Shadows of Control
@shadowsofcontrol.bsky.social
Writer, researcher, and survivor championing the fight against coercive control and domestic abuse. Freedom begins with awareness. https://shadowsofcontrol.substack.com/
November 13, 2025 at 12:29 AM
Anger is not the enemy. It’s a boundary signal. In abusive relationships, reclaiming your anger is reclaiming your power.
#TraumaHealing #SurvivorStrength
#TraumaHealing #SurvivorStrength
November 12, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Anger is not the enemy. It’s a boundary signal. In abusive relationships, reclaiming your anger is reclaiming your power.
#TraumaHealing #SurvivorStrength
#TraumaHealing #SurvivorStrength
Abuse teaches you to shrink. Healing teaches you to take up space again.
#HealingJourney
#HealingJourney
November 10, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Abuse teaches you to shrink. Healing teaches you to take up space again.
#HealingJourney
#HealingJourney
Coercive control robs survivors of autonomy. Leaving doesn’t instantly restore it—it takes time, courage, and rebuilding.
#CoerciveControl #HealingJourney
#CoerciveControl #HealingJourney
November 10, 2025 at 12:29 AM
Coercive control robs survivors of autonomy. Leaving doesn’t instantly restore it—it takes time, courage, and rebuilding.
#CoerciveControl #HealingJourney
#CoerciveControl #HealingJourney
You may have been controlled, but the power to reclaim your life still belongs to you.
#HealingJourney
#HealingJourney
November 9, 2025 at 1:02 PM
You may have been controlled, but the power to reclaim your life still belongs to you.
#HealingJourney
#HealingJourney
Abuse reshapes identity. Survivors often adapt just to stay safe—silencing themselves, shrinking down, losing who they once were.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
November 8, 2025 at 12:30 AM
Abuse reshapes identity. Survivors often adapt just to stay safe—silencing themselves, shrinking down, losing who they once were.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
Emotional and psychological abuse can strip away your sense of self long before physical violence is ever present.
#EmotionalAbuse #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#EmotionalAbuse #DomesticAbuseAwareness
November 7, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Emotional and psychological abuse can strip away your sense of self long before physical violence is ever present.
#EmotionalAbuse #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#EmotionalAbuse #DomesticAbuseAwareness
The good times are not proof it wasn’t abuse. They’re part of what keeps survivors stuck.
#traumabond #coercivecontrol
#traumabond #coercivecontrol
November 6, 2025 at 12:29 AM
The good times are not proof it wasn’t abuse. They’re part of what keeps survivors stuck.
#traumabond #coercivecontrol
#traumabond #coercivecontrol
Psychological abuse twists your reality until you question your own reactions more than the harm itself. #Gaslighting #PsychologicalAbuse
November 5, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Psychological abuse twists your reality until you question your own reactions more than the harm itself. #Gaslighting #PsychologicalAbuse
Public charm is not proof of private kindness. Many abusers protect their image while harming those closest to them.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
November 3, 2025 at 1:02 PM
Public charm is not proof of private kindness. Many abusers protect their image while harming those closest to them.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
It’s a tactic called projection. They shift the blame onto you to avoid accountability and keep control.
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
November 3, 2025 at 12:29 AM
It’s a tactic called projection. They shift the blame onto you to avoid accountability and keep control.
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
The rules were never meant to be fair. They were meant to keep you off-balance.
#DoubleStandards #CoerciveControl
#DoubleStandards #CoerciveControl
November 2, 2025 at 1:02 PM
The rules were never meant to be fair. They were meant to keep you off-balance.
#DoubleStandards #CoerciveControl
#DoubleStandards #CoerciveControl
Coercive control isn’t always loud or direct.
Sometimes, it works through pressure, intimidation, and fear.
#CoerciveControl
Sometimes, it works through pressure, intimidation, and fear.
#CoerciveControl
October 31, 2025 at 11:30 PM
Coercive control isn’t always loud or direct.
Sometimes, it works through pressure, intimidation, and fear.
#CoerciveControl
Sometimes, it works through pressure, intimidation, and fear.
#CoerciveControl
Narrative control is a core tactic in coercive abuse. It’s how abusers discredit victims, rewrite history, and make themselves look like the victim.
#NarrativeControl #GaslightingAwareness
#NarrativeControl #GaslightingAwareness
October 31, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Narrative control is a core tactic in coercive abuse. It’s how abusers discredit victims, rewrite history, and make themselves look like the victim.
#NarrativeControl #GaslightingAwareness
#NarrativeControl #GaslightingAwareness
Abusers will erode your identity until you don’t recognise yourself anymore.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
October 29, 2025 at 11:32 PM
Abusers will erode your identity until you don’t recognise yourself anymore.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
Abuse is often hidden behind charm, charisma, or social respectability. That’s what makes it so hard to spot—and so easy to dismiss.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
October 29, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Abuse is often hidden behind charm, charisma, or social respectability. That’s what makes it so hard to spot—and so easy to dismiss.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
Abusers don’t only attack your flaws. They come for your strengths, your achievements, and your joy because it threatens their control.
#EmotionalAbuse
#EmotionalAbuse
October 27, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Abusers don’t only attack your flaws. They come for your strengths, your achievements, and your joy because it threatens their control.
#EmotionalAbuse
#EmotionalAbuse
They chip away at your strengths, because they don't want you empowered - they want you dependent.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
October 26, 2025 at 11:29 PM
They chip away at your strengths, because they don't want you empowered - they want you dependent.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
#DomesticAbuseAwareness
Abusers isolate slowly and strategically. The goal is to remove your support system so you feel like you have no way out.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
October 26, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Abusers isolate slowly and strategically. The goal is to remove your support system so you feel like you have no way out.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
Real freedom means autonomy, not just surviving harm. Survivors deserve to feel safe enough to make decisions without fear or control.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness #FreedomToChoose
#DomesticAbuseAwareness #FreedomToChoose
October 24, 2025 at 11:30 PM
Real freedom means autonomy, not just surviving harm. Survivors deserve to feel safe enough to make decisions without fear or control.
#DomesticAbuseAwareness #FreedomToChoose
#DomesticAbuseAwareness #FreedomToChoose
It’s never your fault. Gaslighting is designed to confuse, destabilize, and keep you trapped in a cycle of self-doubt.
#Gaslighting #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#Gaslighting #DomesticAbuseAwareness
October 24, 2025 at 12:02 PM
It’s never your fault. Gaslighting is designed to confuse, destabilize, and keep you trapped in a cycle of self-doubt.
#Gaslighting #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#Gaslighting #DomesticAbuseAwareness
If it feels like a fairytale from day one, pause.
Abusers often lead with intensity, not intimacy.
Fast affection can be a red flag, not a soulmate.
#CoerciveControl
Abusers often lead with intensity, not intimacy.
Fast affection can be a red flag, not a soulmate.
#CoerciveControl
October 22, 2025 at 12:02 PM
If it feels like a fairytale from day one, pause.
Abusers often lead with intensity, not intimacy.
Fast affection can be a red flag, not a soulmate.
#CoerciveControl
Abusers often lead with intensity, not intimacy.
Fast affection can be a red flag, not a soulmate.
#CoerciveControl
Excessive charm, gifts, and affection early on can be a manipulation tactic. It’s how abusers hook you emotionally before the control begins.
#LoveBombing #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#LoveBombing #DomesticAbuseAwareness
October 20, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Excessive charm, gifts, and affection early on can be a manipulation tactic. It’s how abusers hook you emotionally before the control begins.
#LoveBombing #DomesticAbuseAwareness
#LoveBombing #DomesticAbuseAwareness
“I’m just looking out for you” can be the opening line to a slow takeover of your life. Control disguised as protection is still control.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
October 19, 2025 at 11:29 PM
“I’m just looking out for you” can be the opening line to a slow takeover of your life. Control disguised as protection is still control.
#CoerciveControl
#CoerciveControl
Many survivors only recognize the abuse after they’ve left. That moment of clarity can change everything.
#coercivecontrol #survivorstories
#coercivecontrol #survivorstories
October 19, 2025 at 12:02 PM
Many survivors only recognize the abuse after they’ve left. That moment of clarity can change everything.
#coercivecontrol #survivorstories
#coercivecontrol #survivorstories