I mean, I thought it sounded like qanon and was written for the ammosexuals. And I refuse to read it on those credentials alone but…the criminals all Mexican, too? 😬

And only an unserious moron would say that behavior or imagery invited Sean Penn to beat her.

Dear Christ on a bicycle. Again, they bring up context but have to divorce it from a million other contexts to make the point.

Our discomfort is the art. Their control over it may be their healing.

Adding, Rihanna not too long after Chris Brown’s abuse sang “I love the way you lie,” “S&M,” and was in a music video depicting a toxic romance with a Chris Brown look alike.

Fka twigs has a man grab her buy the throat in her killer music video and she went through hell.

I was literally looking at the images when I couldn’t sleep this morning because I was cooking up thought about dv survivors and art and sexual submission. And it was with flipping vanilla ice.

The fuck?

And to return it back to Sabrina, if you’re analysis of the image has to be divorced from the lyrics of her album to work, (which Man Child and her artist brand clearly show tongue is in the cheek) then you’re robbing the artist—the woman—of her voice to make your point.

It feels like helicopter parenting of women. Because there are bad people out there, don’t pose suggestively, don’t be short (!), don’t curl your hair, don’t be blonde, don’t blush your cheeks.

Existing as a woman and performing femininity is complex. Yes, some of it is tied to patriarchy and capitalism. But I forever cling to the statement Contrapoints made that women in prison performed favors for men to get make-up; they didn’t get make-up to perform favors for men.

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills, honestly. When it was really in the algorithm, people were calling enjoying giving a man head “pick me” behavior.

And when we get into responsibility women have and performed gender, it edges, as you’ve pointed out, to rape apology. But also when we judge women for choosing to conform to beauty standards as “upholding patriarchy,” it starts sounding anti-trans. And I get real queasy.

*but perform gender play

It’s being presented as disrespect and irresponsibility to Cassie in the midst of the diddy trial and a way that yt women who conform to beauty standards claim they are empowered but gender play and get off upholding the patriarchy.

I’m trying to understand how choice feminism and sex positivity “failed us,” which is the direction the album cover has gone at threads.

And I can’t help but think it strawmans choice and sex positivity to some absolutist degree and then borders on if not courts rape apology and trans exclusion.