That’s an actual book: m.media-amazon.com/images/I/817...

Halle Berry in one of her earliest big projects. I don’t remember it fully, but it was very real. irs.www.warnerbros.com/keyart-jpeg/...

The conformer knows that safety, money, access, employment, standing hinges on their ability to fall in line (just like it did in their household) and the challenger knows the way things are can hurt people that they know and love and that conformity can be dangerous.

When someone with a “challenge the system when it needs to be challenged” mentality meets someone with a “conform to the system for safety, comfort etc.” mentality; they will clash.

What they get is a complete different mentality because skills needed to survive as a minority are different. Bucking up against authority to get your civil rights, or history acknowledged and valued is a given. To quote “The Color Purple”: “All my life, I had to fight.”

And the assumption is in order to reach my level, you must have had the same background and honed the same survival skills that I did. They think they are hiring a version of themselves in a different hue.

The organization is trying meet the moment and go along with this “new trend” of getting people of diverse backgrounds in their organization. But in order for that to work they have to find someone who “gets their work culture”.

“this could apply in and beyond the family. This could be happening in the workplace. This could be happening in your group of friends. This could be happening in your neighborhood.” medium.com/@OwnYourReal...

These are the refined and honed skills that have been necessary for survival because they saw how “The scapegoat” was punished/abandoned/kicked out for not toeing the line. The threat of being ostracized is real.

I need you see how these two charts are related. imagine “The Enabler” or “The Golden Child” in the Narcisstic Family gets job at “The Organization”. Their most fundamental survival skills are 1) knowing go along to get along and 2) appeasing the person in power.

When they learn that there is no safety in enabling abusers, but being that that’s how many of their families, communities and churches are structured, that would require them to rewire their entire relationship and understanding of power.

People: So why are monster romances such a big market?

Fans: So hear me out:

All of this characters were voiced by Tim Curry.

The Big Organ
The Big Stingray
The Big Dragon Daddy
The Big Smokey villain is literal toxicity.

90’s kids, there’s a reason you are they way you are… and that reason is Tim Curry.