That wiki is the rabbit hole I didn't know I needed.

When you are ready to move forward with the memoir, I am a book editor in real life and would be honored to work with you.

Many people are only familiar with “dissociation” as what they might call a “catatonic state” but is a

“disconnection between a person's thoughts, feelings, memories, and sense of self”

Daydreaming and Hyperfocus are literally forms of dissociation.

I have had a cleaning person since about 25 years ago when my teenager with long brown hair was somehow shedding around the house and I could not get her to clean it, of course. So to save our relationship I got a housekeeper. Very quickly it became mandatory. And they always become good friends!