Third, we hypothesized a “self-loss delusion” such that people higher in attachment avoidance would perceive self-loss that external metrics (outside the mind of the perceiver) would fail to detect. We find clear support even when using a range of external metrics (see Figure 8).

Second, we hypothesized that self-loss perceptions would mediate the negative association between avoidance and commitment. We do find evidence of this mediation cross-sectionally and longitudinally , even when controlling for intake commitment (see Figure 2).

I’m so excited to share our new paper in JPSP from me, @lydiaemery.bsky.social, @emmamcgorray.bsky.social, Wendi Gardner, & @elijfinkel.bsky.social! We find that avoidantly attached people report self-loss due to their relationship, but external metrics fail to detect such loss. tinyurl.com/yaztcjc2