wow wow wow. that is absolutely gorgeous

i KNOW that the best way we have to train an AI is to feed it mountains of data and tell it if it gives good responses about that data

thing is, i never agreed to be part of this. no matter how you feel about AI, it's wild that a broken service with reams of caveats reached the global consumer

i'm going to respectfully step back as this is leaning too far into non-autistic person questioning mass autistic experience, some of which are so prevalent they're diagnostic criteria in the UK and US

you will not understand it without climbing inside my head. the least you could do is believe us

ah! but you KNOW when you're saying too much. you can FEEL it. you can observe expression, body language, vibe, without trying

for an autistic, they have to learn that like it's from book, with varying degrees of success. it's those 'this is fine, UNLESS' clauses that creates a gulf between us

an unkind read of your post is 'i think this thing socially disabled people do because they're socially disabled makes them jerks'

but i think it's hard for autistic people to see this post and not feel that that's essentially what's being said.

if you don't like me and my vibe, cool! nowt i can do about that

but if we're getting along and there's something i do regularly enough that you will distance yourself from me rather than tell me, THEN you're an asshole

imo, neuroatypical people tend to be better at this sorta honesty

as i've explained, it may suck worse or be felt more intensely by an autistic person

and i didn't say 'autistic people prefer when someone tells them they dislike them'. i think neurotypical people are worse than autistic people at having upfront conversations about their discomfort. e.g....

this, paired with an autistic person's reduced social thinking speed and ability, and having little-to-no innate social understanding from birth, means people often just don't care to take time to meet in the middle. an autistic person's brain is fundamentally different. it's key to understand that

it's not. it's an autistic person who struggles to read and understand emotions (their own and others) using comparison to question or show their understanding

this is one of many reasons why it can feel like neurotypical people choose to have bad faith readings of neurodivergent socialising

autistic socialising features a lack of 'typical' reciprocity

e.g., many autistics (and neurodivergents) have a habit of responding to conversations with 'I experienced something that made me feel similarly'. a neurotypical person often reads that as someone trying to make a conversation about them

i think there's a fundamental misunderstanding - at least from an autistic perspective - that a lack of reciprocity means a lack of interest. i'm often very interested in what someone is telling me under the heading of small talk, but i struggle to find the right questions to ask to explore it more

maybe for a neurotypical person on the receiving end, it's no big deal

for an autistic person performing neurotypical socialisation as well as they can, it means they caused discomfort, and that the person they liked didn't like them enough to try telling them what they got wrong so they can fix it

it varies. in school, it's classic bullying and alienation. depending on the workplace, sometimes that's the experience for autistic adults, too

most often, people who used to hang out with you just don't want to anymore, and they slowly extract themselves from your life and don't tell you why

well done! ⭐

when i am cursed with the knowledge that i have a little stash of them ready to go, i must think about eating one maybe once an hour... at least? tempting little bastards

can't keep me off a boiled egg Farleigh. can sniff one out a mile off

a very good way to put it! i can't imagine what sort of limited worlds other people are living in :')

it's their 'recommendation'... but the one they display at reception, which happens to be MORE expensive, is the toothbrush i already own

so this is what i mean about being judged on my appearance... when i said i already owned the more expensive one, she goes '...oh!' and seemed a bit blindsided 🙃