MISTAKE: Assuming good moments mean conflict is ‘over’ instead of revisiting unresolved tension.
🔄 PIVOT: Check in. “I know we had a tough moment earlier. I want to make sure we’re really okay—can we talk?”

MISTAKE: Using sarcasm or passive-aggression instead of direct communication (“Oh sure, I love being ignored.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Speak the truth with kindness. “I feel hurt when I don’t get a response. Can we talk about this?”

MISTAKE: Letting stress turn you against each other instead of uniting you (“Why are you like this?” “You always do this!”)
🔄 PIVOT: Make it us vs. the problem. “This situation is hard on both of us. How can we move through it together?”

MISTAKE: Assuming your partner knows what you need instead of expressing it (“They should just get it by now.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Get specific. “I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’d love for you to hold me or listen without fixing right now.”

MISTAKE: Dismissing your partner’s emotions (“You’re overreacting.” “That’s not a big deal.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Validate before problem-solving. “I hear you. That sounds really hard. Do you want support or just to vent?”

I find it is so important that I protect my peace before bed and for a few hours after waking. If I am going to fight back I have to take care of me first.

I am so angry, sad, frustrated!!! People are dying!! This is so fucked up.

👋 hi and thank you!

Thank you!!