Journey of a Survivor
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Survivor of longterm spousal abuse who’s learning to recognize & reject abusive patterns, becoming stronger, more independent, & impossible to control!
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Let’s leave the past behind us and look expectantly toward the future!! Today is a new day!!
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Standing up for yourself does not equal "unkind." Setting boundaries does not equal "unkind."
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
July 12, 2025 at 7:09 PM
Standing up for yourself does not equal "unkind." Setting boundaries does not equal "unkind."
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
In relationships that value authenticity-- which are the only relationships worth deeply investing in-- it's actually EXTREMELY kind to be clear & consistent about limits & needs.
It’s not about me.
July 6, 2025 at 4:45 PM
It’s not about me.
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How do I help my daughter see that a guy that likes her enough to make out with her consistently over the last year but not enough to call her his girlfriend is just using her? Telling her does nothing. 😩 She’s worth so much more than that.💔
June 9, 2025 at 6:45 PM
How do I help my daughter see that a guy that likes her enough to make out with her consistently over the last year but not enough to call her his girlfriend is just using her? Telling her does nothing. 😩 She’s worth so much more than that.💔
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Thinking about what it means to be SEEN.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
June 5, 2025 at 1:25 PM
Thinking about what it means to be SEEN.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
- to be understood
- to be represented accurately
- to be embraced and acknowledged
To be seen is to be loved.
And we can't see what we hide or ignore.
This is why representation matters.
We're teaching each other to SEE.
We're teaching each other to LOVE.
Ice cream for supper? Yes please!!
May 31, 2025 at 1:38 AM
Ice cream for supper? Yes please!!
The more people I get to “know”, the more I wonder if we can ever truly “know” anyone. I mean if my husband (I married the “nice” guy) could see me daily and deceive me for 15 yrs and then convince me his abuse was all my fault… smh
May 30, 2025 at 10:15 PM
The more people I get to “know”, the more I wonder if we can ever truly “know” anyone. I mean if my husband (I married the “nice” guy) could see me daily and deceive me for 15 yrs and then convince me his abuse was all my fault… smh
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I'm slowly feeling more like my self with each day that passes. Catching up on fasting that I couldn't do while I was in the states for that month is helping (too many appointments over meals to block one day off each week).
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
May 30, 2025 at 6:05 PM
I'm slowly feeling more like my self with each day that passes. Catching up on fasting that I couldn't do while I was in the states for that month is helping (too many appointments over meals to block one day off each week).
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
Fasting folks, it's good for your mind, body, and soul.
I have a friend who is struggling with anxiety, so I was going to text her and let her know that I was praying for her, hoping today was a better day. And now, after thinking about my friend with her anxiety and wondering what solutions there might be for her, I am feeling really anxious myself. 😩
May 30, 2025 at 12:03 PM
I have a friend who is struggling with anxiety, so I was going to text her and let her know that I was praying for her, hoping today was a better day. And now, after thinking about my friend with her anxiety and wondering what solutions there might be for her, I am feeling really anxious myself. 😩
Safety is everything in every kind of relationship.
May 30, 2025 at 10:26 AM
Safety is everything in every kind of relationship.
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When in doubt, always choose YOUR memory, YOUR perception, YOUR beliefs!
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
#gaslighting #emotionalabuse
May 30, 2025 at 2:20 AM
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Do you find yourself needing wisdom? That’s where I seem to live. Here’s some encouragement.
www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
May 29, 2025 at 11:53 PM
Do you find yourself needing wisdom? That’s where I seem to live. Here’s some encouragement.
www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
Love people while you can. We aren’t promised tomorrow.
May 28, 2025 at 8:09 AM
Love people while you can. We aren’t promised tomorrow.
I talked to a teen today who had posted a questionable message on social media that made me worry for her safety. She assured me she was just fine and seemed really appreciative of my concern. Just a little reminder, if you notice someone acting off, reach out. Better safe…
May 27, 2025 at 11:10 PM
I talked to a teen today who had posted a questionable message on social media that made me worry for her safety. She assured me she was just fine and seemed really appreciative of my concern. Just a little reminder, if you notice someone acting off, reach out. Better safe…
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Meaningful May - Day 27: Focus on how your actions make a difference for others actionforhappiness.org/meaningful-may #MeaningfulMay
May 27, 2025 at 6:44 AM
Meaningful May - Day 27: Focus on how your actions make a difference for others actionforhappiness.org/meaningful-may #MeaningfulMay
This was a fitting reminder as I was getting ready to run this morning! The Bible app is really great. It has a verse of the day, devotional & space to record prayer requests & praises. 5 stars highly recommend!! www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
May 27, 2025 at 10:16 PM
This was a fitting reminder as I was getting ready to run this morning! The Bible app is really great. It has a verse of the day, devotional & space to record prayer requests & praises. 5 stars highly recommend!! www.bible.com/en/videos/49...
My abuser highlights struggles that OUR children are having currently & blames me for them saying that a broken home is causing the struggles while conveniently ignoring the effects that years of witnessing their father abuse their mother might’ve had on them.
May 27, 2025 at 10:13 PM
My abuser highlights struggles that OUR children are having currently & blames me for them saying that a broken home is causing the struggles while conveniently ignoring the effects that years of witnessing their father abuse their mother might’ve had on them.
I haven’t felt this low in awhile. There’s peace in pretending the problems don’t exist, but sitting in the reality of the problems is pretty heavy.
May 24, 2025 at 1:51 AM
I haven’t felt this low in awhile. There’s peace in pretending the problems don’t exist, but sitting in the reality of the problems is pretty heavy.
My abuser once told me that I could be replaced with a maid and a restaurant. I wonder how that’s going for him. 🤣 Seems like maybe not so well seeing how he repeatedly comes to me bawling telling me how I’ve ruined his life. Same old, baby. It’s always my fault. ✌️
May 20, 2025 at 12:40 PM
My abuser once told me that I could be replaced with a maid and a restaurant. I wonder how that’s going for him. 🤣 Seems like maybe not so well seeing how he repeatedly comes to me bawling telling me how I’ve ruined his life. Same old, baby. It’s always my fault. ✌️
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When affection is withheld as a means of control, it can have a lasting emotional impact. Learn how abusers manipulate warmth and intimacy to create dependency and maintain power. #EmotionalAbuse
How Abusers Withhold Affection to Maintain Control
Withholding affection is a subtle but damaging practice, which when used intentionally and consistently, is a form of emotional abuse.
shadowsofcontrol.com
May 18, 2025 at 8:03 PM
When affection is withheld as a means of control, it can have a lasting emotional impact. Learn how abusers manipulate warmth and intimacy to create dependency and maintain power. #EmotionalAbuse
Watching Pride and Prejudice-again. Why do I love this movie so much??
May 20, 2025 at 12:49 AM
Watching Pride and Prejudice-again. Why do I love this movie so much??