Bethany J
@bethanyj.bsky.social
Museums, Egyptology, Archaeology.
Deconstructing Mormonism and looking for community.
Deconstructing Mormonism and looking for community.
If you're ever in the Seattle area, give a shout. I'll do the same if I'm ever in Minnesota ❤
November 28, 2025 at 2:20 AM
If you're ever in the Seattle area, give a shout. I'll do the same if I'm ever in Minnesota ❤
Thank you!
Love the idea as a spread with cheese and crackers
Love the idea as a spread with cheese and crackers
November 25, 2025 at 6:08 PM
Thank you!
Love the idea as a spread with cheese and crackers
Love the idea as a spread with cheese and crackers
I'm a sucker for the Charlie Brown holiday movies 😄
November 25, 2025 at 8:23 AM
I'm a sucker for the Charlie Brown holiday movies 😄
This sounds delicious!
Do you dice the apple?
(I'm blocked on the original post for some reason, so I'm not sure what context I'm missing, but this sounds like an amazing cranberry sauce!)
Do you dice the apple?
(I'm blocked on the original post for some reason, so I'm not sure what context I'm missing, but this sounds like an amazing cranberry sauce!)
November 25, 2025 at 8:16 AM
This sounds delicious!
Do you dice the apple?
(I'm blocked on the original post for some reason, so I'm not sure what context I'm missing, but this sounds like an amazing cranberry sauce!)
Do you dice the apple?
(I'm blocked on the original post for some reason, so I'm not sure what context I'm missing, but this sounds like an amazing cranberry sauce!)
That could definitely be a factor as well. And it's all related. Get people married and having kids as quickly as possible so they don't have time to question or look outside their bubble.
November 21, 2025 at 11:28 PM
That could definitely be a factor as well. And it's all related. Get people married and having kids as quickly as possible so they don't have time to question or look outside their bubble.
So much for GBH'S get an education stuff. It wasn't super helpful, but those breadcrumbs were better than the trash that came before about just being a mother and nothing else.
November 21, 2025 at 10:33 PM
So much for GBH'S get an education stuff. It wasn't super helpful, but those breadcrumbs were better than the trash that came before about just being a mother and nothing else.
I was on my mission when the age change happened. Everyone I talked to was thrilled. It's interesting to hear your perspective in contrast to those memories. And to think about what I've seen among sister missionaries in the last few years, which is that they typically haven't pursued education.
November 21, 2025 at 10:33 PM
I was on my mission when the age change happened. Everyone I talked to was thrilled. It's interesting to hear your perspective in contrast to those memories. And to think about what I've seen among sister missionaries in the last few years, which is that they typically haven't pursued education.
I wonder if this is a way to make women feel like they have gained lived experience, while still young, and simultaneously further indoctrinating them.
Obviously the patriarchal issues run throughout all of this, but I think the primary motivator is keeping women "happy" in the church.
Obviously the patriarchal issues run throughout all of this, but I think the primary motivator is keeping women "happy" in the church.
November 21, 2025 at 10:33 PM
I wonder if this is a way to make women feel like they have gained lived experience, while still young, and simultaneously further indoctrinating them.
Obviously the patriarchal issues run throughout all of this, but I think the primary motivator is keeping women "happy" in the church.
Obviously the patriarchal issues run throughout all of this, but I think the primary motivator is keeping women "happy" in the church.
I'm not sure what to think about this, but I'm thinking it's a retention issue with a heavy helping of patriarchy. I've noticed in exmo spaces there are often women who got married very young and had kids immediately who now feel robbed of other experiences (which is valid!)
November 21, 2025 at 10:33 PM
I'm not sure what to think about this, but I'm thinking it's a retention issue with a heavy helping of patriarchy. I've noticed in exmo spaces there are often women who got married very young and had kids immediately who now feel robbed of other experiences (which is valid!)
That's fair. I went to a grad school at a state university and rarely interacted with undergrads that weren't in the local ysa. BYU is different in that way. I still cannot fathom being in my late 20s and arguing with undergrads on twitter. But I guess that's why he is where he is and I'm not
November 4, 2025 at 2:10 AM
That's fair. I went to a grad school at a state university and rarely interacted with undergrads that weren't in the local ysa. BYU is different in that way. I still cannot fathom being in my late 20s and arguing with undergrads on twitter. But I guess that's why he is where he is and I'm not
I cannot imagine arguing with an undergrad after graduation. Especially multiple years after graduation
November 4, 2025 at 12:11 AM
I cannot imagine arguing with an undergrad after graduation. Especially multiple years after graduation
Given that his immediate reaction to finding my Twitter account was to tattle to BYU (a place I did not have affiliation with at the time and where I had graduated from 7 years earlier) I am not surprised at the skill issue
November 4, 2025 at 12:11 AM
Given that his immediate reaction to finding my Twitter account was to tattle to BYU (a place I did not have affiliation with at the time and where I had graduated from 7 years earlier) I am not surprised at the skill issue
Seems like a good reason to not be chill
Yeah, I saw his comment about that 🙄
Yeah, I saw his comment about that 🙄
November 3, 2025 at 11:58 PM
Seems like a good reason to not be chill
Yeah, I saw his comment about that 🙄
Yeah, I saw his comment about that 🙄
Yikes 😬
I'm glad I missed all of that (didn't start wading into exmo online spaces until 2022 ish), although I'm curious about Smoot's twitter meltdown. Especially since his post mentions Blaine who has always been a lovely person towards me
I'm glad I missed all of that (didn't start wading into exmo online spaces until 2022 ish), although I'm curious about Smoot's twitter meltdown. Especially since his post mentions Blaine who has always been a lovely person towards me
November 3, 2025 at 10:44 PM
Yikes 😬
I'm glad I missed all of that (didn't start wading into exmo online spaces until 2022 ish), although I'm curious about Smoot's twitter meltdown. Especially since his post mentions Blaine who has always been a lovely person towards me
I'm glad I missed all of that (didn't start wading into exmo online spaces until 2022 ish), although I'm curious about Smoot's twitter meltdown. Especially since his post mentions Blaine who has always been a lovely person towards me
Absolutely. What a perfect way to sum up years of angst
November 3, 2025 at 8:56 PM
Absolutely. What a perfect way to sum up years of angst
Reposted by Bethany J
The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.
November 3, 2025 at 8:49 PM
The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.
Me too. 😊 It's been a hard journey, but the relief that I no longer have to force things to make sense is worth it
November 3, 2025 at 8:40 PM
Me too. 😊 It's been a hard journey, but the relief that I no longer have to force things to make sense is worth it
When Stephen tried to throw me under the bus and I called him out for it he also apologized for "any misunderstanding." 🙄
November 3, 2025 at 8:20 PM
When Stephen tried to throw me under the bus and I called him out for it he also apologized for "any misunderstanding." 🙄
Can you say more about this video? I'm not familiar with it
November 3, 2025 at 8:18 PM
Can you say more about this video? I'm not familiar with it
Sounds like we're more or less on the same page, just extending the season in opposite directions.
As an adult I've only had artificial trees. Now that I'm back in the PNW I've thought about doing real trees again, but it's a lot of maintenance
As an adult I've only had artificial trees. Now that I'm back in the PNW I've thought about doing real trees again, but it's a lot of maintenance
November 3, 2025 at 4:18 PM
Sounds like we're more or less on the same page, just extending the season in opposite directions.
As an adult I've only had artificial trees. Now that I'm back in the PNW I've thought about doing real trees again, but it's a lot of maintenance
As an adult I've only had artificial trees. Now that I'm back in the PNW I've thought about doing real trees again, but it's a lot of maintenance
I usually leave Christmas up until mid-January. I like keeping things decorated through Orthodox Christmas on Jan 7 (I served in Russia and sort of adopted the tradition, although now that I'm not religious, I don't really do much other than use it as an excuse to keep the decorations up 😆)
November 3, 2025 at 4:12 PM
I usually leave Christmas up until mid-January. I like keeping things decorated through Orthodox Christmas on Jan 7 (I served in Russia and sort of adopted the tradition, although now that I'm not religious, I don't really do much other than use it as an excuse to keep the decorations up 😆)
That's fair. I have fall decorations that I like to keep up through Thanksgiving (mostly leaves and decorative pumpkins)
Growing up we always had live trees and I think that's a big part of it as well. Get the tree too early and it looks terrible by Christmas.
Growing up we always had live trees and I think that's a big part of it as well. Get the tree too early and it looks terrible by Christmas.
November 3, 2025 at 4:12 PM
That's fair. I have fall decorations that I like to keep up through Thanksgiving (mostly leaves and decorative pumpkins)
Growing up we always had live trees and I think that's a big part of it as well. Get the tree too early and it looks terrible by Christmas.
Growing up we always had live trees and I think that's a big part of it as well. Get the tree too early and it looks terrible by Christmas.
I won't yuck anyone's yum, but I am team day after Thanksgiving.
I'm a Thanksgiving baby and Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday so I don't want to skip over it. Plus I tend to extend Christmas into January when it's dark and miserable and three months of Christmas is too much for me 😂
I'm a Thanksgiving baby and Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday so I don't want to skip over it. Plus I tend to extend Christmas into January when it's dark and miserable and three months of Christmas is too much for me 😂
November 3, 2025 at 6:18 AM
I won't yuck anyone's yum, but I am team day after Thanksgiving.
I'm a Thanksgiving baby and Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday so I don't want to skip over it. Plus I tend to extend Christmas into January when it's dark and miserable and three months of Christmas is too much for me 😂
I'm a Thanksgiving baby and Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday so I don't want to skip over it. Plus I tend to extend Christmas into January when it's dark and miserable and three months of Christmas is too much for me 😂