"A person might value vulnerable people in the abstract — or might even declare a strong commitment to justice — but very few people will sacrifice anything they truly value to correct an injustice that doesn’t involve them immediately and directly." www.nytimes.com/2024/12/15/o...

When we build on a foundation of deception it is no wonder we are robbed of the ability to trust and believe in others, for we are merely projecting our inner mindset as an interpretive filter.

If toxic family was your baseline for “normal” then you likely have a deeply ingrained habit of second-guessing yourself. Healthy holiday boundaries will look a little different in every situation. Here are some overall guidelines:

www.wildernesstowild.com/blog/how-to-...

“Don’t take marriage advice from divorced people.” You’ve probably heard the words or some variation of the same. It’s a common belief in Christian circles, that to divorce is to be biased against all relationships. Heres where we are wrong & how to do better
intentionaltoday.com/marriage-adv...

I remember the first coaching session I ever had...

It was during a dark and heavy season. I felt frozen in place yet simultaneously spiraling in that godawful Brain Fog Vortex where I desperately needed some outside clarity from someone who actually gets it.

IYKYK...

“We call the church a family. What kind of family do we want it to be? A healthy one where people find belonging + acceptance of their authentic selves? Or a dysfunctional one where people put on masks + pretend to be something they’re not, to fit in?”

emandmblog.substack.com/p/when-the-p...

It is not our job to compete with the other parent’s holiday plans.

It IS our job to manage ourselves so we model healthy coping skills to our kids (and still give our kids the best possible holiday memories in the process!!!!)

#holidaycoparenting #abusiveexes

People don’t talk enough about how separation or divorce can include being without your kids for the holidays.

It’s NORMAL to feel grief or anger.
It’s OKAY to feel a wide spectrum of emotions.
Its’s CRUCIAL to process those emotions well.

If this is you right now, you’re not alone. ❤️‍🩹

This is crucial to know for survivors of sexual abuse in California!!

Dear Younger Me,
I wish you knew when you were 18:
1) you aren’t broken, you’re autistic
2) you will find your people, eventually
3) gut instincts will save your life
4) you will know love
5) mistakes are redeemable
6) you’re gonna be okay ❤️‍🩹

Love,
Future Me

P.S. What would YOU tell 18yo you?

You deserve to be safe.

What we believe informs what we do.

Naturally, this also means that our beliefs about the character of God will have a direct and undeniable impact on what we believe about ourselves, and on how we treat others.

Repentance is when you change