But ya looks like good soup. The first and hardest lesson to learn for budding smut writers, or people who just want a sex scene, is that sex IS cringe. It is embarrassing, and messy, and it'll make you say wacky shit.

But you cannot fuck ironically. So when you write sex, you MUST be earnest.

That internal conflict about their own feelings/values that gets them out of character sometimes

I still care but it's better pretending I don't