Part 1 of a much longer video on the Democratic Party’s reliance on overfunctioning by educators, activists, content creators & ultimately voters. 🧵
November 12, 2025 at 4:54 AM
Part 1 of a much longer video on the Democratic Party’s reliance on overfunctioning by educators, activists, content creators & ultimately voters. 🧵
Compulsive behaviors: Over- or undereating, excessive spending, or addiction to distractions like social media or television.
Overfunctioning: Throwing oneself into work or other activities to avoid grief.
Overfunctioning: Throwing oneself into work or other activities to avoid grief.
November 10, 2025 at 8:14 PM
Compulsive behaviors: Over- or undereating, excessive spending, or addiction to distractions like social media or television.
Overfunctioning: Throwing oneself into work or other activities to avoid grief.
Overfunctioning: Throwing oneself into work or other activities to avoid grief.
we’re agitating to be seen and recognized for who we are inside of a dynamic that was never about us in the first place, we’re not gonna make much headway if we keep overfunctioning for what is first and foremost cis people problems
we’re being treated as a weaponized shibboleth in a broader sex war happening at the street level
November 10, 2025 at 11:28 AM
we’re agitating to be seen and recognized for who we are inside of a dynamic that was never about us in the first place, we’re not gonna make much headway if we keep overfunctioning for what is first and foremost cis people problems
How some doctors describe Moral injury or burnout. From: pnhp.org/understandin....
"I almost feel this sense of complicity in taking part in the system that ... doesn't feel very patient-centered ... Rather than pushing back and saying, "I can't see this many patients,or I need to have ample time
"I almost feel this sense of complicity in taking part in the system that ... doesn't feel very patient-centered ... Rather than pushing back and saying, "I can't see this many patients,or I need to have ample time
![Corporatized systems take advantage of physicians' professionalism
"[The patient] may not be able to afford the bandaid that [they] have to go and buy out of pocket from the drugstore. So, trying to find ways to help patients do that. I was expected to do all that in 15 min. It's undoable ... Myself and every other provider end up working 2 hours over.
Then you document after that, and it's exhausting, it's unsustainable. ! would often not be able to go to the bathroom. I was eating and charting when I had a baby. I was calling patients while pumping, and they would be like, "What's that noise in the background?" I was like,
"Oh, it's nothing. It's a machine in the background. Don't worry about it." It was unsustainable, and I really do think ... the system takes advantage of the professionalism of the docs."](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:agfiatqbana6n72px3ykhepi/bafkreic4hlxdrdpc2q36putdvlot5ygbaboatsabynmpzp6rvp7nrdwrau@jpeg)
November 6, 2025 at 9:52 PM
How some doctors describe Moral injury or burnout. From: pnhp.org/understandin....
"I almost feel this sense of complicity in taking part in the system that ... doesn't feel very patient-centered ... Rather than pushing back and saying, "I can't see this many patients,or I need to have ample time
"I almost feel this sense of complicity in taking part in the system that ... doesn't feel very patient-centered ... Rather than pushing back and saying, "I can't see this many patients,or I need to have ample time
When Doing Everything Becomes a Survival Strategy
Why the Strongest Person in the Room is Often the Most Exhausted “Overfunctioning is not your personality — it’s a patterned survival response. A fractal.” You’re Not Just Being Helpful — You’re Patterned to Hold It All Somewhere along the way, you…
Why the Strongest Person in the Room is Often the Most Exhausted “Overfunctioning is not your personality — it’s a patterned survival response. A fractal.” You’re Not Just Being Helpful — You’re Patterned to Hold It All Somewhere along the way, you…
When Doing Everything Becomes a Survival Strategy
Why the Strongest Person in the Room is Often the Most Exhausted “Overfunctioning is not your personality — it’s a patterned survival response. A fractal.” You’re Not Just Being Helpful — You’re Patterned to Hold It All Somewhere along the way, you became the one who holds everything together. You remember the birthdays. You schedule the appointments. You soften the conflict.
sydneyashland.com
October 30, 2025 at 4:50 PM
When Doing Everything Becomes a Survival Strategy
Why the Strongest Person in the Room is Often the Most Exhausted “Overfunctioning is not your personality — it’s a patterned survival response. A fractal.” You’re Not Just Being Helpful — You’re Patterned to Hold It All Somewhere along the way, you…
Why the Strongest Person in the Room is Often the Most Exhausted “Overfunctioning is not your personality — it’s a patterned survival response. A fractal.” You’re Not Just Being Helpful — You’re Patterned to Hold It All Somewhere along the way, you…
Is overfunctioning stepping up and taking the burden of additional tasks, chores, and responsibilities, as if you're the only person who is preventing the whole world from crumbling?
October 8, 2025 at 7:48 PM
Is overfunctioning stepping up and taking the burden of additional tasks, chores, and responsibilities, as if you're the only person who is preventing the whole world from crumbling?
Maybe healing is allowing ourselves to undissociate and stop overfunctioning to the point where we can see our problems clearly for the first time
October 8, 2025 at 3:34 PM
Maybe healing is allowing ourselves to undissociate and stop overfunctioning to the point where we can see our problems clearly for the first time
Fresh off the brain after a week brewing in the back of it.
This is for all those still learning they don't need to empty themselves to hold space for others.
#prose #poetry #cptsd #writingcommunity #writesky #familysystemstheory #emotionalcaretaking #overfunctioning
medium.com/@pounceswith...
This is for all those still learning they don't need to empty themselves to hold space for others.
#prose #poetry #cptsd #writingcommunity #writesky #familysystemstheory #emotionalcaretaking #overfunctioning
medium.com/@pounceswith...
Empty Bowl, Full of Fruit
The Over-Functioning Emotional Caretaker: Metaphorical Poem of How Taking on Other’s Burdens Can Become Your Main Identity
medium.com
October 5, 2025 at 9:55 PM
Fresh off the brain after a week brewing in the back of it.
This is for all those still learning they don't need to empty themselves to hold space for others.
#prose #poetry #cptsd #writingcommunity #writesky #familysystemstheory #emotionalcaretaking #overfunctioning
medium.com/@pounceswith...
This is for all those still learning they don't need to empty themselves to hold space for others.
#prose #poetry #cptsd #writingcommunity #writesky #familysystemstheory #emotionalcaretaking #overfunctioning
medium.com/@pounceswith...
This. It's very easy for us to end up overfunctioning in relationships if we do not keep ourselves in check
Shouout to all my givers.
Being a giver isn't the problem, unbalanced exchanges are.
Keep your generous heart. Just adjust who gets access to it.
Being a giver isn't the problem, unbalanced exchanges are.
Keep your generous heart. Just adjust who gets access to it.
October 3, 2025 at 12:15 PM
This. It's very easy for us to end up overfunctioning in relationships if we do not keep ourselves in check
Almost any form.
Black, sweetened, I don’t give a flying fuck. I just crave the energy good sleep can’t give me because I keep my brain overfunctioning lmao
Black, sweetened, I don’t give a flying fuck. I just crave the energy good sleep can’t give me because I keep my brain overfunctioning lmao
In honour of National Coffee Day... 😁
Really tho, how do you take yours?
As far as me..
youtu.be/9d9dMr-pP5E
Really tho, how do you take yours?
As far as me..
youtu.be/9d9dMr-pP5E
Dragon Age Veilguard - I prefer tea!
YouTube video by Fall Witch 1
youtu.be
September 30, 2025 at 4:44 PM
Almost any form.
Black, sweetened, I don’t give a flying fuck. I just crave the energy good sleep can’t give me because I keep my brain overfunctioning lmao
Black, sweetened, I don’t give a flying fuck. I just crave the energy good sleep can’t give me because I keep my brain overfunctioning lmao
During my chaplaincy residency, my history working in retail & other "if you can lean, you can clean" environments resulted in me taking on *way* too many patients & overfunctioning. My supervisor said "they don't pay you enough for all that" & priestboss said "let it be easy when it can"
September 1, 2025 at 3:56 PM
During my chaplaincy residency, my history working in retail & other "if you can lean, you can clean" environments resulted in me taking on *way* too many patients & overfunctioning. My supervisor said "they don't pay you enough for all that" & priestboss said "let it be easy when it can"
A child comes home feeling overwhelmed by school and frustrated that she is doing “all of the work” for a big group project that is due next week. The overfunctioning parent is ready with an array of next steps:
August 25, 2025 at 1:51 PM
A child comes home feeling overwhelmed by school and frustrated that she is doing “all of the work” for a big group project that is due next week. The overfunctioning parent is ready with an array of next steps:
#DearPerfectionist: You learned at an early age to please and perform and be perfect, in order to be cared for in the ways you needed. But here’s the thing… you deserved to be cared for AS IS, without all that overfunctioning.
August 22, 2025 at 10:18 PM
#DearPerfectionist: You learned at an early age to please and perform and be perfect, in order to be cared for in the ways you needed. But here’s the thing… you deserved to be cared for AS IS, without all that overfunctioning.
An excerpt from my latest Substack exploring perfectionism and the numbness created by overfunctioning. Check it out at open.substack.com/pub/ambersay...
#DearPerfectionist #TraumaRecovery
#DearPerfectionist #TraumaRecovery
August 21, 2025 at 4:34 AM
An excerpt from my latest Substack exploring perfectionism and the numbness created by overfunctioning. Check it out at open.substack.com/pub/ambersay...
#DearPerfectionist #TraumaRecovery
#DearPerfectionist #TraumaRecovery
I used to mistake overfunctioning for productivity, doing the most, all the time, for everyone. What actually moved me forward? Stopping the habit of jumping in before being asked and filling every gap out of guilt. When I gave that up, progress stopped feeling so heavy. #ReleaseTheOverfunction
August 14, 2025 at 1:01 PM
I used to mistake overfunctioning for productivity, doing the most, all the time, for everyone. What actually moved me forward? Stopping the habit of jumping in before being asked and filling every gap out of guilt. When I gave that up, progress stopped feeling so heavy. #ReleaseTheOverfunction
Female friendships were once shaped by urgency, competition and emotional overfunctioning. Now I see other women, like me, seeking gentler ways to connect, with room for clarity and calm. Post 40, friendship feels less like survival and more like a choice that honours who we’re becoming.
Female Friendship: The 40s Made Me Rethink Midlife & Misogyny
Female friendship is flattened by patriarchy’s demands. Post 40, I’m finding other women seeking mindful connection & the ability to moderate.
ramyapandyan.com
August 12, 2025 at 10:42 AM
Female friendships were once shaped by urgency, competition and emotional overfunctioning. Now I see other women, like me, seeking gentler ways to connect, with room for clarity and calm. Post 40, friendship feels less like survival and more like a choice that honours who we’re becoming.
Until I broke. Twice. 💥 ADHD + autistic burnout isn’t just fatigue.
It’s a tug-of-war between frantic overfunctioning and full-body collapse.
It’s a tug-of-war between frantic overfunctioning and full-body collapse.
August 11, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Until I broke. Twice. 💥 ADHD + autistic burnout isn’t just fatigue.
It’s a tug-of-war between frantic overfunctioning and full-body collapse.
It’s a tug-of-war between frantic overfunctioning and full-body collapse.
ok this sounds better than The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which in retrospect has the fatal flaw of presupposing only one partner has adhd, so it consistently calls for “more understanding” from the partner who is already overfunctioning
August 10, 2025 at 11:44 PM
ok this sounds better than The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which in retrospect has the fatal flaw of presupposing only one partner has adhd, so it consistently calls for “more understanding” from the partner who is already overfunctioning
Word of the Month: “Enough”
This month, try living like you're already enough. Not once the deck’s done. Not after inbox zero. Right now. Overfunctioning isn’t a badge. It’s a warning. The version of you that breathes? They build better.
#alignment
This month, try living like you're already enough. Not once the deck’s done. Not after inbox zero. Right now. Overfunctioning isn’t a badge. It’s a warning. The version of you that breathes? They build better.
#alignment
August 4, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Word of the Month: “Enough”
This month, try living like you're already enough. Not once the deck’s done. Not after inbox zero. Right now. Overfunctioning isn’t a badge. It’s a warning. The version of you that breathes? They build better.
#alignment
This month, try living like you're already enough. Not once the deck’s done. Not after inbox zero. Right now. Overfunctioning isn’t a badge. It’s a warning. The version of you that breathes? They build better.
#alignment
overfunctioning.
always being the one who holds space, manages the room, softens tone, or reads between everyone else’s silences before tending to my own.
sure it helped me stay safe, loved, or needed but it left my own needs unmet and my joy on pause.
always being the one who holds space, manages the room, softens tone, or reads between everyone else’s silences before tending to my own.
sure it helped me stay safe, loved, or needed but it left my own needs unmet and my joy on pause.
15. What is a part of your personality that was built for survival, not happiness?
July 31, 2025 at 1:51 PM
overfunctioning.
always being the one who holds space, manages the room, softens tone, or reads between everyone else’s silences before tending to my own.
sure it helped me stay safe, loved, or needed but it left my own needs unmet and my joy on pause.
always being the one who holds space, manages the room, softens tone, or reads between everyone else’s silences before tending to my own.
sure it helped me stay safe, loved, or needed but it left my own needs unmet and my joy on pause.
Oooooh Taylor…overfunctioning for her mom. This is so sad.
July 31, 2025 at 3:15 AM
Oooooh Taylor…overfunctioning for her mom. This is so sad.
Drawing a line between compassion and overfunctioning is difficult for the same kinds of people. But that’s one of the best kinds of boundary setting.
July 25, 2025 at 2:03 AM
Drawing a line between compassion and overfunctioning is difficult for the same kinds of people. But that’s one of the best kinds of boundary setting.
Boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re leadership infrastructure.
Edition 4 of REWIRED breaks down how overfunctioning quietly erodes trust, clarity, and performance.
📩 Read now: [http://bit.ly/44Uaqb2]
#Leadership #Burnout #Clarity #Boundaries
Edition 4 of REWIRED breaks down how overfunctioning quietly erodes trust, clarity, and performance.
📩 Read now: [http://bit.ly/44Uaqb2]
#Leadership #Burnout #Clarity #Boundaries
July 16, 2025 at 2:37 AM
Boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re leadership infrastructure.
Edition 4 of REWIRED breaks down how overfunctioning quietly erodes trust, clarity, and performance.
📩 Read now: [http://bit.ly/44Uaqb2]
#Leadership #Burnout #Clarity #Boundaries
Edition 4 of REWIRED breaks down how overfunctioning quietly erodes trust, clarity, and performance.
📩 Read now: [http://bit.ly/44Uaqb2]
#Leadership #Burnout #Clarity #Boundaries
Okay women/femme folx: I’m gonna need y’all to join me in unraveling the misogynistic BS telling us we gotta be all that & a bag of chips for everyone. This BS keeps us overfunctioning & exhausted, so we can’t connect to what we really want, which is often more peace, ease, & grace.
#MentalHealth
#MentalHealth
July 8, 2025 at 1:29 AM
Okay women/femme folx: I’m gonna need y’all to join me in unraveling the misogynistic BS telling us we gotta be all that & a bag of chips for everyone. This BS keeps us overfunctioning & exhausted, so we can’t connect to what we really want, which is often more peace, ease, & grace.
#MentalHealth
#MentalHealth
✨ NEW BLOG POST ✨
We break down the 3 hidden patterns that keep us stuck in emotional extremes:
1) Overfunctioning (“I’ve got this”) ↔ Collapse (“I can’t do anything”)
2) Emotional flooding ↔ Self-criticism for feeling
3) Living in chronic crisis ↔ Emotional avoidance and denial
#DBT #middlepath
We break down the 3 hidden patterns that keep us stuck in emotional extremes:
1) Overfunctioning (“I’ve got this”) ↔ Collapse (“I can’t do anything”)
2) Emotional flooding ↔ Self-criticism for feeling
3) Living in chronic crisis ↔ Emotional avoidance and denial
#DBT #middlepath
July 2, 2025 at 12:04 PM
✨ NEW BLOG POST ✨
We break down the 3 hidden patterns that keep us stuck in emotional extremes:
1) Overfunctioning (“I’ve got this”) ↔ Collapse (“I can’t do anything”)
2) Emotional flooding ↔ Self-criticism for feeling
3) Living in chronic crisis ↔ Emotional avoidance and denial
#DBT #middlepath
We break down the 3 hidden patterns that keep us stuck in emotional extremes:
1) Overfunctioning (“I’ve got this”) ↔ Collapse (“I can’t do anything”)
2) Emotional flooding ↔ Self-criticism for feeling
3) Living in chronic crisis ↔ Emotional avoidance and denial
#DBT #middlepath