Coach Ricky Vaughn
@coachrickvaughn.bsky.social
Talking queer sexual health, mental health, and everything in between.
https://linktr.ee/coachrickyvaughn
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I am taking new Texas clients for counseling/therapy! I’m offering my virtual appointments. You can DM me or call (214) 326-0737 to set up a consultation or appointment. I’m only able to do therapy with Texas folks at this time. I’d love to meet you!
November 21, 2025 at 3:46 AM
I am taking new Texas clients for counseling/therapy! I’m offering my virtual appointments. You can DM me or call (214) 326-0737 to set up a consultation or appointment. I’m only able to do therapy with Texas folks at this time. I’d love to meet you!
Sad to announce that there will be no more episodes of the Sex on the Couch podcast. It was fun while it lasted. Thanks for listening.
November 18, 2025 at 4:27 AM
Sad to announce that there will be no more episodes of the Sex on the Couch podcast. It was fun while it lasted. Thanks for listening.
Sometimes you fake it until you make it and that’s ok!
October 31, 2025 at 3:19 PM
Sometimes you fake it until you make it and that’s ok!
When I first came out, not long after the above picture was taken, I expected anger. I expected silence. And I got both. The phone stopped ringing for a while. I became something to be tolerated rather than embraced.
Read my latest substack The Ache of Almost Acceptance
Read my latest substack The Ache of Almost Acceptance
October 28, 2025 at 9:20 PM
When I first came out, not long after the above picture was taken, I expected anger. I expected silence. And I got both. The phone stopped ringing for a while. I became something to be tolerated rather than embraced.
Read my latest substack The Ache of Almost Acceptance
Read my latest substack The Ache of Almost Acceptance
In my latest substack post, I talk about my time in Portland at @coachkevmartin.bsky.social SHAMELESS retreat. It was magic and changed so much in such a short time. Check it out!
October 23, 2025 at 2:13 PM
In my latest substack post, I talk about my time in Portland at @coachkevmartin.bsky.social SHAMELESS retreat. It was magic and changed so much in such a short time. Check it out!
Y'all, my eating habits are ridiculous. I have a history of binge eating and extreme withholding of food. I told myself last night that I would get my shit together today. I had copious cups of coffee for breakfast and 2 chocolate bars for lunch. Not off to a strong start!
October 22, 2025 at 9:29 PM
Y'all, my eating habits are ridiculous. I have a history of binge eating and extreme withholding of food. I told myself last night that I would get my shit together today. I had copious cups of coffee for breakfast and 2 chocolate bars for lunch. Not off to a strong start!
Tired boy today! So grateful for this past week. Missing people already. Blessed to have people to miss. Love y’all!
October 13, 2025 at 3:33 PM
Tired boy today! So grateful for this past week. Missing people already. Blessed to have people to miss. Love y’all!
This week has been full of love, community, touch, growth, and magic. I’m so full of gratitude. Thank you Shameless boys, Coach Kev, Huna fam, and Lisset & Brittney! Y’all are beautiful humans! I love you all!
October 13, 2025 at 1:50 AM
This week has been full of love, community, touch, growth, and magic. I’m so full of gratitude. Thank you Shameless boys, Coach Kev, Huna fam, and Lisset & Brittney! Y’all are beautiful humans! I love you all!
We store trauma in our memory, in the depths of our unconscious and conscious spaces. We also store these in our bodies. The constant pain your shoulder, the incessant burn in your stomach, in may symptoms that mimic autoimmune disease, all can be somatic storage in your body. New Substack Post.
September 25, 2025 at 2:32 AM
We store trauma in our memory, in the depths of our unconscious and conscious spaces. We also store these in our bodies. The constant pain your shoulder, the incessant burn in your stomach, in may symptoms that mimic autoimmune disease, all can be somatic storage in your body. New Substack Post.
Got this fierce new sweater that I’m in love with. It’s 101 degrees in September, so not sure if I’m going to get to wear it. Lol
September 22, 2025 at 9:33 PM
Got this fierce new sweater that I’m in love with. It’s 101 degrees in September, so not sure if I’m going to get to wear it. Lol
I am really from the gut tired. Everyday is a new low to the depths of cruelty we encounter. I have been stuck. It is fucking overwhelming. If you are exhausted too, that is ok. We have been around since time began and we will come out of this still here and still fucking queer.
September 22, 2025 at 12:48 AM
I am really from the gut tired. Everyday is a new low to the depths of cruelty we encounter. I have been stuck. It is fucking overwhelming. If you are exhausted too, that is ok. We have been around since time began and we will come out of this still here and still fucking queer.
Happy Friday All! Much love to you as you go into the when! ❤️❤️❤️
September 12, 2025 at 4:42 PM
Happy Friday All! Much love to you as you go into the when! ❤️❤️❤️
I have worked with hundreds of queer folx in my career and this is a topic that comes up often. It is a thread that many of us share. It is a sign that we are growing and healing and one of my favorite things to talk through with folx.
September 12, 2025 at 4:37 PM
I have worked with hundreds of queer folx in my career and this is a topic that comes up often. It is a thread that many of us share. It is a sign that we are growing and healing and one of my favorite things to talk through with folx.
To say that we are in troubled times as a queer community would be an understatement. We wake up each day with more attacks. I often feel guilty when I share genuine laughter with a friend because there is work to do, but that laughter is also a bold statement that we are here and we are thriving.
September 4, 2025 at 7:38 PM
To say that we are in troubled times as a queer community would be an understatement. We wake up each day with more attacks. I often feel guilty when I share genuine laughter with a friend because there is work to do, but that laughter is also a bold statement that we are here and we are thriving.
This week I had the best time gabbing with @collidepress.com . Conversation with Clint is so easy and he gave such heart-felt responses. It is a gift to be in commmunity with him. Get to know him a little better here!
September 3, 2025 at 11:32 PM
This week I had the best time gabbing with @collidepress.com . Conversation with Clint is so easy and he gave such heart-felt responses. It is a gift to be in commmunity with him. Get to know him a little better here!
Sundays are my lonely day. It’s that day I notice most that I am single. It’s that day I realize most of the people in my life have partners/families. It is important I am intentional in setting up my week from a place of gratitude and not scarcity. Also, group meditation with good folx helps!
August 26, 2025 at 9:17 PM
Sundays are my lonely day. It’s that day I notice most that I am single. It’s that day I realize most of the people in my life have partners/families. It is important I am intentional in setting up my week from a place of gratitude and not scarcity. Also, group meditation with good folx helps!
For my second interview in my Affirming MH Care, I talk with @pdxlove2cuddle.bsky.social. He is someone who I can slip into the deepest conversation with so easily and who contains a deep wisdom about him. We talk music, life, growing up, & queer pop-culture. You will love him as much as I do!
August 25, 2025 at 3:44 AM
For my second interview in my Affirming MH Care, I talk with @pdxlove2cuddle.bsky.social. He is someone who I can slip into the deepest conversation with so easily and who contains a deep wisdom about him. We talk music, life, growing up, & queer pop-culture. You will love him as much as I do!
When you grow up with the secret many of us shared, the gay secret, you start the narrative early that we have be someone else to be good, even more, who you are is unsafe. We deserve to feel whole, to be fully ourselves, to be seen in all that we are. It’s we take our story back.
August 21, 2025 at 11:12 PM
When you grow up with the secret many of us shared, the gay secret, you start the narrative early that we have be someone else to be good, even more, who you are is unsafe. We deserve to feel whole, to be fully ourselves, to be seen in all that we are. It’s we take our story back.
I am doing a series of interviews around queer mental health with some of my fave gays. This first one is with my friend, coach, and mentor, @coachkevmartin.bsky.social . He is a huge source of inspiration and has been with me in some of my own dark moments. Read or watch!
August 16, 2025 at 5:09 AM
I am doing a series of interviews around queer mental health with some of my fave gays. This first one is with my friend, coach, and mentor, @coachkevmartin.bsky.social . He is a huge source of inspiration and has been with me in some of my own dark moments. Read or watch!
Queer-affirming mental health care can be lifesaving. It is a space where no masks are needed, and a person can show up fully themselves. In this Substack post I dive into what this looks like, its importance, and resources.
August 13, 2025 at 6:52 PM
Queer-affirming mental health care can be lifesaving. It is a space where no masks are needed, and a person can show up fully themselves. In this Substack post I dive into what this looks like, its importance, and resources.