I recognize that there are probably unflattering details I don't know about First Event and TCNE wrapped up in this boycott. I have no involvement with the board that runs it. But the experience of 5-year attendee is of beauty, positivity, and striving. It's been running over 40 years, starting as a crossdressers event (the first of the year, thus First Event) in a time when trans identities were deeply closeted and incredibly dangerous. TCNE once meant Tiffany Club of New England. Now it means Trans Club of New England. It hosts four generations trans people and allies, and it has lived as an event through unfathomable change in the experience of being transgender. It is (massively) disproportionately white, disproportionately monied, disproportionately transfeminine, and disproportionately aging. Its programming swings wildly from year to year based on what's on the mind of the volunteers who volunteer for programming. I'm sure some of the folks on the board are assholes. I'm sure some of the boycotters have good points on what should be done differently. But it has always strived to be better and more inclusive. There is a joy in all bodies and all identities that fills its space. And there is love for shellshocked cis partners of newly-out trans folks. So many fought for their marriages, winning or losing, that they want to do what they can to help someone else's marriage make it through. That meant, and still means, a lot to me. I'm in a place now to pay it forward, and I really try to do so.

I have had all of the emotions in day, and I am exhausted. I would like to break down how this year's First Event went. I have a long narrative in my head, but I don't think I'll make the space to write it. So here are the bullet points for Saturday: - Arrived in time for the couple's roundtable run by the support group we've been involved with for the last ~2 years. It was lovely. - Spent about a 1.5-hour lunch chatting in a little alcove with a couple from the support group. We covered a lot of ground about our lives, and I felt very connected. - Learned that the attendance of the conference seemed small this year because it was: There was a massive boycott going on. Heather ran into a couple of protestors at the hotel and asked what they were upset about and got incoherent answers. I spent a chunk of the rest of the day trying to get some idea of what this conference, which has been a haven for me since Heather first came out, could have done (or failed to do) that would have been worth defanging one of the biggest, oldest trans conferences in this political climate. The best I could get was insufficient outreach to BIPOC trans folks and inadequate accommodation of disabled people. Aren't those ubiquitous problems of all things all the time? Why did it call for a boycott now? One TCNE member said accommodating the demands of the protest would have cost them $50k they didn't have. This seems to connect with a claim Heather heard from one of the protesters that TCNE had chosen too expensive a venue, and the money would have been better spent on diversity outreach. The venue is expensive because it's in the middle of Boston on top of a T stop. That decision was made for accessibility and because the conference was growing. It's also been at that exact venue for at least 3 years. Will there ever be a point in social justice where we spend more energy helping each other than eating each other? And also, there are hostile forces seeding conflict within us. The organization behind the 2017 women's march had devoured itself within 2 years, and we now know that the internal fighting was at least partially shaped by information manipulation by our adversaries. We are fucking chumps who never miss an opportunity to eat our own young. If we lose our Democracy, our rights, and our lives, people who think they are serving our interests by destroying our power structures in service to purity will be complicit in that end. - Cried a while. - Attended a presentation on theology of trans identity. Loved it. In question and answer, got a chance to vent about how hard inclusive churches are trying to be heard, but nobody hears us. I will go toe-to-toe on theology with any conservative Christian, and I am not afraid. They are winning the messaging war for reasons that have nothing to do with theology. - Ran into an acquaintance from the annual Purity Springs retreat who was here for the first time. Really bonded. She's a Ryan Laukat game fan too! Also, they're in the first year of transition, and her wife is having a really hard time. I tried to conjure up some wisdom to help. Exchanged contact info. I hope we can set up a double boardgame date sometime. Also, I was introduced to her as a man, and this was the first time I'd seen her present as a woman. She looked smashing and so comfortable in her skin. - The banquet food was quite exceptional. The Park Plaza hotel made some very good changes someplace since last I attended. - Shared the table with a young cis-trans couple. The cis woman had been at the theology talk and told me that she found my rant really meaningful. We talked seriously about doing some kind of religion roundtable next year. - The keynotes (there were four short speeches rather than a long one) were about this moment in the rights of trans folks from a variety of perspectives. Some of it was hard to hear. A lot of it was incredibly encouraging and uplifting at a time we needed to hear it. - Took the train home. OK, this was not that short. Trust me that it could have been a lot longer.

This is something that Facebook is good for. If I shut down my account, I have got to get all the kid anecdotes downloaded somewhere. Apparently on this day in 2022, @heather was not out on Facebook yet. There's been a lot going on in the last three years. Autumn: What's the bubonic plague? Terran: It was a plague in the Middle Ages that killed a third of Europe. Autumn: Wow! That's a lot of people! It's like a worse COVID! Terran: MUCH MUCH MUCH WORSE. Autumn: Were you alive during this? Terran: Uh

Hello, hello testing.

Today's best feedback, translated by Google from the original Ukrainian: "What the fuck did you do? Mit app inventor is fucking shit, there's no such thing, downgrade the interface and add hotkeys, fuck you whore, fuck"

Experimenting with remote posting from Friendica. Move along.

Hmm. So the Fediverse-Bluesky bridge seems to work for the most part, though some posts I should be seeing didn't make it through, and I'm not sure what the problem might be. The primary problem seems to be that it's so weird to ask folks to follow TWO accounts rather than one that almost nobody notices the second part of the request. OTOH, the remote-Bluesky plugin for Friendica seems to work very smoothly. Right now, I'm using that as a backup to read Bluesky posts and to comment, but I'm only posting through the bridge account. I think I will probably need to just give up the bridge and switch to remote management of an actual Bluesky account, but I feel bad asking so many people to follow it. 🙄 Also -- someone has my username on Bluesky. I have been using echoweaver for over TWENTY YEARS and it has NEVER been taken. I know intellectually that I don't own it, but it still bugs me to no end.

Today was the first day of my intermediate glassblowing class. I got to make a test bubble, a lumpy drinking glass, and a significantly less lumpy drinking glass. Exhausted and satisfied.

A bit ago, I heard an unusual rumble out on the street. It was like a low-flying aircraft out of Logan but not quite the right pitch. I looked up out of the window to see if there was a big truck rumbling down the street, but it was empty. Turns out it was an earthquake: earthquake.usgs.gov/earthquake…

This is by my therapist, Dr. Sebastian Barr. It's a reframing that I really needed to hear, and I think most of my friends need it too. Dr. Barr is an incredibly thoughtful man who I really wish I'd been seeing when Heather's transition was much more raw. (The first therapist I engaged with almost broke up our marriage. At some point I'll post about that.) He is proudly trans and also deeply compassion to cis anxiety around trans issues. All of that has absolutely nothing to do with the post I'm linking to, but I wanted to stick it in there anyway. "I’ve so strongly linked caring and fighting to feeling bad that my automatic response to feeling this good is that I’m doing something wrong." sebastianmbarr.substack.com/p/… [/url]

I haven't killed my account over there or anything. I'll probably keep it in a dormant state because there are just too many situations where I might need it. THAT SAID I don't even need to get on a high horse about ethics or the new administration to be bailing on Facebook. My feed there is a disaster. Half of it is groups I didn't follow. I don't know when they added that "feature." Before the election, those unfollowed group posts were inflammatory political crap. Now, they're mostly AI-generated fake images. And speaking of AI-generated fake images, I clicked ONE VIDEO on their video shorts and managed to train the algorithm that I want to see fake videos of AI-enlarged sea life. That's absurdly specific. How is that even a category? I get the argument that Facebook holds so many relationships that will be hard to keep up otherwise, but it's gotten so hard to find content from any of those relationships that I'm not sure the argument makes sense anymore

@mihrimah

Nerding about software configuration is one of my quirks, but I'm struck by how long it's been since I found anything related to social networking anything but depressing or threatening.

OK, so compatibility between Friendica/Mastodon/fediverse and Bluesky is not as straightforward as Friendica led me to believe. I think Friendica is a bit optimistic. HOWEVER, Lifehacker showed me the answer. If you would like to follow me from Bluesky, use: bsky.app/profile/echoweaver.kl… If you would like me to follow YOU from Bluesky, follow @api.brid.gy . Then let me know. Here is the documentation: fed.brid.gy/docs#bluesky-get-s…

This public post will hopefully show up through a fediverse-Bluesky bridge. My bridged Bluesky account should be: bsky.app/profile/echoweaver.kl…