Thinking today about the women who shaped me.
One rejected the religion of her ancestry and turned down an arranged marriage, walked away from tradition, and bravely built a life on her own terms. Her 'no' was a quiet, radical act of rebellion.
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One rejected the religion of her ancestry and turned down an arranged marriage, walked away from tradition, and bravely built a life on her own terms. Her 'no' was a quiet, radical act of rebellion.
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May 11, 2025 at 2:39 PM
Thinking today about the women who shaped me.
One rejected the religion of her ancestry and turned down an arranged marriage, walked away from tradition, and bravely built a life on her own terms. Her 'no' was a quiet, radical act of rebellion.
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One rejected the religion of her ancestry and turned down an arranged marriage, walked away from tradition, and bravely built a life on her own terms. Her 'no' was a quiet, radical act of rebellion.
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When you’ve spent your entire life being taught there’s only one way to be happy, it takes incredible courage to say “I’m not happy here”.
To all who have left the religions that harmed you and built a new life for yourself, I see you. I honor you.
We have risen. ❤️
To all who have left the religions that harmed you and built a new life for yourself, I see you. I honor you.
We have risen. ❤️
April 20, 2025 at 7:52 PM
When you’ve spent your entire life being taught there’s only one way to be happy, it takes incredible courage to say “I’m not happy here”.
To all who have left the religions that harmed you and built a new life for yourself, I see you. I honor you.
We have risen. ❤️
To all who have left the religions that harmed you and built a new life for yourself, I see you. I honor you.
We have risen. ❤️
Real divine inspiration from church leaders would look like protecting victims. It would not look like shaming them, blaming them, or demand they forgive their abusers. It certainly would never include excommunicating them. Inspired leadership would never lead to punishing the wounded.
April 11, 2025 at 5:34 PM
Real divine inspiration from church leaders would look like protecting victims. It would not look like shaming them, blaming them, or demand they forgive their abusers. It certainly would never include excommunicating them. Inspired leadership would never lead to punishing the wounded.
A huge problem with religion is, "does this theology cause harm?" is never asked. It’s just, "is it true?" Once you’ve decided your beliefs are true, the harm caused is irrelevant and can be blamed on the failure of person claiming harm, rather than blaming the harmful theology.
March 30, 2025 at 8:45 PM
A huge problem with religion is, "does this theology cause harm?" is never asked. It’s just, "is it true?" Once you’ve decided your beliefs are true, the harm caused is irrelevant and can be blamed on the failure of person claiming harm, rather than blaming the harmful theology.
The church was built for married men, designed to serve their needs and reinforce their authority. So when married Mormon men tell me how much peace and happiness the church brings them, it's like no shit, dude. You're benefiting from a system made explicitly for you.
February 23, 2025 at 7:22 PM
The church was built for married men, designed to serve their needs and reinforce their authority. So when married Mormon men tell me how much peace and happiness the church brings them, it's like no shit, dude. You're benefiting from a system made explicitly for you.
1️⃣ As an unmarried Mormon, the stress of being single was overwhelming. It was hard enough to be alone, but knowing my eternal happiness and salvation depended on marriage was both painful and terrifying.
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February 11, 2025 at 4:23 PM
1️⃣ As an unmarried Mormon, the stress of being single was overwhelming. It was hard enough to be alone, but knowing my eternal happiness and salvation depended on marriage was both painful and terrifying.
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When I first left Mormonism, it felt like my world crumbed and the floor dropped out below me. That’s to be expected when you realize your entire worldview is incorrect. The good news is that it gets better and as you put your life back together, life is more beautiful than ever.
February 7, 2025 at 6:12 PM
When I first left Mormonism, it felt like my world crumbed and the floor dropped out below me. That’s to be expected when you realize your entire worldview is incorrect. The good news is that it gets better and as you put your life back together, life is more beautiful than ever.
Why didn't I leave or speak up after my first temple experience, even though it felt unsettling, bizarre, and even creepy? Because belonging was more important than my discomfort.
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February 2, 2025 at 5:36 PM
Why didn't I leave or speak up after my first temple experience, even though it felt unsettling, bizarre, and even creepy? Because belonging was more important than my discomfort.
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I’ve often felt angry at myself for not leaving Mormonism sooner; remaining in a place where I was miserable, unwelcome and forced to hide myself from those closest to me. But my struggle was not stupid or foolish. It took the time it took and happened the way it happened.
February 1, 2025 at 5:30 PM
I’ve often felt angry at myself for not leaving Mormonism sooner; remaining in a place where I was miserable, unwelcome and forced to hide myself from those closest to me. But my struggle was not stupid or foolish. It took the time it took and happened the way it happened.
The first time you are presented to converse with god at the veil.
January 21, 2025 at 2:13 AM
The first time you are presented to converse with god at the veil.
When I stopped believing in Santa, the magic left Christmas. When I stopped believing in Jesus’ divinity, the sacredness left too. Now, Christmas is about cherishing relationships, gratitude, and respecting winter’s call to rest.
However you spend the holiday, I wish you a good one.
However you spend the holiday, I wish you a good one.
December 24, 2024 at 4:32 PM
When I stopped believing in Santa, the magic left Christmas. When I stopped believing in Jesus’ divinity, the sacredness left too. Now, Christmas is about cherishing relationships, gratitude, and respecting winter’s call to rest.
However you spend the holiday, I wish you a good one.
However you spend the holiday, I wish you a good one.
You’ve heard of Elf on the Shelf, but have you heard of Lurch the Church? It’s a game where, instead of jumping through hoops to keep an illusion of belief alive, you simply stop going to church. Fun, simple, and no cognitive dissonance required!
December 23, 2024 at 8:24 PM
You’ve heard of Elf on the Shelf, but have you heard of Lurch the Church? It’s a game where, instead of jumping through hoops to keep an illusion of belief alive, you simply stop going to church. Fun, simple, and no cognitive dissonance required!
Trying to accept that I will never be able to achieve a healthy work/life balance without being rich enough to afford to hire help.
December 18, 2024 at 4:09 PM
Trying to accept that I will never be able to achieve a healthy work/life balance without being rich enough to afford to hire help.
🎶 Dashing through the snow in a one-tapir open sleigh 🎶
December 12, 2024 at 5:10 PM
🎶 Dashing through the snow in a one-tapir open sleigh 🎶
To be fair, the prophets only said they won't lead you astray; they never said they won't fuck you up.
December 8, 2024 at 4:25 PM
To be fair, the prophets only said they won't lead you astray; they never said they won't fuck you up.
A god that works in mysterious ways looks suspiciously a lot like a god who does not exist.
December 5, 2024 at 8:23 PM
A god that works in mysterious ways looks suspiciously a lot like a god who does not exist.
“It's just one of those Sundays", Mormons will say to themselves knowing full well they are in a religion that never has any other type of Sunday.
When every Sunday is a blur of meetings, responsibilities, and endless to-do lists—but you still call it a ‘day of rest.’ 😜
When every Sunday is a blur of meetings, responsibilities, and endless to-do lists—but you still call it a ‘day of rest.’ 😜
December 1, 2024 at 3:47 PM
“It's just one of those Sundays", Mormons will say to themselves knowing full well they are in a religion that never has any other type of Sunday.
When every Sunday is a blur of meetings, responsibilities, and endless to-do lists—but you still call it a ‘day of rest.’ 😜
When every Sunday is a blur of meetings, responsibilities, and endless to-do lists—but you still call it a ‘day of rest.’ 😜
The marriage privilege within Mormonism can make unmarried people feel alone, isolated and unimportant. I was a faithful, unmarried adult for almost two decades, I’ve felt this discrimination first hand. It’s difficult when you belong to a church that idolizes marriage.
November 30, 2024 at 5:48 PM
The marriage privilege within Mormonism can make unmarried people feel alone, isolated and unimportant. I was a faithful, unmarried adult for almost two decades, I’ve felt this discrimination first hand. It’s difficult when you belong to a church that idolizes marriage.
I hosted family for Thanksgiving and since I don’t believe in God, I don’t pray. Cue the Mormon awkwardness with everyone standing around waiting for me, the host, to kick things off with a prayer. So I said: “I’m grateful you’re all here, now let’s eat before we all starve.”
Just as effective.
Just as effective.
November 29, 2024 at 5:28 PM
I hosted family for Thanksgiving and since I don’t believe in God, I don’t pray. Cue the Mormon awkwardness with everyone standing around waiting for me, the host, to kick things off with a prayer. So I said: “I’m grateful you’re all here, now let’s eat before we all starve.”
Just as effective.
Just as effective.
I didn’t choose to be a Mormon; that choice was made for me by my parents. Leaving was perhaps the first real choice I ever made.
November 15, 2024 at 4:35 AM
I didn’t choose to be a Mormon; that choice was made for me by my parents. Leaving was perhaps the first real choice I ever made.
I notice I carry a lot of anxiety about never making a mistake at work—like I need to be perfect to feel secure and valued. When I do make a mistake, I end up being incredibly hard on myself, even imagining I’ll get fired, even though logically I know that’s not true.
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November 10, 2024 at 7:17 PM
I notice I carry a lot of anxiety about never making a mistake at work—like I need to be perfect to feel secure and valued. When I do make a mistake, I end up being incredibly hard on myself, even imagining I’ll get fired, even though logically I know that’s not true.
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Today feels like the day I first felt disillusioned with the LDS Church. I wanted so much for it to be what I believed and hoped it to be—a good, honest, noble organization. It broke me to realize it wasn’t.
Today, I feel that same hurt and disappointment in America.
Today, I feel that same hurt and disappointment in America.
November 6, 2024 at 7:02 PM
Today feels like the day I first felt disillusioned with the LDS Church. I wanted so much for it to be what I believed and hoped it to be—a good, honest, noble organization. It broke me to realize it wasn’t.
Today, I feel that same hurt and disappointment in America.
Today, I feel that same hurt and disappointment in America.
A haunted house, but it’s full of Young Women leaders saying, “Modest is hottest, but we’re not here to judge…”
October 17, 2024 at 8:33 PM
A haunted house, but it’s full of Young Women leaders saying, “Modest is hottest, but we’re not here to judge…”
I cannot believe I was indoctrinated to believe that a man who doesn’t earn his Eagle Scout Award won’t be a good husband and father.
February 4, 2024 at 6:05 PM
I cannot believe I was indoctrinated to believe that a man who doesn’t earn his Eagle Scout Award won’t be a good husband and father.
2024 intentions
-be thoughtful with how I spend my time
-express gratitude freely and often
-romanticize my life
-ask more questions
-spend time sitting quietly outside
-talk to myself with kindness
-lead with sympathy
-make more meals to share with friends
Tell me yours 👇🏼
-be thoughtful with how I spend my time
-express gratitude freely and often
-romanticize my life
-ask more questions
-spend time sitting quietly outside
-talk to myself with kindness
-lead with sympathy
-make more meals to share with friends
Tell me yours 👇🏼
December 30, 2023 at 5:29 PM
2024 intentions
-be thoughtful with how I spend my time
-express gratitude freely and often
-romanticize my life
-ask more questions
-spend time sitting quietly outside
-talk to myself with kindness
-lead with sympathy
-make more meals to share with friends
Tell me yours 👇🏼
-be thoughtful with how I spend my time
-express gratitude freely and often
-romanticize my life
-ask more questions
-spend time sitting quietly outside
-talk to myself with kindness
-lead with sympathy
-make more meals to share with friends
Tell me yours 👇🏼