Kim
@kimpenn.bsky.social
If you know me from the bad place you know what you're getting.
If you don't know me yet, I guess just ask and I'll probably tell you.
#adoptee
If you don't know me yet, I guess just ask and I'll probably tell you.
#adoptee
I hate showing weakness or asking for help so much that over the weekend I tried to tough out a broken wrist.
I feel like I've seen adoptees talk about this type of thing before, always pretending to be fine no matter what?
Or am I just a dumbass? :)
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I feel like I've seen adoptees talk about this type of thing before, always pretending to be fine no matter what?
Or am I just a dumbass? :)
🥚
February 19, 2025 at 1:05 AM
I hate showing weakness or asking for help so much that over the weekend I tried to tough out a broken wrist.
I feel like I've seen adoptees talk about this type of thing before, always pretending to be fine no matter what?
Or am I just a dumbass? :)
🥚
I feel like I've seen adoptees talk about this type of thing before, always pretending to be fine no matter what?
Or am I just a dumbass? :)
🥚
A fun game that I am participating in right now with my fellow New Englanders is that all of us are telling each other how cold it is outside, as though the person we're telling is living in some weird warm bubble and is unaware that it's cold outside.
We are all doing this. No one knows why.
We are all doing this. No one knows why.
January 24, 2025 at 1:28 AM
A fun game that I am participating in right now with my fellow New Englanders is that all of us are telling each other how cold it is outside, as though the person we're telling is living in some weird warm bubble and is unaware that it's cold outside.
We are all doing this. No one knows why.
We are all doing this. No one knows why.
Just want to acknowledge my #adoptee peeps and the fear and uncertainty I know so many of you are feeling today, and maybe every day for the next bit. I see you. I'm here. I love you.
January 21, 2025 at 5:48 PM
Just want to acknowledge my #adoptee peeps and the fear and uncertainty I know so many of you are feeling today, and maybe every day for the next bit. I see you. I'm here. I love you.
I wasn't "touched" by adoption so much as assaulted by it.
So many pretty phrases meant to deny the reality of the harm adoption can mean for #adoptees.
So many pretty phrases meant to deny the reality of the harm adoption can mean for #adoptees.
January 4, 2025 at 8:02 PM
I wasn't "touched" by adoption so much as assaulted by it.
So many pretty phrases meant to deny the reality of the harm adoption can mean for #adoptees.
So many pretty phrases meant to deny the reality of the harm adoption can mean for #adoptees.
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so many interesting comments and thoughts on my post saying buds should consider not coming up to strangers in marginalized groups and saying 'how are you a real person that actually exists?'. i will point out: despite my VERY gentle tone a few buds said i was having a 'meltdown' for even mentioning
January 1, 2025 at 4:51 PM
so many interesting comments and thoughts on my post saying buds should consider not coming up to strangers in marginalized groups and saying 'how are you a real person that actually exists?'. i will point out: despite my VERY gentle tone a few buds said i was having a 'meltdown' for even mentioning
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Oh I get this. I was cherished as a child, but I'm not sure I was ever fully loved and embraced for the person I am.
Things get weird in adoptive households as adoptees get older and grow into themselves. Most of the time these true selves are nothing like their parents
Things get weird in adoptive households as adoptees get older and grow into themselves. Most of the time these true selves are nothing like their parents
rather than being "loved," I was cherished as a much-needed commodity used to fill the gaping hole in the lives of infertile white jesus people
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why almost all children’s books i have seen about #adoption (which are mostly written by adopters) turn my stomach
December 4, 2024 at 3:03 PM
Oh I get this. I was cherished as a child, but I'm not sure I was ever fully loved and embraced for the person I am.
Things get weird in adoptive households as adoptees get older and grow into themselves. Most of the time these true selves are nothing like their parents
Things get weird in adoptive households as adoptees get older and grow into themselves. Most of the time these true selves are nothing like their parents
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rather than being "loved," I was cherished as a much-needed commodity used to fill the gaping hole in the lives of infertile white jesus people
1/2
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why almost all children’s books i have seen about #adoption (which are mostly written by adopters) turn my stomach
just don’t invoke the slogan “love is what makes a family” in connection with #adoption. If that slogan has any meaning, it refers to the reciprocity in the concept of chosen family.
Most adoptees never had a choice. There is no reciprocity when you’re trafficked as a baby.
Most adoptees never had a choice. There is no reciprocity when you’re trafficked as a baby.
December 4, 2024 at 2:57 PM
rather than being "loved," I was cherished as a much-needed commodity used to fill the gaping hole in the lives of infertile white jesus people
1/2
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I'm hanging out in an auto shop waiting room for my car to be ready and they have Bob Ross on the TV. It's the mellowest waiting room I've ever been in. :)
December 4, 2024 at 2:38 PM
I'm hanging out in an auto shop waiting room for my car to be ready and they have Bob Ross on the TV. It's the mellowest waiting room I've ever been in. :)
I almost cried this morning because I can't buy the brand of stuffing I always buy for the first time in my entire adult life and is that normal, do you think? To be emo about stuffing? OR is it just gonna be my first thanksgiving since my last parent figure passed and it's not about the stuffing...
November 26, 2024 at 11:45 PM
I almost cried this morning because I can't buy the brand of stuffing I always buy for the first time in my entire adult life and is that normal, do you think? To be emo about stuffing? OR is it just gonna be my first thanksgiving since my last parent figure passed and it's not about the stuffing...
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this isn’t rhetorical at all btw, if you’re not adopted and have zero connection to an adopted person…like what is the baseline knowledge of adoption? has anyone ever taught you anything about it at any point in your life? i don’t remember it ever being brought up in school outside of religious ed.
I genuinely wonder all the time if the adoption industry propaganda is just that good and that strong with regard to why a lot of ostensible progressives can’t get their heads around this issue bc the only people I know who really “get it” on any level either are adopted or know adoptees.
November 21, 2024 at 6:38 PM
this isn’t rhetorical at all btw, if you’re not adopted and have zero connection to an adopted person…like what is the baseline knowledge of adoption? has anyone ever taught you anything about it at any point in your life? i don’t remember it ever being brought up in school outside of religious ed.
Intro deal - some random things about me:
I like beer but nothing with citra hops cause those smell like cat pee to me.
I read the first chapter of a book and then the last 10ish pages to make sure it comes out okay otherwise I won't finish it.
My head is never quiet. E V E R
:)
I like beer but nothing with citra hops cause those smell like cat pee to me.
I read the first chapter of a book and then the last 10ish pages to make sure it comes out okay otherwise I won't finish it.
My head is never quiet. E V E R
:)
November 21, 2024 at 3:14 AM
Intro deal - some random things about me:
I like beer but nothing with citra hops cause those smell like cat pee to me.
I read the first chapter of a book and then the last 10ish pages to make sure it comes out okay otherwise I won't finish it.
My head is never quiet. E V E R
:)
I like beer but nothing with citra hops cause those smell like cat pee to me.
I read the first chapter of a book and then the last 10ish pages to make sure it comes out okay otherwise I won't finish it.
My head is never quiet. E V E R
:)
I hope with all of my heart that "your" adoptee turns out just like me and finally finds the words to go with the feelings and starts letting them all the fuck out in whatever way they please without regard for how you feel about that.
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November 20, 2024 at 3:58 AM
I hope with all of my heart that "your" adoptee turns out just like me and finally finds the words to go with the feelings and starts letting them all the fuck out in whatever way they please without regard for how you feel about that.
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@babypanda.bsky.social @diaryofanadoptee.bsky.social @wordyramblings.bsky.social
HI, HI, HI GUESS WHAT, BLUESKY IS A THING THAT IS HAPPENING NOW SO COME BACK OKAY
HI, HI, HI GUESS WHAT, BLUESKY IS A THING THAT IS HAPPENING NOW SO COME BACK OKAY
November 20, 2024 at 2:10 AM
@babypanda.bsky.social @diaryofanadoptee.bsky.social @wordyramblings.bsky.social
HI, HI, HI GUESS WHAT, BLUESKY IS A THING THAT IS HAPPENING NOW SO COME BACK OKAY
HI, HI, HI GUESS WHAT, BLUESKY IS A THING THAT IS HAPPENING NOW SO COME BACK OKAY
Hi April I hope you also have a great week and definitely fuck adoption!!
Hi @kimpenn.bsky.social I hope you have a great week and fuck adoption 🥚
November 20, 2024 at 1:39 AM
Hi April I hope you also have a great week and definitely fuck adoption!!
#adoptee friends - April is here! Having some issues with the starter pack feed so give her a follow if you're so inclined!
Hello I have not used this platform in a long time. I just wanted to come on and say FUCK ADOPTION 🥰
November 20, 2024 at 1:14 AM
#adoptee friends - April is here! Having some issues with the starter pack feed so give her a follow if you're so inclined!
Thinking of how I want to use this space. Not a reinvention, but maybe just more like, what do I want to spend my time/energy on.
Just pondering.
Just pondering.
November 19, 2024 at 12:25 AM
Thinking of how I want to use this space. Not a reinvention, but maybe just more like, what do I want to spend my time/energy on.
Just pondering.
Just pondering.
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Hi!! I’m an immigration attorney who actually focuses on naturalization in my current role :) Denatz is a pretty complicated process and very fact based - my biggest advice is to get copies of A-files through FOIA request
November 18, 2024 at 9:05 PM
Hi!! I’m an immigration attorney who actually focuses on naturalization in my current role :) Denatz is a pretty complicated process and very fact based - my biggest advice is to get copies of A-files through FOIA request
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November 13, 2024 at 10:45 PM
I know someone who has chickens and they told me that they give their birds chicken bones as a treat and I haven't stopped thinking about that.
November 14, 2024 at 3:20 PM
I know someone who has chickens and they told me that they give their birds chicken bones as a treat and I haven't stopped thinking about that.
At some point I mostly gave up posting on my socials except to post pics of the beers was drinking. It's been nice, no one argued with me! But in practical terms it means my photos are mostly just beer pics. I'll need to work on that!
November 14, 2024 at 3:53 AM
At some point I mostly gave up posting on my socials except to post pics of the beers was drinking. It's been nice, no one argued with me! But in practical terms it means my photos are mostly just beer pics. I'll need to work on that!
I just now put something in my profile. It took me an hour and like, forty tries and that's where I landed because lately my head is just a swarm of random thoughts buzzing all around and I thought adult me would grow out of that but nope!
Anyway, hi! Nice to see/meet you!
❤️
Anyway, hi! Nice to see/meet you!
❤️
November 12, 2024 at 2:34 AM
I just now put something in my profile. It took me an hour and like, forty tries and that's where I landed because lately my head is just a swarm of random thoughts buzzing all around and I thought adult me would grow out of that but nope!
Anyway, hi! Nice to see/meet you!
❤️
Anyway, hi! Nice to see/meet you!
❤️
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I hope people here take a slightly different attitude to reposts here than on X. Since there is no always-functioning background algorithm to boost posts, reposts *are* how we circulate stuff (aside from specific feeds, which are organized around a shared interest).
November 10, 2024 at 8:57 PM
I hope people here take a slightly different attitude to reposts here than on X. Since there is no always-functioning background algorithm to boost posts, reposts *are* how we circulate stuff (aside from specific feeds, which are organized around a shared interest).
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Oct 30 is Adoptee Remembrance Day. you might not immediately understand why this is necessary, but studies have shown that adoptees are almost 4x more likely to die by suicide than nonadopted people. pls take a minute to think about the people we've lost and the ones who continue to suffer 💛 🥚
October 30, 2023 at 4:59 PM
Oct 30 is Adoptee Remembrance Day. you might not immediately understand why this is necessary, but studies have shown that adoptees are almost 4x more likely to die by suicide than nonadopted people. pls take a minute to think about the people we've lost and the ones who continue to suffer 💛 🥚