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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · 28d

No one loves to talk about polyamory more than the non non monogamous. And they repeat the same tired takes ::yawn::

Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 22

You shouldn’t have to apologize for being polyamorous. You shouldn’t have to give disclaimers when discussing the system of monogamy and mononormativity. Take up space. Don’t apologize for being here.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 22

You shouldn’t feel the need to tell someone who’s being hateful towards polyamory that “polyamory isn’t for everyone and monogamy is valid too.” You don’t have to validate the normative way of relating when they’re being negative.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 16

I was heavily taught about sex as a child - but only for reproduction. My mom was a labor and delivery RN so “where do babies come from” was such a natural convo. But sex for pleasure? Consent? Masturbation? Sexual orientation? Etc - NEVER!

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 13

I wrote on this a while back and I think I should do an update. I don’t just get the ick, I find it harmful. Sharing if you’d like to read. Seems as only relationships that don’t conform to a cisheteromononormative box are called a lifestyle.

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Stop Calling Polyamory a “Lifestyle” — An Open Letter to the Polyamorous Community

Why am I requesting polyamorous people to stop referring to polyamory as a lifestyle and why do I care? You may be wondering this among many other things or even ready to scroll away. To explain my…

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 9

Love this!!

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · May 9

Polyamorous people:

How does polyamory show up in your life in ways that have nothing to do with romantic/sexual partners? Or do you find it doesn’t apply outside of partnership?

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Ramona Quaxli, Guild Mistress of Polyamory @ramonaquaxli.bsky.social · May 9

The polyamory community centers heterosexual relationships far too often.

Yeah, I said it.

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Ramona Quaxli, Guild Mistress of Polyamory @ramonaquaxli.bsky.social · May 2

Heads up that @ayamisart.bsky.social has been removed from the Polyam Community Starter Pack because their current pinned post declares that they've been a psyop account to sew discord among Leftists. Their replies are full of racist shit, too.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 30

TLC is always going to show some drama so if I accept that it’s of course going to focus heavily on that, I think so far they’re showing good polyamory representation of how they appear in their own content and good rep of a quad.

#Polyfamily

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 30

I just finished the first episode of Polyfamily (no spoilers) and I feel good about it so far. I’m obviously going to be biased as someone in community with them and who has seen much of their content (as many of us have).

#Polyfamily #polyamory

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 26

I’ve been neglecting my Bluesky. Usually I post here whatever I post to threads, but sometimes I forget. I find myself still far more engaged over there. Don’t forget to check me out there too, plus IG and TikTok if you like video content.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 26

I don’t want to be anyone’s everything. I want partners to have a life outside of me. Have hobbies, have friends, have other partners, go on a vacation without me, go for a walk, make your own decisions.

#polyamory

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Ramona Quaxli, Guild Mistress of Polyamory @ramonaquaxli.bsky.social · Apr 26

#Polyamory Tip: Close friendships can take up emotional space that would otherwise go to partners. Consider your close friends when you're considering whether or not you're polysaturated!

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 18

They only care about themselves, no one else plus refuse to acknowledge their own behavior. “Love everybody” means only those they think deserve their love and they view trans people as beneath them.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 17

For a group of people who loves to scream “I could never be polyamorous, I don’t share!” they sure do love to share their opinions about polyamory

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shaka 🦁👑 @beejonson.me · Apr 17

People often forget colonialism didn’t just steal land—it also stole sexual autonomy. Christian missionaries criminalised polyamory, erased matriarchal systems, and forced monogamy to control inheritance and property.

The Spanish burned Indigenous erotic art & labelled Andean shamans “diabolical”.

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shaka 🦁👑 @beejonson.me · Apr 17

As an African decolonial socialist activist, I feel that there's a lot that folks in the nonwestern world need to decolonise, and sex and sexuality, are crucial parts of it. There's so much white Western colonial influence in nonwestern relationship with sex, relationships, etc.

Long 🧵

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 16

It was on TikTok. I can download but I think (I could be wrong) only downloads my posted videos and not include comments. If someone closes their account, comments disappear so that could impact it too. I wish I did a screen shot at the time but it wasn’t until far later I saw the full humor lol

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 15

The best comment I ever got on my social media is when someone told me I’m only polyamorous so I have ideas for content creation

It was a few years ago and I WISH I could find it!

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Briana Mills, LMFT ♿️🏳️‍🌈 @brianamillslmft.bsky.social · Apr 14

Just so you’re aware, if you wear glasses, that’s a mobility aid and you’re disabled. Glasses are just so normalized that most people don’t see it as such. Imagine if most mobility aids were that way. Imagine how much more respect disabled people would get. It’s completely possible.

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Fit check for my Hobbit era! @wylder.bsky.social · Apr 14

All Im gonna say on it is being polyamorous is no more my choice being asexual, being trans, or being demi-romantic.

Folks can choose not to be in a relationship with any sexuality. Like my partner & I choose to be only with one another.

We're both still poly & queer tho.

Sexuality isnt a choice.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 14

Yes, you’re the ONLY person left who is interested in monogamy. There are zero others and it’s the fault of all the polyamorous people on dating apps. So many have multiple partners and aren’t leaving any for the rest of you. Yes that’s it. We get it.

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Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 9

In the US, I highly doubt it. I believe there will be more and more US cities that begin to recognize multiple partnerships, but on a national level, no.

Andrea Peters @infinitepolyam.bsky.social · Apr 8

I get it and I don’t think that’s shallow. Maybe it’s part of wanting at least a few of those things in common with someone else or if they are super into a genre you despise, it can affect connection or even give an ick.

I’m sure there are many various reasons for different people.

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