore everything you say, and copy everything you do.'
When I accept I can't change anyone, I can listen more deeply.
Upon being heard, the person discovers their truth; they grow and change.
Such an awesome contradiction.
Upon being heard, the person discovers their truth; they grow and change.
Such an awesome contradiction.
November 28, 2025 at 11:07 PM
When I accept I can't change anyone, I can listen more deeply.
Upon being heard, the person discovers their truth; they grow and change.
Such an awesome contradiction.
Upon being heard, the person discovers their truth; they grow and change.
Such an awesome contradiction.
In his book “The Road Less Travelled." Scott Peck warns against 'Cheap Forgiveness.' That is, forgiving others too easily to avoid the painful feelings associated with the hurt done to us. This actually blocks healing.
Do you agree?
Do you agree?
November 9, 2025 at 9:00 AM
In his book “The Road Less Travelled." Scott Peck warns against 'Cheap Forgiveness.' That is, forgiving others too easily to avoid the painful feelings associated with the hurt done to us. This actually blocks healing.
Do you agree?
Do you agree?
Elon Musk wanting more money shows money never gives long-term fulfilment. He’s like an addict getting a fix, and thinking of the next one.
November 7, 2025 at 11:06 PM
Elon Musk wanting more money shows money never gives long-term fulfilment. He’s like an addict getting a fix, and thinking of the next one.
Do you feel guilty when you look away from the unpleasant things happening in the world right now?
October 4, 2025 at 8:44 AM
Do you feel guilty when you look away from the unpleasant things happening in the world right now?
“You don’t need to be famous. You don’t need to be flawless. You only need to show up — fully — for the life that is still yours.” - Patricia Routledge:
October 3, 2025 at 11:49 PM
“You don’t need to be famous. You don’t need to be flawless. You only need to show up — fully — for the life that is still yours.” - Patricia Routledge:
Beyond the red flags..don't miss the good stuff.
September 29, 2025 at 10:11 PM
Beyond the red flags..don't miss the good stuff.
"When I look at the world collectively I’m pessimistic, but when I meet with individuals I am optimistic."
- Carl Rogers.
- Carl Rogers.
September 25, 2025 at 7:17 AM
"When I look at the world collectively I’m pessimistic, but when I meet with individuals I am optimistic."
- Carl Rogers.
- Carl Rogers.
Dear ABC.
The world just saw one of your employees verbally attacked by the world's most powerful man. Please check that he is okay. And don't just tick a box. Actually support him and reaffirm his job security.
The world just saw one of your employees verbally attacked by the world's most powerful man. Please check that he is okay. And don't just tick a box. Actually support him and reaffirm his job security.
September 18, 2025 at 9:56 PM
Dear ABC.
The world just saw one of your employees verbally attacked by the world's most powerful man. Please check that he is okay. And don't just tick a box. Actually support him and reaffirm his job security.
The world just saw one of your employees verbally attacked by the world's most powerful man. Please check that he is okay. And don't just tick a box. Actually support him and reaffirm his job security.
'Don't hold back. The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.'
- Irvin D. Yalom
- Irvin D. Yalom
September 18, 2025 at 2:29 AM
'Don't hold back. The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.'
- Irvin D. Yalom
- Irvin D. Yalom
‘Empathy’ is not a new age term.
Empathy comes from the Greek for emotional involvement. Empathy was found by humanistic therapists to be catalyst for growth and therapeutic change. Empathy makes better therapists, partners, parents, friends and leaders.
We need more empathy.
Empathy comes from the Greek for emotional involvement. Empathy was found by humanistic therapists to be catalyst for growth and therapeutic change. Empathy makes better therapists, partners, parents, friends and leaders.
We need more empathy.
September 11, 2025 at 9:34 AM
‘Empathy’ is not a new age term.
Empathy comes from the Greek for emotional involvement. Empathy was found by humanistic therapists to be catalyst for growth and therapeutic change. Empathy makes better therapists, partners, parents, friends and leaders.
We need more empathy.
Empathy comes from the Greek for emotional involvement. Empathy was found by humanistic therapists to be catalyst for growth and therapeutic change. Empathy makes better therapists, partners, parents, friends and leaders.
We need more empathy.
I never met a happy racist. Accepting diversity is a parallel process to self-acceptance. People either develop both, or neither.
September 1, 2025 at 5:02 AM
I never met a happy racist. Accepting diversity is a parallel process to self-acceptance. People either develop both, or neither.
How do we encourage people to grow out of racism?
September 1, 2025 at 4:15 AM
How do we encourage people to grow out of racism?
The sound of gaslight.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did…
You deserved it.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did…
You deserved it.
August 27, 2025 at 10:05 PM
The sound of gaslight.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did…
You deserved it.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did…
You deserved it.
With so much ugliness in the world, deliberate distraction is legitimate self-care.
“Denial can be healthy if it allows time for the individual to absorb harsh realities gradually.”
- George Vaillant.
“Denial can be healthy if it allows time for the individual to absorb harsh realities gradually.”
- George Vaillant.
August 27, 2025 at 1:02 AM
With so much ugliness in the world, deliberate distraction is legitimate self-care.
“Denial can be healthy if it allows time for the individual to absorb harsh realities gradually.”
- George Vaillant.
“Denial can be healthy if it allows time for the individual to absorb harsh realities gradually.”
- George Vaillant.